Whose hands go first ?

[Mi****]

In a world of gestures and glances, I wonder — do you prefer to reach out or to be reached for?

What kind of touch do you crave at first contact? Gentle and slow? Firm and clear?

I’m exploring how people navigate that first moment of physical connection. What awakens you, calms you, or lights you up?

[Ja****]

Reached for it shows me you want like a green light

[Am****]

Firm clear but some respect. I’m not shy really at all/ but I respect other aren’t
ready for touch fast. I never shy away from kiss.

[Fi****]

I’m naturally flirty. Like overly flirty. Weather it’s being reached for or just some sort of affirmation, then will be firm showing security.

[cl****]

An equal or comfortable plane is best.... Then it isn't up to half of the relationship decide. Two creatively explorative minds

[Deleted Member]

I like to be reached for. But only by someone who’s really watching. I notice everything; the hesitation, the hunger, the heat behind the hand. The touch I crave is quiet but sure. No rush. Just that steady moment where they decide they can’t not touch me.
That’s what lights me up.

[cl****]

Are better than one!!! I'm interested in hearing the explanation of those whose disagree.... I'm open minded as they come . If you disagree , convince me otherwise

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4 minutes ago, clytcarresser4u69 said:

Are better than one!!! I'm interested in hearing the explanation of those whose disagree.... I'm open minded as they come . If you disagree , convince me otherwise

As a fat woman, I’ve seen how some talk big online, then freeze in person. If I sense hesitation—or that someone’s trying to hide the attraction they claimed to have—I’m done. I give green lights. I communicate clearly. If I say you have consent to kiss me, touch me, hold my hand… and you still do nothing? That tells me everything I need to know.

[Pr****]

Love the spark of being reached for, but also the exhilaration of taking that step.
I love the first subtle contact early in flirting.
Especially if the energy is there… The touch on the arm or hand, or the non sexual excuse to touch “oh I love your bracelet” often paired with a step in closer.

[Mi****]

For me I like there to be the acknowledgment whether or not someone is attracted to me and knowing that it's mutual helps I can be shy but I don't like ***ful I like someone who listens that's slow. Attentive not aggressive

[Pe****]

I think everybody likes being reached for. In the realm of kinks, even the dominant in a predator/prey relationship likes having the prey show its desire to be hunted by them.
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Personally, I like to be approached in a gentle but direct manner. A first touch can be a negotiation unto itself. A movement that invites a certain touch in return and that the other can then move into or away from. In this manner, it's possible for one person to lead while the other chooses what to accept or for each to invite the next touch as they accept or reject the touch they were just invited into. Most people have a natural instinct for something like this. How they respond can reveal a lot about their nature.
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All that said, I generally keep people at arms length. Being wanted just to fulfill a hedonist's fleeting desires and spending time with men and women who don't like taking no for an answer has made me wary of physical attention. Nothing really gets me going until I know the person better than is possible at the time a first touch generally occurs.

[Mi****]

@Happyfatlady I can understand why hesitation Can be a turn off. On the custard I enjoy flirting I wish I was more adequate flirting with females. I worry I come on to strong or not enough. It's the hands and eyes that tells me to keep going forward. My hesitation is out of lack of experience and it can come across as not genuinely interested. You are beautiful

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23 minutes ago, MissNixs said:

@Happyfatlady I can understand why hesitation Can be a turn off. On the custard I enjoy flirting I wish I was more adequate flirting with females. I worry I come on to strong or not enough. It's the hands and eyes that tells me to keep going forward. My hesitation is out of lack of experience and it can come across as not genuinely interested. You are beautiful

I understand that. I also, one a few days before I met my Daddy for the first time in person, directly told him that he had consent to kiss and hug me… I knew I wanted him to. I knew I didn’t want an awkward first meeting. I knew he’d ask me before doing anything which, for me, would have ruined the moment so I gave consent before hand. Now, I’m demisexual AF! Getting to that point took time… I understand I’m not the norm. I’m also horrible at flirting unless it’s direct. Guess what I’m saying is, if there’s a bond already established and both have consented, I don’t see why there’d be hesitation. (And thank you 😊)

[ju****]

Hi MissNxs, i like your profile and really like, your pics...your a beautiful woman...hope u dont mind, but whereabouts are you located....? Would please be my mistress? I would do whatever you ask of me, and would be loyal to you all the time, if needed you wouldn't need to be loyal at all please give it a serious considered consideration and I'll send pics or chat whatever you like I think you're beautiful I like to get to know you and be with you, not just one night but prefer we are going and like I said I'll do whatever you say My Worship You my mistress please give me a thought and let me know if you decide anything I will send pics if you like I love your pics