Is the danger a required component of kink or is it just an added benefit?

[di****]

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[tw****]

Danger isn’t required at all, nor should it be sought. SSC - Safe Sane and Consensual is a pretty common “dungeon rule”.

Most people are digging deep into emotional responses or *** responses. It’s not about the the “possibility” so much as experiencing a controlled version of an emotional situation.

[di****]

Well i suppose danger may have been the wrong term. In the end it was more just something to post to have an excuse to play with my "new toy" and get to know the site. I agree with what youre saying, but the reason i chose the word "danger," albeit not accurately reflecting what i meant, is because for some of my kinks the "danger" is part of the thrill. Erotic asphyxiation can go wrong, publuc sex can land one in jail, etc

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5 hours ago, dirtyboyslut6968 said:

Well i suppose danger may have been the wrong term. In the end it was more just something to post to have an excuse to play with my "new toy" and get to know the site. I agree with what youre saying, but the reason i chose the word "danger," albeit not accurately reflecting what i meant, is because for some of my kinks the "danger" is part of the thrill. Erotic asphyxiation can go wrong, publuc sex can land one in jail, etc

Perhaps a better word could be "anticipation"?

[di****]

I think what i was going for was "an element of ***" like this could go wrong or this could be real and has been for someone

[Sir_and_her70]

Risk .. that’s where it’s at mixed in with nervous excitement. If you can safely build all the components then that’s a job well done .

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SSC (safe, sane and consensual) is only one mindset in kink. Another is RACK (risk aware consensual kink) which posits that all kink is inherently unsafe to a lesser or greater degree, and so it’s important to understand and manage the risks. Personally I’m not sure all kinks are psychically and mentally unsafe, but they can pose a risk to your livelihood and relationships with people around you if you are outed. As someone who engages in edgeplay with my partners and very much enjoys it, I wouldn’t say that danger is specifically a component, so much as ***, panic and desperation. It’s the strong emotion which people desire, and sometimes that strong emotion can only come from activities which are taken to their limits (by someone with experience and who understands the risks).

It really depends on your kinks of course. If your kink is for a nice quiet sit down on a comfy sofa, having a solo wank, in a private space, well the risks / danger are about as minimal as you can get. But your kinks are still valid. YKINMKATO