Being Dominant, it means to crave something more profound on a psychological level, a cognitive level, and a visceral level stripping away pretense to a raw level like a sun inside of Me giving the POWER component of Domination. A human connection, fueled by a unique level of trust, a love for kink, a need to experience what an Alpha can do, the results of His means actions, and the experiential value that awakens both Master and slave within each of Us. The never-ending desire to explore what makes us human. I define a human as a being noble, as well as, animalistic based needs and desires that drive Us to need each other to see ourselves and what makes us tick.
You see, it’s a compulsion to control a submissive – but means so many things. I crave to guide, to teach, to be a Master, to see him dress how as I want, to fuck him as I want, to care for him in My way. It means being a teacher, a lover, a friend, a husband, soul mate, and a robust and powerful Man he can find extraordinary sexual experiences while feeling safe in My arms.
It is not just about a love for spanking, CBT, water sports, fisting, degradation, nipple clamps, bondage, and so on. It is about the desire to know the submissive in a way that no one has ever known him before. Think about what this means for a moment – to explore what makes him human, what makes him a submissive, what makes him NEED a Master as much as he needs to breath
It about reaching deep down within his psyche, finding what being a sub means or how that feels, and absorbing him, every part of his mind, body, and spirit. To free the slave, he is meant to be and give him value others have failed to do.
Where so many fail at this adventure is in the required reaching into Yourself at the same time to find why being a Master is the reactor that drives Your everything. Facing Yourself as a being that needs POWER and CONTROL. My warning to all be Dominants is to remember what the Greek and Roman gods knew oh so well; “Thou art a God because men believe in you and worship you. Otherwise, you are less than human.”
It is about taking all of what makes him and protecting it, like a knight, one that, in My case, has chinks in His armor from my battles with My Demons.
And just so I am clear, it is not about seeing a submissive purely as an object. Not for Me. I want to express to him every day how in My eyes, by My words, and in My actions, that he was worth being a slave, that recognize the gift he offers up to Me, and romance must play a part in what I give back least I devalue his being.
I have a fundamental need, not only to protect him but to know him beyond any capacity he or I have experienced. I have great affection for the basic notion that in worshipping him (yes, I mean worship because his worship of Me defines My state as Master and My worship of him defines his existence as a slave. Without the mutual feelings for each other, neither Master or slave can be just that), guiding him, protecting him, and to fulfill his destiny through my Dominance as the reciprocal gift I give. To let him feed off of Me to complete himself as he needs to without the certainty, he can never drain Me of what makes Me an Alpha.
It is about being an Alpha. I am an Alpha: I feel like an Alpha, I think as an Alpha, and I live as an Alpha. To society, I am exotic, and people want Me at their meetings, dinners, and parties. I dominate conversations at times, but not always. I lead at work as an owner or board member. I will lead him by the collar he wears and the cage that binds his dick. Down the road of this adventure, and if I complete My tasks, We will live in the minute, not the past or the illusion of future mists.
I do not want a regular relationship; I want the deeper feelings, the raw and intense encounters, the bond between Master and slave that comes with internal and external TRUST.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that what being Dominant means for Me is to explore my humanity and his humanity. To investigate why I am the way I am, to study why he has come to be what he is, and to live within a BDSM life, We define.
It is a symbiotic relationship with each other that communicates how he needs Me, and I need him. Without a Master/slave relationship, I’m edgy; I feel lost, I am angry too often and depressed. With it, I have balance and harmony. The Yin and Yang take their place inside of Me and him.


Desires and Fantasies
Owning a man so deep he is lost in Me and yet I reflect the best of him.