After reading some comments, let me also add: It doesn't have to be a word. It can be a phrase. A color. A hand signal. A number system. It doesn't matter. The sub (and Dom) has a right to end a scene if it makes them uncomfortable.

I would never ever ever feel comfortable playing with anyone without a safe word. It doesn't matter if we've been in a relationship or D/s dynamic for 20 years. It doesn't matter if my role is sub or Dom in that dynamic or scene, safe words are extremely important. Some of us are literally playing Read more… with fire - please don't be stupid. Frankly, not using safe words is such a giant red flag to me. I'm hesitant to even say it's okay if the sub is okay with it, because I know how some "Doms" can be so manipulative and sneaky. Idk man, not using safe words isn't something I can get behind no matter the reason.

I'm super new to this particular app/site, but I think I can safely say that it's like this everywhere. Especially if you're a sub in a kink-friendly space surrounded by "Doms" who can just slide right into your messages and start word-vomiting their fantasies all over you. It's a problem. There Read more… are many great kinksters out there though. You mainly just have to wade through all the shit, but the good people are out there.

I'm super new to this particular app/site, but I think I can safely say that it's like this everywhere. Especially if you're a sub in a kink-friendly space surrounded by "Doms" who can just slide right into your messages and start word-vomiting their fantasies all over you. It's a problem. There Read more… are many great kinksters out there though. You mainly just have to wade through all the shit, but the good people are out there.