5 Major Attractions of BDSM sensuality (Opinions Only)

[Ob****]

What are the 5 Major and most important attractions of BDSM to you🤔... Do the attractions ever vary in which order they are partaken in???

[Deleted Member]

In no particular order...

1) The power exchange

2) Pleasure and ***

3)  Feeling of being wanted and treasured

4) Learning to grow as an individual and in a dynamic

5) The communication, trust and honesty.

[PR****]

1) consent
2) intimacy
3) pleasure
4) control
5) love

I don't think the order matters because all are happening at once.

[No****]

1. Trust - hugely important hence why it cant be nsa hook ups
2. Listening - example arrogant men rush and dont listen. When the man listens to even what a *** is or pleasure is and hes engaged listening and caring… hes on point.
3. Vulnerabiliy- without that u have nothing
4. Control but in the way u respect which goes back to trust. Its not narcissist or ***. Its just a little to keep it spicy ***
5. Monogamoy—- sorry. But stds areny attractive. When they are dedicated to just u . Ur more wiling to be *** and trust and give them the things they want

[Sc****]

1. It always starts with conversation. Open and honest 2. Listening. If you are always talking your not listening . 3, attraction. Both mentally and physically. Without any attraction there is nothing .4. trust it all comes down to trust. With trust comes the commitment needed to be in the life . 5. Lastly. The power exchange that we all enjoy so much. . You have to have. The first 4 to have the bond to allow the power exchange . Everyone has really good comments and we all know how wrong this life can go when partners have no respect .

[Ki****]

They’re not in order number one consent number two honesty number three trust number four respect number five communication. I have yet to find a Dom , but I am looking and I will not settle for anything less than what I know I need and want.

[si****]

1 communication/consent
2 trust
3 attraction
4 availability
5 follow through

[AJ****]

-Clear communication/honesty (includes being forthcoming and open)
-Enthusiastic consent of all involved
-Respect
-Trust
-Safety.
There are more, but these are the 5 biggest attractions for me. The communication will always be #1 but the others are nebulous as to their order.

[Bo****]

Communication, Self Awareness, Keeping their promises, Respect, and Passion

[Ju****]

Really big on the trust part
The ability to let yourself fall or to have sb just relinquish control is like a warm and cozy feeling i really appreciate, also the trust tied to that

Also like the level of communication and safety it brings with it

Getting my brain creative in a good way as a Dom or as a sub to tune it down a bit

And - at least for me - sounds
I absolutely thrive on those little (or big) moans or how somebody's breath changes pace