me**** Posted September 27, 2025 Author My partner and I are both taking my health very seriously and trying to find ways to be together in the ways we want while he also enjoys the activities he wants. I’m uninformed about ways to navigate this well, and was hoping to find assistance in practices that help us both. I’m a private person by nature and haven’t had much experience posting in forums. My drs can and will help me navigate this, but I was also curious about what advice more experienced folks might have had for us. Thank you for your shares here.
Deleted Member Posted September 27, 2025 5 hours ago, merryn said: My partner and I are both taking my health very seriously and trying to find ways to be together in the ways we want while he also enjoys the activities he wants. I’m uninformed about ways to navigate this well, and was hoping to find assistance in practices that help us both. I’m a private person by nature and haven’t had much experience posting in forums. My drs can and will help me navigate this, but I was also curious about what advice more experienced folks might have had for us. Thank you for your shares here. I think the safest thing would be vaccines, meds, testing, barrier tools, or fluid sharing boundaries 🤷♀️ this just doesn’t seem like a good time to start something like this, but yall are gonna do whatever you want to do. Have regular health check-ins, find out what’s going on, talk to drs. Good luck 🖤
ju**** Posted September 28, 2025 Well I don't know that there is one outside of mutual masturbation. Even genital massaging or oral can be dangerous if you have an open cut or something. There really is no such thing as 100% safe sex. Trust me, I've looked. Lol
Simpledaze Posted September 28, 2025 Merryn- I owe you an apology for coming off harsh. I say this because you did the right thing by seeking information about something your unsure about... I truly do commend you for reaching out for information and hope you are NOT gunshy now in regards to asking questions.
li**** Posted September 28, 2025 Yesterday at 07:43 AM, goldenretrievergf said: You got a cancer diagnosis and now they want to begin having sex outside your relationship? Baby, that’s a huge red flag. There is no possible way for you to have “no risk”, especially during immune killing cancer treatments. This is honestly just irresponsible, for all the reasons everyone else listed. You deserve better than this. Thank you so much for saying it. It is nasty that he's decided he wants to entertain himself with other women right now when she needs him the most.
li**** Posted September 28, 2025 20 hours ago, merryn said: My partner and I are both taking my health very seriously and trying to find ways to be together in the ways we want while he also enjoys the activities he wants. I’m uninformed about ways to navigate this well, and was hoping to find assistance in practices that help us both. I’m a private person by nature and haven’t had much experience posting in forums. My drs can and will help me navigate this, but I was also curious about what advice more experienced folks might have had for us. Thank you for your shares here. If he's taking your health so seriously then why on earth does he want to sleep with other women when he knows it's risky for you? And you're also doing all the work of finding out how he won't fuck you over while you're sick? I'm sorry, but you deserve someone better.
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