Should a male sub pay for everything?

[da****]

All depends on the dynamic of the relationship and the communication and boundaries u and her have if that is not clear which it sounds like it isn’t run very far away from whoever the hell that fake domme is. Never spend ur *** on anyone unless u are happy to do so and u know the person is genuine and if u have a clear understanding on the relationship ur getting into. U have definitely dodged a bullet but unfortunately this person took advantage and I hope u are okay.

[kn****]

I think if you want to give the best impression and dedication to your servitude. You’ve got to use your discernment tho especially if they’re delaying the meet up.

[in****]

Pay for what you will indulge together. All the extra stuff is not for you to pay for. That's red flag on her part. I would not even be interested in her anymore.

[Deleted Member]

She's taking advantage mate, complete scam!

[kr****]

No that’s some simp sh*t. You can’t hide behind being a Dom but then demanding *** from them.

[Sa****]

There's alot of wemon out there just for your wallet my man, they don't care about you, just your ***, and when you stop paying you are just trash to them at that point, and it's bad on here, id say that a solid 40% or more have it in their bio that they want ***, gifts, or food, especially the younger ladies on here. So just be careful and root out intentions before you whip out that little 3 inch card they love so much

[Deleted Member]

Sounds to me like she's trying it on

[Deleted Member]

Classic case of a female who’s not even a dom just trying to take advantage of a man

[sw****]

As a female Dom it part of play for me. If makes me feel more like a Dom like a queen over her submissive. But I would never ask that if we have not met.

[Ar****]

3 hours ago, oakland951 said:

I think male sub should outr. Respect

Only male subs? 🤔

[Ar****]

So.. i understand him paying for things when asked. But thats something you do for a domme you have a SOLID dynamic with. And its something that should be established beforehand.

If you are a pay to play sub.. then only pay to play. If you are in a real dynamic... then you should establish rules and limits for that kind of stuff. If your limits arent for her.. she can find a paypig. Which is what it sounds like shes looking for.

[Deleted Member]

No. Not always. If your are in a dynamic anyway.

[ie****]

This is my issue with findom. Get your own damn ***

[ie****]

$$$

[oa****]

May be your right re think that thank you

[Da****]

No, the sub shouldn't pay. Personally as a Dom I find it's my responsibility to pay. If the sub offers then that's fine... The fact she cancelled a meeting because you won't pay, to me that screams golddigger. Drop her quickly, and find someone worth your time.

[pervpervy666]

Hell no. Stay away from leeches like that one. There is a hell of a lot of parasites like the one you just described. Findom? Get a job dammit. I never paid and would never pay for such pleasure. Be it kinky or not. They are low lifes parasiting in people like you. I could maybe understand a tribute or for a meeting if that's your thing and you want to lay for a particular service...but everything what you wrote above it's just sucking *** out of your wallet. She probably had a few guys like you, no jobs and just taking an advantage of you. Kick her in the a&$ and find yourself someone genuine and better (shouldn't be that hard after all). Findom for me, in any form, is an absolute no-go.

[fe****]

I'm assuming you sent this person $$$ before ever actually meeting? If so, it was a scam. They were always gonna cancel and come up with some excuse. Never send $$$ to someone you've never met and haven't established the rules with.

[Deleted Member]

Getting scammed. She wants a sugar pet. Its very common on here. If she really wanted you, the *** would be meaningless. Imo.

[dr****]

As a male dom I think the dom should pay not the sub that why Findom shouldn't be a thing I think you have a fake domme my friend

[zo****]

That’s just taking advantage at that point. This kind of thing is getting out of hand.

[Jamie407]

Red flag is she asking for ***.  Sounds like a scam. They not here to be kinky,there here get as many blokes to pay them 

[at****]

No, and frankly I think there’s a conversation to be had about how dominance is so different depending on gender and why because if a male dom expected a female sub to pay for even half of that it would sound even more outrageous

[Co****]

Forget for a minute that you’re a sub and she is a Dom. Is this sort of dynamic what you want in a relationship? Does this work for you? If not, then you shouldn’t be doing it no matter what sort of title or identification you give yourself.

Some submissive men in particular get a charge out of being financially ***d. Some men enjoy the *** of paying for their partner to go out and have fun without them and perhaps telling them about it later.
If that is you and it’s kept within reasonable limits, then great, but it doesn’t sound like this is part of the kink that was negotiated in advance.

Just as there are limits to how much physical *** I would use with a female sub - even if she is excited by corporal punishment - there are limits to the financial demands and *** a male sub should expect even if some of that turns him on.

Consent is extremely important in this lifestyle. Nobody is required to do anything against their will. You negotiate the terms of the relationship and what you are willing to accept. If a Domme doesn’t respect your limits - whether that relates to physical activity or financial demands - then the relationship is abusive and you need to get out.

[nc****]

If shes a fin domme you should 100% expect this.

Sounds like your dynamic expectations arent clearly communicated