Bratty Subs & Their Dominants

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I'm exploring the 'bratty submissive' role and would love to hear from others in this dynamic. What are the most rewarding or challenging aspects of being a bratty sub? Dominants, what do you enjoy most about managing a brat?

[Cu****]

I am a brat and I really enjoy the give and take that comes with being a brat in front of (consenting) others and then being an absolute simp good girl when we get home.

[Deleted Member]

Most rewarding is earning the submission when she lets the brat side go. The most challenging is when trying to be serious and the brat side is out and trying to talk and they aren’t hearing you because they are being a brat.

[Deleted Member]

Sub brat here! 😇 Most rewarding part about being a brat is that I think we attract the most grounded, intelligent Doms that truly know what they’re doing and have a certain skill others lack. When you find a Dom that truly enjoys and understands a brat, the chemistry is soo fun.

One of the most challenging aspects is people thinking we’re annoying or that we are a brat 24/7 and too much to handle.

[He****]

I'm just getting into this kink world. Still trying to learn what everything is. But this sounds interesting to me

[br****]

8 hours ago, InfiniteBrat said:

Sub brat here! 😇 Most rewarding part about being a brat is that I think we attract the most grounded, intelligent Doms that truly know what they’re doing and have a certain skill others lack. When you find a Dom that truly enjoys and understands a brat, the chemistry is soo fun.

One of the most challenging aspects is people thinking we’re annoying or that we are a brat 24/7 and too much to handle.

Yes I agree with you 100% brat's aren't annoying you just need to know what you're doing and have that set of skills to deal with brat's we aren't annoying at all

[Deleted Member]

Personally, I do not participate with Brats. I have in the past and have tamed my share, but what most brats fail to recognize is that bratting requires consent. And most brats I have met violate that like it's a challenge. This is my personal opinion only. Acting like an asshole or an undisciplined child is not a kink. It's a behavioral problem. For me, Kink and BDSM are games for grown ups, not kids, and I have no desire to spend my Adult fun time with an unruly kid. Again, just my personal view.

[submissiveVIKING]

2 hours ago, DevilsAdvoc8 said:

Personally, I do not participate with Brats. I have in the past and have tamed my share, but what most brats fail to recognize is that bratting requires consent. And most brats I have met violate that like it's a challenge. This is my personal opinion only. Acting like an asshole or an undisciplined child is not a kink. It's a behavioral problem. For me, Kink and BDSM are games for grown ups, not kids, and I have no desire to spend my Adult fun time with an unruly kid. Again, just my personal view.

This may surprise you, but 'Behavioral problems affect over 30 % of the population, more commonly known as NEURO DIVERSITY.... & Other mental health issues....
I have been in a dynamic with a Master, who has the experience to calm down the mind with absolutely no problems at all.... changing into a different person...
For the better.....
If you have a problem with what you term
"Behavioural problems".....Or mental health issues, you should put it in your profile, to save yourself, & others from wasting their time.

[Deleted Member]

2 hours ago, submissiveVIKING said:

This may surprise you, but 'Behavioral problems affect over 30 % of the population, more commonly known as NEURO DIVERSITY.... & Other mental health issues....
I have been in a dynamic with a Master, who has the experience to calm down the mind with absolutely no problems at all.... changing into a different person...
For the better.....
If you have a problem with what you term
"Behavioural problems".....Or mental health issues, you should put it in your profile, to save yourself, & others from wasting their time.

I am sorry, I wasn't aware the the term "Neuro diversity" meant intentionally unruly child. This may surprise you, The term " brat" has not been redefined by kink. It still means what it has always meant. It means someone whom intentionally misbehaves to be defiant and antagonistic.
Bratting is NOT Neuro diversity. It's an intentional act. It's an adult acting like an unruly child. Bratting is not a fucking mental health issue. And it's not cool to diminish actual mental health issues to justify bad behavior.
It's a game where a brat teases and misbehaves to "earn" a punishment from their Dom.

[li****]

Most rewarding about being a brat: it’s never boring you can choose to be nice or mean depending how much you wanna be punished, most challenging: doing what the dom desires in the way he desires it without smack talking, sometimes can get into serious trouble

[Deleted Member]

7 hours ago, DevilsAdvoc8 said:

Personally, I do not participate with Brats. I have in the past and have tamed my share, but what most brats fail to recognize is that bratting requires consent. And most brats I have met violate that like it's a challenge. This is my personal opinion only. Acting like an asshole or an undisciplined child is not a kink. It's a behavioral problem. For me, Kink and BDSM are games for grown ups, not kids, and I have no desire to spend my Adult fun time with an unruly kid. Again, just my personal view.

I’m sorry you’ve had such trouble with brats. I promise we’re not all like that. I’ve met girls like you’re talking about and sometimes it seems to be a real issue of conduct disorder or they’re just plain mean and hard to be around. I definitely view a kink brat differently than your average brat though. I’m polite, respectful and a complete angel 95% of the time. That 5% is saved for when I can tell my Dom is in the mood to be playful with me and ready for a little challenge. Being intelligent, discerning and nurturing are musts when it comes to properly creating a healthy brat dynamic with my Dom. The last thing I want to be is frustrating or annoying to him. It should always be fun for both individuals.

[Deleted Member]

Yesterday at 11:20 PM, Lafunnight69 said:

Most rewarding is earning the submission when she lets the brat side go. The most challenging is when trying to be serious and the brat side is out and trying to talk and they aren’t hearing you because they are being a brat.

I bet it’d be helpful to have a certain look or pet name for your brat when that happens. Something that can snap her out of it because she knows you’re at your limit and will take you seriously.

[be****]

Im interested in hearing this perspective as well.

[Deleted Member]

14 hours ago, InfiniteBrat said:

I’m sorry you’ve had such trouble with brats. I promise we’re not all like that. I’ve met girls like you’re talking about and sometimes it seems to be a real issue of conduct disorder or they’re just plain mean and hard to be around. I definitely view a kink brat differently than your average brat though. I’m polite, respectful and a complete angel 95% of the time. That 5% is saved for when I can tell my Dom is in the mood to be playful with me and ready for a little challenge. Being intelligent, discerning and nurturing are musts when it comes to properly creating a healthy brat dynamic with my Dom. The last thing I want to be is frustrating or annoying to him. It should always be fun for both individuals.

This is fantastic. If I had ever met someone who brats like you, I would for sure have a different attitude.
Thank you for your response.

[submissiveVIKING]

20 hours ago, DevilsAdvoc8 said:

I am sorry, I wasn't aware the the term "Neuro diversity" meant intentionally unruly child. This may surprise you, The term " brat" has not been redefined by kink. It still means what it has always meant. It means someone whom intentionally misbehaves to be defiant and antagonistic.
Bratting is NOT Neuro diversity. It's an intentional act. It's an adult acting like an unruly child. Bratting is not a fucking mental health issue. And it's not cool to diminish actual mental health issues to justify bad behavior.
It's a game where a brat teases and misbehaves to "earn" a punishment from their Dom.

I refer to your original phrase "behavioural problems" .... Hopefully, you will choose your words ALOT more carefully in the future....

[Deleted Member]

As a dom who loves brats (arguably a bratty top myself), I love the banter. I need someone who’ll mess with me a bit because I like to give that energy back. With a brat youve got to earn their submission which feels like an accomplishment, so its kinda like, not only do i get to dominate this person Im attracted to, but also Im so great that I made them want to submit when that isnt their default.

[Deleted Member]

4 hours ago, submissiveVIKING said:

I refer to your original phrase "behavioural problems" .... Hopefully, you will choose your words ALOT more carefully in the future....

I respect your opinion and your right to share it. I wish you the best of luck.

[Deleted Member]

Monday at 11:17 PM, Cuckarella said:

I am a brat and I really enjoy the give and take that comes with being a brat in front of (consenting) others and then being an absolute simp good girl when we get home.

That sounds like such a fun, satisfying balance! Honestly, that's exactly why I posted the question. Trying to figure out those rewarding aspects. The contrast between that playful brat energy out in public, where you get to enjoy the sassy give-and-take, and then having that total release into the simp good girl role in the privacy of home sounds like the absolute perfect reset. It probably keeps the whole dynamic exciting, knowing you can fully switch gears like that. I love that you've figured out what brings you that unique pleasure.

[Deleted Member]

Monday at 11:28 PM, InfiniteBrat said:

Sub brat here! 😇 Most rewarding part about being a brat is that I think we attract the most grounded, intelligent Doms that truly know what they’re doing and have a certain skill others lack. When you find a Dom that truly enjoys and understands a brat, the chemistry is soo fun.

One of the most challenging aspects is people thinking we’re annoying or that we are a brat 24/7 and too much to handle.

Seriously, that is such a perfect way to put it! It totally makes sense that the brat life attracts the sharpest Doms. It takes a genuinely skilled, intelligent person to enjoy and handle that playful energy, which is why the chemistry is fire when it works. The part about people thinking brats are annoying 24/7 and too much to handle? Preach! Like, nope, it's a dynamic, not a personality. Thanks for spelling out the real deal so clearly.

[Deleted Member]

Tuesday at 04:16 PM, DevilsAdvoc8 said:

Personally, I do not participate with Brats. I have in the past and have tamed my share, but what most brats fail to recognize is that bratting requires consent. And most brats I have met violate that like it's a challenge. This is my personal opinion only. Acting like an asshole or an undisciplined child is not a kink. It's a behavioral problem. For me, Kink and BDSM are games for grown ups, not kids, and I have no desire to spend my Adult fun time with an unruly kid. Again, just my personal view.

That's a really interesting, firm take, and honestly, I can totally see where you're coming from. You must have dealt with some seriously frustrating boundary issues to feel that strongly. It totally makes sense that you view kink as games for grown-ups and expect clear consent, because when people violate that, it definitely stops being fun and becomes a genuine behavioral problem. I guess that's why, for me, the fun part of the dynamic comes from that playful joking and witty back-and-forth, which I think is where my potential "brat kink" might sneak in, even though I'm definitely not looking to push those serious boundaries. Thanks for sharing your strong perspective on how important consent is in keeping things mature.

[Deleted Member]

Tuesday at 11:36 PM, InfiniteBrat said:

I bet it’d be helpful to have a certain look or pet name for your brat when that happens. Something that can snap her out of it because she knows you’re at your limit and will take you seriously.

That’s a really good idea! I appreciate the idea there!

[cl****]

November 18, DevilsAdvoc8 said:

Personally, I do not participate with Brats. I have in the past and have tamed my share, but what most brats fail to recognize is that bratting requires consent. And most brats I have met violate that like it's a challenge. This is my personal opinion only. Acting like an asshole or an undisciplined child is not a kink. It's a behavioral problem. For me, Kink and BDSM are games for grown ups, not kids, and I have no desire to spend my Adult fun time with an unruly kid. Again, just my personal view.

Brats need to be with a brat tamer. In D/s for women esp your power is already challenged 24/7 by society in structural ways and I don't enjoy that in an intimate personal relationship. I also see it as a parentifying role dealing with ***age qualities which is less attractive for me personally.

[Deleted Member]

My previous Dom had rules for me around bratting the main two where no bratting before 6am and no bratting before coffee 🤣 Ultimately though I don't consider myself a brat, I love banter and being sarcastic is just my personality. But I was told that sometimes I just need to fight, especially when I'm anxious etc 'being put back' in my place helps me tremendously. Ultimately I work better with someone who can handle a brat because I personally feel an old guard type Dom is too rigid, I like my Dom to be fun and have a personality too and to be flexible with me. Most old guard Dom's I've met have had a rod up their backside and are just miserable fcks who lack the ability to navigate the core needs of a Brat and essentially the understanding to do so.

[submissiveVIKING]

November 18, DevilsAdvoc8 said:

I am sorry, I wasn't aware the the term "Neuro diversity" meant intentionally unruly child. This may surprise you, The term " brat" has not been redefined by kink. It still means what it has always meant. It means someone whom intentionally misbehaves to be defiant and antagonistic.
Bratting is NOT Neuro diversity. It's an intentional act. It's an adult acting like an unruly child. Bratting is not a fucking mental health issue. And it's not cool to diminish actual mental health issues to justify bad behavior.
It's a game where a brat teases and misbehaves to "earn" a punishment from their Dom.

I'm perfectly aware of the term "brat" in kink,
I certainly did not suggest neuro diversity or mental health issues justified bad behaviour;
I should know, I've had bipolar for over 30 years & have studied the neurochemistry of psychology.... But thank you so very much for your eloquent response.... Not to mention your kind apology!!!