Do you think it’s more or less attractive when a man openly shares his sexual fantasies?

[Re****]

This has been on my mind a lot I enjoy explaining what I’m into to like minded people but is there a limit to what you share to someone with equal interest?

[Sp****]

I would imagine that it might also depend on what they are... No kink shaming, but some fantasies might be a little too much for your partner to hear.. That sucks.. But also reality...

[Ca****]

I think it's more attractive. Being open and honest during intimate conversations is always a turn on

[Deleted Member]

If you are talking to someone who is open minded and has a lot of kinks then you can spill the tea and don't hold back. If you are talking to someone who is vanilla then u can do the same or take it easy and see would they come around to some ideas but they need to be open minded.

[Da****]

Speaking as the male in our relationship, Asena enjoys openness and my depravity lol past partners have not been so open. we've always been open in our relationship with each other about wants and need though fantasies and desires didn't come up on the first date or in the first week. I think it's a play it by ear thing, feel the situation out. Even ask, just as plainly as you asked here, if the other person would like to hear those things. But I guess, just like each person is individual, each encounter will be likewise. There's probably not a one-size-fits-all formula, other than to be open and remain mindful of the other person.

[ge****]

IMHO the above replies are wonderful but they deal mostly with “timing” not of exclusively of subject. Regarding “timing” everyone here is in agreement, there’s a right and wrong time to have this discussion. Regarding the place to have this discussion, that’s a mutual decision.
Now subject limits. Many, especially men, will disagree with me, that’s fine. You are one half of the relationship, any relationship, gay or otherwise. You hope if not expect your partner to be honest, yes? Why wouldn’t you offer the same in return? I’m not suggesting or implying you aren’t, I’m merely answering the many different issues I see.
If your partner asks, I would be truthful or say “that’s not a question I want to answer at this time!” It ends that line of questioning but leaves it open to comfortably return later.

[Deleted Member]

I actually prefer that my dom share their fantasies. Even if we don’t do them it’s nice to see what we can incorporate

[lo****]

I love when someone is open with me, I find it builds trust easier and creates a better connection

[DP****]

I love when guys share their fantasies

[Deleted Member]

Sharing when the time is right, absolutely! I wanna hear all the details.

[be****]

Dirty talk is part of the fun. When it's reciprocated then applied. That's the best

[Do****]

We say it's more attractive to share your fantasies. After all it wouldn't be a fantasy if it wasn't important to you!

[st****]

I love to know up front what someone is looking to do or have. If you aren't sure, ask. "Is it ok if I share my sexual wants with you?". Then you at least know you have permission to let it all out, lol. You know?

[Deleted Member]

My answer is based off it being with your person not just random conversations. Communication is a must!! Sharing sexual fantasy/kink/fetish/curiosities may open the other persons mind to things never thought about. May also awaken things once longed to explore but deeply suppressed due to many reasons. Never know how a conversation can ignite a fire within.

[mi****]

Be careful how much you share, because the minute you write the wrong word let alone sentence you'll be blocked. Better to let them find out in person then tell them everything ahead of time.

[Bo****]

Less when we've just started chatting. I think that it depends on the person though.

[Mi****]

I think it depends on the relationship, is this a new relationship? Is this a kink based relationship? If you are "vanilla" dating, it's probably best to feel the person out. If it's in the specific interest of it being a kink relationship, being completely honest makes the most sense. As a Domme, I like to know someone's desires, I may not be into that or I may not have experience but definitely want to try. I prefer my submissives to be completely open so I can make their fantasy happen or tell them we aren't a good fit. No need to play games and waste time.

[Deleted Member]

Attractive! I roleplay with my wife about double penetrating her, and she was shy at first and now she gets weak to the thought. Recently we’ve been penetrating her other hole with a 7in dildo

[Deleted Member]

Trust and openess is the key.

[De****]

I feel like it's more attractive when anyone shares. Because it allow open vulnerability and chances are your partner is also thinking it, but doesn't feel comfortable enough to ask without feeling silly. To know what my partner likes is the greatest pleasure, because now I know how to please them ans we can both learn more of each other.

[ko****]

I am sex slave.i enjoy in this. Way.and ask for strictly Mistress

[Deleted Member]

Always ask for for sharing. When people make it their opening message, I block them.

[Bo****]

Getting the fantasies out there is important.

[Ch****]

Kinda surprised that we haven't seen anyone explicitly mention "fantasy pushing", which is against guidelines on places like fetlife, because it's done without consent. So *when* becomes the big issue. Did your recipient give some sort of consent first? That's the key question, not whether it's attractive. You might get a lot of people to say it's fine here, but it's unclear if everyone is on the same page about when it happens. We'd imagine most people would not want a fantasy pushed via DM from a man who is a stranger...and also imagine many women get those DMs A LOT.

[Bo****]

Always should say what you like and want.