What is a Good Boy to you?

[Hi****]

I'm still fairly new to being a Sub. I've always been one at heart and just my overall demeanor. However, I always played the role of Dom to "perform." it has been so freeing expressing this side of me, so thank you all for that ❤️

To me, a good boy is obedient without hesitation. He's the perfect toy to use as you see fit. He trusts you entirely, knowing he's safe. He's secretly a filthy little boy who just wants to be used like a slut.

That's me though, what makes you want to call you sub a good boy?

[Lo****]

Well, kink is not inherently sexual, so I would strike the "filthy" and "toy" aspects, but overall that seems to fit well. Obedience is my favorite, but good varies depending on what I want from someone either in general or in that specific moment?

[Hi****]

Yes I have to admit I got caught up in the moment of describing it haha😅 My own personal tastes seem to have trickled out . That makes alot of sense, though, what you said. But that's what makes this world so beautiful, variety is the spice of life

[Ia****]

A "good boy" to me is someone who is obedient, respectful & loves to be used. But also is kind, thoughtful & has emotional intelligence. Someone who is willing to let people in. Because how can you build trust & a relationship with your submissive or dominant without letting them in?

[Ch****]

I’ve never had a good boy but I imagine if I did, he wouldn’t come with a list of fetishes but instead understood with the understanding that his main purpose is to please me. That may take many forms but none include violating his boundaries. He is to serve me in any consensual capacity whether it be sexual or non-sexual. And a good boy for me would be enthusiastic about providing that pleasure because it’s the avenue he used to derive the praise and validation he seeks 🤷🏽‍♀️

[Ch****]

couldn’t edit my post for grammar but i think the jist of it is hopefully understood 😂

[ey****]

On 9/14/2026 at 3:37 AM, HikingEnthusiast said:

To me, a good boy is obedient without hesitation. He's the perfect toy to use as you see fit. He trusts you entirely, knowing he's safe. He's secretly a filthy little boy who just wants to be used like a slut.

The kinda thing then is it is still about the subs wants. Which I'm not saying isn't important. 

What does said 'good boy' do when it's not sexual fun times? 

Is he proactive when *not* given instruction? Rather than being used, how does he make himself useful?

obvs it's a YMMV thing, but among anything else especially if you're new and especially looking at Femdom, how do you make this more than "what do I get out of this?" and being a sex toy, used, etc. is what you get out of it 

[Deleted Member]

All I want to do is please 🥺 I feel this 😭

[Sa****]

My submissive is very respectful, honest & obedient to His Goddess. I'm a Pleasure Dominant. I get Pleasure when I physically Please Him in the Playroom. He trusts that what I choose to do is what is best for Him. I call Him My Good Boy, after we Play & when He willingly obeys My Commands.

[Ju****]

Lowkey I’m a trans girl who likes to be misgendered in bed and called a good boy, so to me it’s about the thought of being denied as a woman and called names and humiliated. Which is weird because most of the time I top. So silly

[Be****]

My wife and I both love being good little sluts and do as we are told!!!

[Deleted Member]

Hey after reading everything about you I'd like to be able to talk to you

[Bluemagus]

There is a tension - though not a contradiction - between our use of the phrase "good boy", and the way the boys themselves may be used: sometimes any way you want, no matter how filthy or degrading. The subs actually need the tops, to give them permission to be as raunchy and filthy as they want to be, secretly or not so secretly. I'm a very good boy: see how obedient I am? I'll do anything you say...

[Sa****]

A Good Boy is a man who truly understands how to be submissive to his Dominant. He willingly, fully submits. He puts his trust in his Dominant. And She trusts him also. He doesn't submit whenever it's convenient for him. Making the dynamic, strictly about his pleasure. He understands that a dynamic is about two people. Their wants, needs & desires.