If you have reasonable confidence go to a munch. If you are a little less confident go to a rope workshop and learn rope skills - it will give you anything to do.
If you don't pick up partners easily go online and learn some pickup - it isn't necessarily sleazy if you are selective . Mostly it's Read more… about appreciating women's actual needs and projecting real yourself in a way that feels safe but it's also interesting.
The other half of it is learning to actual BE the person you could be. And building a life outside of kink you actually feel enthusiastic about. David Goggins perhaps
Kessia Noble is one coach but there are millions of them.

Some inspiring suggestions and nicely put.

Actually it had all ended pretty happily: Now in a functional happy relationship. More or less. We do have our bad moments. But not many. Good communication, kindness etc.

People with trauma are often wanting warmth, just looking for it in the wrong places. Dysfunctional relationships often bring a kind of warmth, even if it is messed up. I split up from a complicated and dysfunctional lady (not necessarily a bad person, but bad for me).
Afterwards I missed the Read more… drama of the heartache. Feeling pain was in some ways more warm and less lonely than feeling nothing.

Very thoughtful and accurate to how it is for many of us.

Restrained elegance is nice, yes.

Thanks. If anyone can make the lockdown sexy it is us. Other innovations include: holding opposite ends of a 2m stick on walks, in lieu of holding hands, Kissing with her car window raised, lips against opposite sides of the glass. Both are worth a try. The car kissing is actually pretty sexy - Read more… better than it sounds.