Question for the men about your female FWB

[Am****]

What is a FWB situation for you?
How long is a FWB situation before you see it as something more?
Can you be FWB for years and feel nothing but mutual gain?
What makes a FWB situation more than just that?
Can you keep a FWB going on and want it to be more but struggle to say it?
Lots of questions, and I apoloogise for appearing ignorant. But the male brain is so different and you don't know unless you ask!

[Deleted Member]

fwb stays fwb. im gonna use that slut as long as i want.

[UK****]

For me, FWB is something regular that includes things when we aren't playing.

Enjoying each other's company, being there for each other when we are struggling.

That can last for years, it doesn't need to change or progress as long as both sides are happy with the balance.

When you want more, but struggle to say it, I suspect you know the other won't want the same.  Have they expressed that or are you assuming from their past statements? If the later, see below!!

"the male brain is so different and you don't know unless you ask!" Venus and Mars, however what I would say from my experience... Men are literal; you need to spell out the way you feel and what you want.  Don't hint and assume they will understand.  Mostly, they won't, be direct and unequivocable.

[ca****]

As long as you're fucking and still friends, you're fwb. Simple.

[he****]

Will depend upon the connection I suppose. For me, it would end up being more or end I imagine.

But I could imagine for many men the priority is the sex and that's all.

So theoretically I could see it going on for years as long as all parties agreed even if the female is agreeing because they want more

[sa****]

You both have to be ok with each other fucking other people

[Sc****]

the last time I tried fwb, it wasn't pretty... 😅 feelings and emotions don't fuck around.

[theSir_ObservingU]

I’m very clear on what I want and what I can offer. I am very emotionally stable and aware. If it’s too much for her then I will listen but I won’t budge unless I’m 100% certain.

[Da****]

Sex is sex. Love is love...

[le****]

When they say what are we

[42****]

Well to be honest I'm in a open relationship and I look for FWB, I try and actually follow as it is said lol, I'm looking for a friend, someone that I can actually be friends with for years, and we just help each other ! But it's not that the make brain is different, everyone was different ideas of this.

[Deleted Member]

Being polite, showing understanding, going out on weekends, trying not to break character and be strong mentally under all circumstances, and being a great f*cker is the what will make you keep a woman in general. FWB will and, in most cases, be just a friend thing altogether.

[JackJonesHull]

Honestly, I'm useless at FWB. It's always been an monogamous sort of thing for me. It either ends or it becomes much more. But I've/we've known quickly which way it's going though.

[Gh****]

Sometimes it ends and sometimes it becomes something more monogamous. All depends on the chemistry between you and what boundaries are set.

[Sw****]

With my head I think FWB is sensible, it gives time to get to know someone without too much pressure so if it becomes more it can happen naturally. I like the idea of being detached, it protects me from getting too involved too soon before I know for sure someone is worth getting emotionally invested in. Experience has shown me that going too fast can lead to getting hurt. However my heart tends to override my head, intimacy leads to strong feelings pretty quickly for me. I don't think FWB should last too long to be honest, just long enough to know someone is worth taking a chance on.

[at****]

Baby fwb label doesn’t change until we agree

[nw****]

6 months

[Deleted Member]

I think FWB can last for a long time if both parties talk and communicate. I think as long as you communicate a FWB can be more as well…the key to all of this communication….you got to tell us males what is going on!!!

[Re****]

FWB can go on for as long as both parties want it to until one party brings up the conversation of it potentially becoming more. It's all about communication and emotional maturity.

If there's no discussion about "more" then it stays FWB. It's the most simple, straightforward type of intimate relationship next to ONS. Two friends who can also have sex together if they so choose to.

It's only as complicated as you make it.

[Fo****]

To me, it's exactly what it implies: we hang out and do regular things like video games, swimming or just sharing deep conversations, and we help each other out with stuff. Just like any other friendship, except we occasionally do sexual things together as well. As for your other questions, I'm not sure. I've only had one connection of this nature, and it's still fairly new. The most important things, as with any positive interpersonal connection, are honesty, compassion and open communication. I hope this helps!

[Tr****]

I’ve had one 20+ years we talked about if effortlessly along the way but just always knew it would never work on a committed serious level but we loved each other dearly. We did eventually stop but time sortve just handled that with both of us having families that were more important than our own selfish desires for each other. But I don’t doubt that we won’t be together in that way again as it’s always on the table and a possibility but we talk regularly still and currently it doesn’t come up so I respect it and just leave it to what it was. Somebody used the words “emotional maturity” when two people are on the same level with that no matter what the situation and they both care for and respect the other anything is possible. Just that our maturity knew best was to leave it at what it was instead of wanting more cause we are programmed to want more. That what we went with. BUT I wonder if she wonders, like I do. But the F in FWB differs for people. We were that for years before it started it wasn’t that which made us friends so the respect was there first which I believe is huge in hiw it works out

[Deleted Member]

Definitely depends on the situation and constant communication. In my personal experience every time it becomes an issue because the other party always wants more and says they’re fine with the current situation but really looks at it differently once they feel that way.

[pw****]

Every FWB I ever had devolved to the friend admitting feelings. And there were a few. So tread carefully.

[Ph****]

I just lost my FWB. we have been that for over 15 years, we told each other we loved one another we was not able to be more than that before i was not single but we was alittle more than just FWB to me. But she wanted more than i could give her, so she ended it. And it hurt because i do love her, and i feel that *** and sadness every time i think about her knowing that we or no more. We talked about being in each other's lives forever, but i guess i was the only one who meant it. But i know that i want her to be happy even if it hurt me to think about what we had.....

[Lo****]

It's tough due to human nature and the chemicals released during sex that drives us to feel connected.

It's always been short term till someone finds someone they like since i try to keep it strictly sexual in nature and never try to "just chill and hang out", that's what relationships are for.

In my experience and must be able to separate physical pleasure and mental connection, if you can't then someone will fall for the other.