Munch Notes/Agenda - Unexpected Emotions in BDSM - 16th July 2020

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*Just starting to post up the back dated Munch Notes for everyone's reference and for any further discussion and query here.   Many thanks to @PixieDustand @lil-monsterfor all their behind the scenes work on these and for digging these out of the archives *

 

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1.     What do we think of when we think of emotions in BDSM? 

 

2.     Do you feel since getting into BDSM/kink your emotions have changed at all?

 

 

3.     Who do you feel is more susceptible to emotions, the Dom/me or the sub? 

 

 

4.     Do you consider a Dom/me is weak if they show too much emotion?

 

5.     Men are often seen as being weak for showing too much emotion.                As a male Dominant, do you feel even less able to show emotions?         Do you feel less than?

 

 

6.     Given that men occasionally struggle to express their emotions,  do you feel a Domme is better equipped to handle emotions compared to a Dom because she is female?

 

7.     Do you feel that submissives are better able to handle emotions over their Dom/mes?

 

 

8.     Why do you think male Dominants in particular, hide their emotions? Are men more conditioned not to show their emotions?

 

 

9.   As Dom/mes how do you think submissives view you if you show emotions?

 

10. As a submissive, do you feel your Dom/me is weak if they show their emotions?    Do you see your Dom/me less than if they hide what they are feeling?

 

11. Do submissives feel they are weak if they show emotions, or is it expected that they will always show emotions?

 

12. Who is more susceptible to showing emotions, the male or the female submissive? Are male submissives emotions overlooked compared to that of their female counterpart?

 

13. Should a Dom/me show emotion during a scene?   Given that they need a clear head, is it better for them to hold back their emotions?   Does showing emotions put the scene in danger?

 

 

14. After the scene is finished, is it ok for a Dom/me to show their emotions, for example in aftercare?

 

 

15. Why do you think emotions are more intensified in BDSM and play?

 

16. What type of emotions could you fee before, during, and after play?

 

17. What happens when your D/s becomes romantically inclined?  Does that skew one's perception?

 

 

18. What happens if the Dom/me or the sub falls in love and the feelings are not reciprocated by the other party?  Does this mean the end of the dynamic?   Is this dynamic still safe to continue?

 

 

19. When a D/s ends, are the emotions felt more or less, for example, compared to that of a typical vanilla relationship when it ends?

 

20. What can you to do if you find you have these unexpected emotions during times you feel you shouldn't really be showing them?

 

 

21. If you struggling with your emotions, who do you feel is best for your support system?

 

 

22. Would you seek professional help to deal with your emotions? Does that make you weak if you do?

 

23. Any other thoughts on emotions in BDSM?