Work out of state

[Gn****]

How do you find partners when you travel for work five days a week and are introverted? Asking from Florida.

[Deleted Member]

depends on the travel type. Lots of men stay in hotels during the week...women not so much

[UK****]

It sounds like your bigger problem is being introverted, rather than working away.

From a practical point, you can use filters on the site to search in the areas of work.  Or, realistically, don't most people meet when they aren't working, so talk to people from your home area.

[Da****]

Good question

[JackJonesHull]

I would have been seriously curious to know the answer when I was still travelling. Interesting company would have been delightful.

But when I was I think I was always too fatigued from work to get up to anything.

[th****]

You're doing great and asking the right people! Hopefully more people from other states that you travel to will respond, but it's a good idea to let us know what states

[Deleted Member]

yeah me too...if i was that ...in need i just used the ATM

[ey****]

when you say travel for work - I guess is this, you live in one place and have long commutes 5 days a week, or that you live in one place at (say) the weekend and then live somewhere else the other 5 days for work?

If the latter (or even maybe the former) what is to stop you relocating?  Cos if you're missing nothing in your weekend abode, relocation makes things easier.  

I guess a reason not to would be  if the out-of-state job was temporary, as this could bring it's own issues in that meeting someone in *that* state, well you won't be living there forever -- I guess, just, make the most of your weekends?  There must be soemthing you'd like doing?

[Deleted Member]

I don't travel for work as much as I used to, but when I do even now I'm usually gone for 2 to 3 weeks at a time in different states for different projects.
A lot of the times it really depends on where you're traveling to. It can be hit or miss based on the population or lifestyle within the area. I do use apps which in heavier populated areas than allow for direct connection the lifestyle, but in less populated areas or areas where there are less bars or clubs, and perhaps maybe more religious buildings then becomes more difficult.
Being introverted doesn't help because in those areas you tend to have to put yourself out there more. If you travel to those areas regularly, you need to find some good spots that you can go to on a regular basis while you're there and become more of a normal or regular seed in the business and people start to recognize you, including the women, especially the women.
From there, you can get a feel for all of them and understand who's who. Hopefully finding someone that you click with.

[Sa****]

I would set up a coffee or lunch date in the city you are going to and then while hanging with that person find a nice local spot to have dinner or a drink

[zu****]

I would work at finding a partner at my home base who is patient and can work with my schedule and sometimes travel with me.

[Da****]

7 hours ago, Master_C71 said:

I don't travel for work as much as I used to, but when I do even now I'm usually gone for 2 to 3 weeks at a time in different states for different projects.
A lot of the times it really depends on where you're traveling to. It can be hit or miss based on the population or lifestyle within the area. I do use apps which in heavier populated areas than allow for direct connection the lifestyle, but in less populated areas or areas where there are less bars or clubs, and perhaps maybe more religious buildings then becomes more difficult.
Being introverted doesn't help because in those areas you tend to have to put yourself out there more. If you travel to those areas regularly, you need to find some good spots that you can go to on a regular basis while you're there and become more of a normal or regular seed in the business and people start to recognize you, including the women, especially the women.
From there, you can get a feel for all of them and understand who's who. Hopefully finding someone that you click with.

What apps have you used that are successful?

[Deleted Member]

I have used Tinder, Facebook Personal, Pure, FETLife, Hinge, Taimi, and a bunch more. They all have hot and cold regions.

[Deleted Member]

FETlife is really good to check to see if the the region you were going to or are in, has any social clubs or activities that you can join. I didn't recommend that initially because of the whole introvert issue. If you're doing meet ups for the social parties, you really have to put yourself out there prove yourself to those locals

[Pu****]

thank you I’ve never thought to look up social clubs or activities to join Social party sound great

[sl****]

As a guy its harder. It takes me a few months from time to time so being on the move will make it harder. Best thing to do is to find a bar and find a girl from there. Now me I dont like doing things with girls when there under the influence.

[Deleted Member]

5 hours ago, slick49585939 said:

As a guy its harder. It takes me a few months from time to time so being on the move will make it harder. Best thing to do is to find a bar and find a girl from there. Now me I dont like doing things with girls when there under the influence.

That's why I like the social clubs and events off FETLife. A lot of the events are BYOB and because they are regular locations there is also serious restrictions on *** too. You can meet a lot of woman who don't get sh*tfaced.

[Mi****]

I typically find ppl using apps & other online sources. Craigslist used to be my go to about 10 years ago. Very sketchy & I did go on a date with an actual homeless person in Seattle but I also met a really dope person.

So far for me it’s been that, lucky accidents outside or low key events that had an activity or interest I liked so much that I could handle all that energy for longer then usual.

[Ed****]

Stay in hotels more oriented to business/ work. Everyone there is alone wants to be somewhere else but can't. Especially if you're in the same spot all week. A solid dopamine release is so very nice. Also, sometimes words aren't even exchanged. I've had room keys just sat on my table. I've just left keys on a table.

[Deleted Member]

Try Doubles list I have had good luck and it’s free had fun finding guys for my long distance girl !!! Plus met a lot of good people !!! It’s just like a lot of sites you have to go navigate through the crappy one !!! Met both couples single men and woman there’s a variety of different people !!!