What is Your Non-Sexual Dominance Routine?

[Deleted Member]

For the Doms, foreplay starts outside the bedroom, but where does dominance start outside the scene? How do you maintain the mental and emotional connection of the dynamic during a completely non-sexual day?

[ha****]

My non-sexual dominance is all about creating a seamless structure, where they feel safe enough to fail their daily tasks, knowing I'll guide them back without anger. The connection is maintained through small, consistent acknowledgements of their effort (a specific nod, a knowing look). 

[Cy****]

Could be as easy as a sub kneeling next to dom watching tv if you want it to be more serious. Small things to. House rules, maybe one where sub has to ask for permission to do mundane tasks, like making themselves food or use the bathroom breaks. Other options are maybe your dom is the only one allowed to brush the subs hair.
Much of it depends on what kind of d/s relationship you have. Every couple is different and expect different levels of d/s engagement. Maybe you’re into d*gradation or humiliati*n, those could be used in a mundane way as well. Maybe sin is not allowed to walk and must crawl all day or sub will act as furniture of some sort, foot rest or end table or holding a light as a lamp. Like I said I think it depends on the couple and how immersive you’d like it to be.

Hope this helped🤷‍♂️ hard to give amazing advice without a little context though.

[bi****]

Expectations; little things like a kiss before getting up. Just little details to create moments for pushback and gently/playful punishments (aka funishment)

[Bi****]

It starts with presence — the way I listen, take charge, and make space for the sub to lean into their submission without doubt. I like to lead through confidence and intention, not ego. They will feel it in conversation, in how I guide them, and in the energy between us.

[Bl****]

In the simple gestures of life, a look, a whisper and a text. Regular communication and connection, and consistent dominating behaviour, the sub needs to feel there is care & attention from the Dom

[my****]

I lead. In my regular everyday I have to do everything. I have to cook, clean, make repairs, pay bills etc. With a girl I have to remember to delegate, I know her strengths and weaknesses. I ask myself how can she make my life easier, and I assign a task. I know what she needs because I pay attention to the details and I take on her tasks that might be difficult or stressful for her. The end goal always being to complete things we have to do, in order to do what we want to do. Otherwise it’s simple things like I sit first in a restaurant because I have to watch the main entrance to any room. She is responsible for shopping because I never want to be told we’re out of something. A backup of every item or the awareness on when to rebuy. Failures are punished. Successes are praised.

These are just past expectations, as I’m still doing it all.

[Wi****]

A presence of leadership is a big part of that. Daily protocols in your interactions or if the sub is struggling with anything. My sub doesn’t organize her day well. So, I put protocols on tasks / chores that she will already do to help her in those tasks. She also kneels before bed and we use that as a daily check in. She also kneels as a greeting when we’ve been away for a least a few hrs. As well as a various other little protocols. They all either help her to grow or help our dynamic.

[Ho****]

For me dominance doesn't have to be sexual at all. It's the little things like checking in on them and making sure you're sub is taking care of themselves and getting all their chores and work done, ordering them their favorite food after a long day of work so they don't have to worry about it. Or punishment, like making them write a 3 page paper on why they messed up. It could be as simple as opening the car door, buckling them in and holding their hand as you drive. To me it's about the feeling the dom/domme gives, one of safety and like you have someone to help guide you and help you be the best version of yourself

[Bl****]

27 minutes ago, HotPinkHooker said:

For me dominance doesn't have to be sexual at all. It's the little things like checking in on them and making sure you're sub is taking care of themselves and getting all their chores and work done, ordering them their favorite food after a long day of work so they don't have to worry about it. Or punishment, like making them write a 3 page paper on why they messed up. It could be as simple as opening the car door, buckling them in and holding their hand as you drive. To me it's about the feeling the dom/domme gives, one of safety and like you have someone to help guide you and help you be the best version of yourself

Agree about this, for many would be ‘Doms’ domination is about sexual play. It of course may not involve any sex at all

[po****]

Words can have a lot of power. Being that caring, and confident partner can be a good step. Always remember, being a Dom is about creating a safe space for kink to flourish with your sub.

[Al****]

Most of my dominance is done non sexually. I love taking care of service subs, sissies, and pets. Having them give me the privilege of their trust is so meaningful and exciting for me. I love petting, dressing them up, or just praising them for chores and tasks well done. I know it’s vague but it does depend on each person and the situation

[Be****]

I think it’s the casual exercise of small bits of power. A reminder to drink some water, a small question about a task the sub was working on. Not controlling, just enough to steer the sub towards their own goals.

[Ha****]

Intimacy is more then sex its about learning to know each other that joy you can receive in seeing a certain look knowing there thoughts before they have realized it them self i love seeing my dom dominate others in her job but seeing her uncertain look behind the mask of complete control she shows them being able to remind them her i can see through the act and also see her happy that there to scared in being wrong in front if her