I think this is accurate. Though from personal experience, I've only ever heard both of those phrases said by men. Sure, I've heard women say that size doesn't matter, but the qualifier statement usually isn't that "its how you use it" but how the guy makes her feel. (He still is attentive and Read more… pays attention to what makes them feel uncomfortable, he is sweet to me in a way they haven't felt before) things that usually go deeper than just sex and actually describe being intimate. But I have seen men roll their eyes at that kind of answer so I think we have a way deeper issue of men being socially trained to always be useful or to provide in order to even have access to intimacy when really the toll of intimacy should just be evaluation of the person's character. This should be across all genders.

I've felt so mad planning a super cute outfit and finding out that none of the layers have pockets. Talk about ***ED!! I've been fortunate enough that I tend to travel with either a backpack or a person who "has the pockets" but I would take over the world if I could have cute outfits and pockets 😭

:1788898192,828017, Ummmm, slavery could be a huge factor...? 🤦🏾‍♂️

I don't disagree that the trauma and connotations are still there. I do always feel like that is always going to be a factor though. Especially since I always see race Read more… fetishizing black men as a bull which also has mandingo connotations to slavery.

There is a difference between offering someone Submission because you trust the person to be "in control" vs being used as an object for sexual gratification. I think giving some room to talk about how both of those impact kink in black spaces deserve a platform to fully be discussed.

Leaving comment because I am invested in this too.

I rarely have the fortune of finding local black men who are submissive. Or at least to closely align with the type of relationship I am seeking for long term. I know they exist obviously just very sad that its so rare to come across.

:1788649659,5151838, 90% of the women dont have bios on here either so are they time wasters too?

The op already disclosed that she is seeking men so the profiles that get shown to her are men. Also that ANYONE who has zero information Read more… in their profile are time wasters.

Agreed. I think because the nature of the app, most people think "its just sex so why fill out a profile about me" even though really one bad partner can lead to years of trauma so people who can't be bothered with at least some detail about themselves on their profile of what they are looking for Read more… are immediately suspicious for me. I can forgive a no face profile only cause people have actual lives to live, but at least give me something so I can make the decision to engage with some informed consent on my part. Or what is worse, they express being dominant in their profile and beg for submission in inbox messages.

You should congratulate yourself. Emotional and mental safety are always the prime directive and you didn't abandon yourself just to have connection. Great job! 💜

I used it back in 2020/2021. It was super helpful when I had multiple partners to keep tabs on and making specific to do tasks and rewards. I know they are on a subscription plan system now so I can not speak on if the pricing is fair, but the tool itself is super helpful from the domme perspective.

Absolutely, Morticia. The cartoon series heavily suggested Gomez was a masochist and loved being put on the rack.... yes I watched that as a kid... that explains a lot about me now..

People that put their arm on the opposite seat to put the car in reverse to look back.
Leaning in to lower themselves when they talk to me especially when they are tilting their ear my direction to hear better.
A well timed "yes, ma'am" in a completely normal situation.