Feeling desired for subs

[az****]

Anyone every have those days were the feeling of wanting to be desired trumps every other feeling like wanting to be touch hugged held that feeling intimacy but also safety why do we crave it why does it feel so vitally important

[Deleted Member]

Yes, today is that day 🤗🤗

[Ma****]

Every day should feel like and then anything else that comes with it is a bonus!

[Sq****]

This is human nature, not necessarily the role. It does add a layer to it if it's not already established, but this was the foundation of why my sub became mine with our dynamic.

[Deleted Member]

Yes, absolutely. This was me all day yesterday, and I’ve honestly been feeling that way since the start of the holiday season.

[Deleted Member]

Because as human we like to think we are not ***s with instincts. Safety, comfort, and connection are all primal needs for us. We are not solitary creatures we are pack ***s.

[tn****]

Oh yeah, that's how I've been feeling more the more lately! The need to be truly desired even, if it just means feeling comfortable and holding each other, is incredibly overwhelming. I think at the end if the day, it's that feeling that drives most of us subs towards people with dominant personalities because they express that need and desire towards you so honestly and openly. 🫂

[lb****]

I’ve been feeling that way as well! I’m having a hard time finding an actual dom and not boys trying to play like men. Desires are running very high!

[wb****]

20 minutes ago, lbrownnh said:

I’ve been feeling that way as well! I’m having a hard time finding an actual dom and not boys trying to play like men. Desires are running very high!

This 100% it’s difficult to find an actual Dom who you feel some level of attraction to.
It’s fairly easy to weed out the boys. They’re the ones who have to send you a d… pic within the 10 or so messages, or the profile is empty.

[lb****]

52 minutes ago, wbl51265 said:

This 100% it’s difficult to find an actual Dom who you feel some level of attraction to.
It’s fairly easy to weed out the boys. They’re the ones who have to send you a d… pic within the 10 or so messages, or the profile is empty.

Hahah queen!!!! 👑 you know that’s the truth! A real dom would take his time…..

[OB****]

The need for attention and love is a fundamental psychological drive rooted in the basic human instinct for survival, social connection, and emotional security. Attention is considered the "basic food and water" of a relationship, essential for an individual to feel seen, validated, and worthy.
The Role of Attention and Love
Survival Instinct: Humans are biologically wired to seek attachment and social connection. Historically, being part of a group ensured safety and access to resources. This ancient impulse translates to a modern-day need for social validation and support.
Emotional Validation: Receiving attention and love makes people feel understood, acknowledged, and important. This external validation helps build and maintain self-esteem and self-worth.
Brain Development and Function: Being attended to, especially in childhood, is crucial for healthy brain development and emotional balance. Receiving attention activates the brain's reward system, releasing dopamine and reinforcing the desire for connection.
Foundation for Intimacy: In healthy adult relationships, attention is expressed through actions like active listening, quality time, and emotional support, which foster deep emotional connection and intimacy. Without it, relationships wither.

[OB****]

The need for attention and love is a fundamental psychological drive rooted in the basic human instinct for survival, social connection, and emotional security. Attention is considered the "basic food and water" of a relationship, essential for an individual to feel seen, validated, and worthy.
The Role of Attention and Love
Survival Instinct: Humans are biologically wired to seek attachment and social connection. Historically, being part of a group ensured safety and access to resources. This ancient impulse translates to a modern-day need for social validation and support.
Emotional Validation: Receiving attention and love makes people feel understood, acknowledged, and important. This external validation helps build and maintain self-esteem and self-worth.
Brain Development and Function: Being attended to, especially in childhood, is crucial for healthy brain development and emotional balance. Receiving attention activates the brain's reward system, releasing dopamine and reinforcing the desire for connection.
Foundation for Intimacy: In healthy adult relationships, attention is expressed through actions like active listening, quality time, and emotional support, which foster deep emotional connection and intimacy. Without it, relationships wither.

[OB****]

The need for attention and love is a fundamental psychological drive rooted in the basic human instinct for survival, social connection, and emotional security. Attention is considered the "basic food and water" of a relationship, essential for an individual to feel seen, validated, and worthy.
The Role of Attention and Love
Survival Instinct: Humans are biologically wired to seek attachment and social connection. Historically, being part of a group ensured safety and access to resources. This ancient impulse translates to a modern-day need for social validation and support.
Emotional Validation: Receiving attention and love makes people feel understood, acknowledged, and important. This external validation helps build and maintain self-esteem and self-worth.

[lo****]

Definitely. You’re not alone in that

[He****]

I get like that a lot

[Deleted Member]

The feeling of belonging is a basic human need, it's a social function. Inside of this social hierarchy there are roles of dominance and submission. Everyone in society is submitting to the vast majority of societal expectations daily with little thoughts about it. How you or I do think, feel and explore the topic is quite Individualized.

[da****]

I need it because mommy and daddy issues plus trauma

[Deleted Member]

YES. I get soo clingy and feel *** and I hate it. The more *** I make myself to my Dom, the more I find myself needing validation and reassurance. Seeing his desire for me is what makes me feel safe enough to remain *** to him so I guess it’s just something they need to get used to! lol 😝

[Da****]

I gotta sub for you but u need to return the favor

[Da****]

Only if the favor is returned

[Co****]

Yes omg I do all the time hug me from behind