I was actually thinking about that, but will it be too late? Especially when I've told her I would give her a hand. Shall I do it for next time and let her know if the task/chore/assignment isnt done, I shall remove something that she likes?
I will discuss that idea of how it makes her feel in our Read more… next weekly chat, on me not following through with the "correction" and how she feels about it. It would help me aswell.
Thank you.

Ah yes, explain if she has done "give praise" and the "penalty" if not, before hand.
Thank you, I may have been missing that. Something to think about.

Thank you for your reply.
I will have a sit down and talk about it in our next weekly chat. It's been helpful what you replied back to me.

Thank for your reply.
You have a point about the severity of the failed task and let it off.
Tbh, last task I asked of her was to tidy out her wardrobe, as I'm sending over money so she can buy all new clothes she'd love to wear. So all clothes she doesnt wear or are worn can be thrown or charity Read more… shop.
Sent the money over and shes bought all new clothes she loves and not tidied the wardrobe out. So now theres no room for the new clothes. I have asked her twice to do it, she apologises and says she will do it. Never happened so far. I've said I'd help her now, as it's getting an eye sore seeing new clothes hanging/folded everywhere.

Thank you for your reply.
We are engaged and live together, but we both have the BDSM lifestyle we like to delve into as much as possible with eachother.
We have discussions every week about things we are liking/not liking, stuff to try, ect. I explain about certain shall I say "assignments" and Read more… if she keeps not doing them, I'll think of what the "correction" will be.
she doesnt do the "assignment", says sorry and I forgive.
Am I being too soft on her and allowing her to get away with stuff too easily. I'm not really wanting her to think I'm a push over.