The online play question

[steelboundslave]

I've been thinking a lot lately about the potential for online play to develop into something deeper and more serious. While I know many people see online interactions as casual or just a fun escape, I'm curious if anyone has experienced online dynamics evolving into a meaningful, long-term fetish relationship.

For those of you who have engaged in online play (whether through chats, video calls, roleplay, or other platforms), have you found that it can create a real bond? Could it be a stepping stone to a relationship that’s more than just a digital connection? Or do you think it’s difficult, if not impossible, to build a true connection without physical interaction?

I’d love to hear any experiences or thoughts on this. Do you think online fetishes can evolve into something serious and lasting, or is it always going to be just a fantasy world?

Looking forward to hearing your insights!

[NoMansure]

Real bonds are definitely possible with online play.

[pr****]

It’s definitely possible!

[Deleted Member]

I had a relationship that was an online power thing where she would ask me about my day every now and then in a carrying way but it would mostly be a lot of demanding by her part on where she would tell me to send her photos/videos doing something kinky and I liked that a lot because it felt like she had power over me despite not even being in the same place. Eventually she tried to turn everything into fin dom which I don’t support at all and that was the end of that but I do think it’s possible to create a good relationship based on trust and dominance.

[jerryx]

I am going through the same thing that ctRex discusses. I was in the sub role and tried my best to keep up with things but I began to insist on irl chat/quick coffee. These requests were always dodged. Also who knows if the other side of this “relationship “ is even a human. On the other hand you won’t have to deal with a ***ed off husband or boyfriend if you never actually meet.

[to****]

Nah these online jokes are just scammers. Use google to check their photos. 9 times out of 10, their stolen images. The big tell is they always dodge any attempt to meet up. They always want to get to know me better. Um what’s a better way than meeting up.

[Deleted Member]

My first (and Only Lord) Dom was an online-only interaction, mostly due to distance (we resided on opposite sides of the globe...) and we got deep into things, relocating/I love you deep. Remain friends to this day - 25+ years later.
Another, still in contact and on good terms, and we enjoyed both online and in-person activities.

Of course it's possible. It all depends on the individuals involved, dynamic and so forth.

Being cautious, vetting, and learning how to better spot those who'd just string you along in an online-only unfulfilling ruse, is mandatory.

[ey****]

It's one of those... yes, but, kinda questions.

So in a yes this is absolutely possible - and this can include people who talk/play online long term without ever meeting, or wishing to meet.  

But that often there is a problem that you only ever see a small percentage of the person, what they show you online, so even something which has been going a year or two - or more - you can suddenly discover a deal breaker about them (or, vice versa) - and often the issue that sometimes a little frenzy takes control of one person and so they then get bigger assumptions or execptions than the other person - sometimes in paid circles this is what is known as a "trick" when someone "tricks" themselves into thinking this is an actual relationship and not just online fun.

[Deleted Member]

Yes it's very much possible, but it's also extremely difficult and very these days unfortunately. At least from my experiences over the past 8 years since I got into the online relationships things in various cyber communities and worlds I've been part of during this time.

[steelboundslave]

So many positive replies, thanks all. Really intesting to see everyones opinions, and great that there are some positive stories as well