D/s Dynamics what’s different

[Deleted Member]

I was chatting to a friend today about D/s dynamics and the different shapes and sizes they come in .... I’m a female submissive in a relationship with a Dominant male our relationship is all encompassing, loving , sexual, formal when required I adore him as he does me.... I thrive on serving and submitting to him ...
 

Before this relationship my D/s dynamics very much focused around service , sexual encounters , online tasking etc as a submissive I was educated to my Ds needs and did my best to fulfil them.

 

So my question is ... generally speaking does D/s in a male submissive and female Domme have a similar dynamic , similar arrangements etc ? 
 

Iv heard that there are a lot of female Dommes who don’t necessarily have sexual relationships with their male submissives. Not being a remotely Dominant female I don’t have massive insight in to this side of this world I live in and would love to hear from some female Dommes and male subs ...... 

[Paddywack-3112]

So I am in one of those types of relationships, and it is no fun.
Especially when you want to be

[Koby]

Horses for Courses

There is no standard relationship or dynamic. 

[Deleted Member]

Male subs and female domme relationship work exactly the same way. They can be incredibly sexual. Yes you there might be more non sexual / soft dommes compared to non sexual male doms. But generally its exactly the same with just reversed roles. I think the only difference is with online relationships. While men don't want to really admit it, most of the doms either have one or no subs. But its common for a female to have multiple subs and with some dommes you might find you have a more defining role.

[ey****]

Relationships can vary wildly - there's no one size, standard relationship

I know M/f relationships that are sexual, and ones that are not - and I know F/m that are sexual and ones that are not.

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That said.  Without wanting to overly generalise a lot of male ideas on submission is effectively around their satisfaction.  And that tends to be true as of whether they are Dominant or submissive!   So a Male Dominant might want a submissive who is service based, cooks and cleans and stuff - and of course, the idea of sexual submission on a whim.  Obviously we know there are people on this forum (including myself) where this is not entirely our idea - but, OK.

A male submissive will often want things around his fetishes and fantasies.  So, it's still serving themselves.

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So, a lot of female Dominants do have multiple subs and, may even have a romantic partner also.  Because of that, if they have their own sexual satisfaction filled - they can allow or deny any of their subs.   Because a lot of the male focus is around their own orgasms, wouldn't that be submission in itself to give that up?