High Protocol

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What do we all think are the most important elements of High Protocol? I sometimes get asked about it on here and I’m interested to know thoughts.

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I love High Protocol and it's one of the main attractions of D/s to me as a submissive - I find a beauty in it, and it helps bring out my submissive mindset.
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Whilst I enjoy the physical elements of BDSM, adding ritual and protocol to them just enhances the whole experience.
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As for the most important elements, above all else is two people who are in agreement as to what High Protocol means to them - as it can vary from person to person, relationship to relationship.
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For me personally having structures and agreed rules in place are of importance and as I said bring out my submissive side.
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Things like not being able to speak, touch, move etc without permission, or having set positions to adopt, or ways of addressing a dominant are all key factors and part of what I consider high protocol, and things I find a comfort and beauty in.

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3 hours ago, SRL88 said:

What do we all think are the most important elements of High Protocol?

communicating with your partner on how you define high protocol. 

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Wow, I never really thought of High Protocol... But the idea is kind of thrilling and fun. You could even write it down and add a little ceremony.👀✨ Can someone give example rules for the high protocol?

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6 minutes ago, Nani_bun said:

Can someone give example rules for the high protocol?

Some example could include.

Only ever referring to their Dominant by a title. At all times.  Even in public. (the title can be Ma'am, Sir in vanilla settings)

Restricting when a submissive can speak during events
A submissive may request permission to speak, or may only speak to their dominant
A submissive may only kneel before their dominant or take another agreed-upon stance
A submissive may not be able to turn their back on their dominant 
A submissive may ask their dominant for permission to use the toilet
A submissive may only walk two paces behind their dominant 
A dominant may restrict eye contact
A submissive may perform services for their dominant, such as bringing them meals or cleaning the home
A dominant may do a full inspection of their submissive upon meeting (clothing, perfume, standing or sitting position etc.)
A submissive may need to be highly presentable at all times
A dominant may eat before their submissive is allowed to - a dominant may even dictate what the submissive eats

A submissive may not be permitted to use furniture (in private, or in kink events) or when permitted, must certainly give it up for any Dominant

A dominant may dictate the submissives clothing, or lack of

and, like, some of this doesn't work for Dominants and some could be 'not that one' from subs.   I'm aware of a Mistress who was really bored at a High Protocol event as her subs had to sit away from her and weren't allowed to speak.  

 

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1 hour ago, eyemblacksheep said:

Some example could include.

Only ever referring to their Dominant by a title. At all times.  Even in public. (the title can be Ma'am, Sir in vanilla settings)

Restricting when a submissive can speak during events
A submissive may request permission to speak, or may only speak to their dominant
A submissive may only kneel before their dominant or take another agreed-upon stance
A submissive may not be able to turn their back on their dominant 
A submissive may ask their dominant for permission to use the toilet
A submissive may only walk two paces behind their dominant 
A dominant may restrict eye contact
A submissive may perform services for their dominant, such as bringing them meals or cleaning the home
A dominant may do a full inspection of their submissive upon meeting (clothing, perfume, standing or sitting position etc.)
A submissive may need to be highly presentable at all times
A dominant may eat before their submissive is allowed to - a dominant may even dictate what the submissive eats

A submissive may not be permitted to use furniture (in private, or in kink events) or when permitted, must certainly give it up for any Dominant

A dominant may dictate the submissives clothing, or lack of

and, like, some of this doesn't work for Dominants and some could be 'not that one' from subs.   I'm aware of a Mistress who was really bored at a High Protocol event as her subs had to sit away from her and weren't allowed to speak.  

 

Oh my, thanks!

[MasterDarcy1979]

High protocol is akin to a symbolic chain on the collar.

Once the protocol is activated, it's like a firm tug on the chain.

An example would be, a word or a gesture (public or private) by the Dom and the sub would instantly fall in line and act in a way or indulge in an act or manner that's been agreed on prior.