What's your poly type and why?

[Hezzair]

So there are different types of poly aka kitchen table poly, parallel poly
I'm sure there's others but I think most folks fall into those two major categories.

I get the appeal of both.

I personally like more of a kitchen table type of atmosphere, even if all the parties involved don't co-habitate. I still think it is a little friendlier and nicer if you have more than a passing acquaintance with your meta(s). Not saying you have to be lovers or even best of friends. Just friendly and have an idea of what is going on with their lives. You don't need to be involved in their relationship with your co-partner. But you share a partner, and you have shared experiences.
Of course, that does leave things open to problems which is why many like parallel poly.

Parallel poly is when the metas all do their own thing and have pretty much no interaction. Some folks don't even know the names of their partner's other partners. That version of parallel poly is solidly NOT for me.
I at least want to know you have another bf and/or gf and what their names are.

So what's your poly and why does that appeal to you?

[Deleted Member]

I love kitchen poly. I would love to be friends with other poly people. I like the idea of being with other ppl while also being friends with one another.

[ta****]

Upfront but largely parallel. I'm open to more kitchen table dynamics. It's not like I'm keeping partners secreted from each other.. I guess I feel like, they'll be as involved with each other as they want to be. Or not at all. I'm not going to *** 2 people to get along simply bc they're both attached to me. 🤷🤷 Hope that makes sense

[Deleted Member]

kitchen table

[Jo****]

I like the idea of sporadic closeness, meeting someone in a casual way before the act usually gives a certain intimacy and feeling of closeness, personally I like to feel that closeness...

[Ha****]

Somewhere between kitchen table and relationship anarchy for me. I can still respect it if metas don't want to meet me but it makes me uncomfortable.

[Deleted Member]

I recently got out of a kitchen table throuple situationship. It was my first poly relationship. I know now that after ten years "at the table", I will move forward using more of a hybrid model of parallel with kitchen table vibe. If my partners want to meet, hang out, whatever - they would be free to. My partners will be given basic information, if they want it, about any new potential partners. Transparency is key for me. I don't know how many people choose this more laid back but separate way, but yeah... for ME, it will create more peace for my mental space.

[Ha****]

2 minutes ago, SSBBW54136 said:

I recently got out of a kitchen table throuple situationship. It was my first poly relationship. I know now that after ten years "at the table", I will move forward using more of a hybrid model of parallel with kitchen table vibe. If my partners want to meet, hang out, whatever - they would be free to. My partners will be given basic information, if they want it, about any new potential partners. Transparency is key for me. I don't know how many people choose this more laid back but separate way, but yeah... for ME, it will create more peace for my mental space.

Was it properly a throuple or more like a smudged V? 😂

[Deleted Member]

40 minutes ago, HayatoJin said:

Was it properly a throuple or more like a smudged V? 😂

What's a smudged V? I'm not familiar with that term. 🫤

[ja****]

"Table top" or pods are superior, but i understand and have done parallel. It only is best when they have a bf i don't care much about

[Hezzair]

1 hour ago, HayatoJin said:

Somewhere between kitchen table and relationship anarchy for me. I can still respect it if metas don't want to meet me but it makes me uncomfortable.

I actually hadn't seen the term relationship anarchy until last week when someone referred to their relationship status as that on Fetlife. Some people are more socially anxious so I can see how that would be appealing.

[Ph****]

I don't have a type. I collaborate with my partners to build what works for us rather than try to *** people into the boxes that I like. I think the people are more important than a poly archetype.

[On****]

I would say it's a blend, 4 years into what we consider a family that evolved from D/s parallel dynamics, the girls consider themselves ***-subs however each of us have playpartners of varying levels outside the family with the ability to explore future partners or satellite dynamics autonomously

[Ha****]

11 hours ago, SSBBW54136 said:

What's a smudged V? I'm not familiar with that term. 🫤

I just made it up TBH, to describe a sort-of messy situation I once was in.

It was properly a V, me being one of the ends of it, except my meta and I were FWB (with the hinge obviously aware of this). At some point there was even talk of us three moving to another country together, but we were never actually a throuple.

[Ha****]

9 hours ago, PhuzzieSlippers said:

I don't have a type. I collaborate with my partners to build what works for us rather than try to *** people into the boxes that I like. I think the people are more important than a poly archetype.

This is essentially the meaning of relationship anarchy though

[Lo****]

With a clean test

[Lo****]

Very rare

[Deleted Member]

14 minutes ago, HayatoJin said:

I just made it up TBH, to describe a sort-of messy situation I once was in.

It was properly a V, me being one of the ends of it, except my meta and I were FWB (with the hinge obviously aware of this). At some point there was even talk of us three moving to another country together, but we were never actually a throuple.

Oh, lol I get it now, thank you. My situation was getting involved with an already established couple as their Unicorn. We were all "together," in that closed triad? Is that a better word for it?

[Ha****]

1 hour ago, SSBBW54136 said:

Oh, lol I get it now, thank you. My situation was getting involved with an already established couple as their Unicorn. We were all "together," in that closed triad? Is that a better word for it?

That's another word for sure but in your case throuple would Indeed also be correct.

[Ph****]

2 hours ago, HayatoJin said:

This is essentially the meaning of relationship anarchy though

I know.