Body image

[Deleted Member]

It’s not what’s on the outside it’s what’s in the inside!!! It’s something you need to work on you need to like yourself !!!

[St****]

You need to love yourself, no matter what and you will attract anyone.

[pa****]

I love stretch marks I’m not gonna lie ur wonderful I’ll deff freak u off

[su****]

First it is never too late.
Second most men expect stretch marks and meat on your bones if you are over 25.
Third your person is out there. My wife passed and through prayer a woman was led to me that was everything I asked for. Im 49 with two school age kids and I just met the woman that will become my second wife in August. By the way she doesn't like her body either. Neither did my first wife. Woman are super critical of thier own bodies.

[Sa****]

Women feel flawed, for so many reasons. The things that we see, that we are self conscious of, are not judged when we find someone that we can truly trust.

[bl****]

Your perfect the way u are!!

[Vi****]

I love bigger woman , but my love, at 170 you aren’t that big. I’m 20lb more than you and don’t consider myself big 🤷🏼‍♀️
You’re gorgeous 💕💕💕

[Deleted Member]

Please please don’t isolate yourself it can lead to Agrrophoia ( *** of open spaces ) I’m a widower of a wife who sufffered from
Anextity and agrophopia and body issues as well,I myself suffer from body issues but try my best not to let it beat me,The best advice believe in your self you are gorgeous,I p it some aftershave on and tell my myself who’s a pretty boy then watch out ladies I’m on the pull,You are simply stunning put your glad rags on and enjoy yourself always

[Mi****]

Personally, dancing freely by myself & workouts make me feel more beautiful & stronger. If you feel you’re lacking confidence, then do something that makes you feel proud of yourself, when you keep doing it you trust yourself more, and it slowly leads to other areas of your life if you’re intentional about it.

Weight loss especially after 35 is tougher, our hormones need to be in check or all the work you do won’t translate to weight loss & a lot of us overdo it thinking we have to in order to see results. Plus daily stressors we don’t deal w properly turns into stubborn belly fat/binges or unhealthy fasting.

If you really want to be healthy/lose weight, slow & steady will get you there & help you stay. Make a goal, break down habits that you can change to achieve the goal, try 1-2 new things at a time, once mastered move onto another.

Always forgive yourself & realize nothing will ensure you will be motivated for every occasion but if you say you’ll do something & make sure you actually do it, your will becomes all the motivation needed.

[Is****]

You’re sensitive and a perfectionist. Put your passion into your desires and be strong and free ❤️‍🔥

[Tr****]

Passion and desire

[ev****]

I actually like it when a woman has a few stretch marks….. but like a badge of honor….
Just like my gray hair, I earned every one of those……., And I will not color my hair..!
I had knee surgery back in 2002, and gained 35 pounds while I was off work. !
I was 216 the day I had surgery… and about 243 when I went back to work……!!!
I’ve still got some of that weight !
But hey, I’m 56 years old and I’m dealing with it…. I’ve had trouble with my weight my whole life except for about 15 years when I was thin
And in good shape. My advice to you, is to try to exercise more and lose a little bit slowly and try not to fixate on it.. which I know is completely impossible, I understand, not wanting to take your shirt off and all that…
But at a certain point and age, you try to look as good as you can, but you gotta say fuck it
Good luck…., I wish you the best..

[kr****]

My whole life I've refused to take my shirt off. Which will definitely not get you laid when the girl you're with wants to go swimming or anything like that. When I was young I was super skinny and embarrassed so I did everything I cud to gain weight and nothing worked. Then at 21 destroyed both my feet and was in a wheel chair for a couple of years. That cured my skinny for good. And I didn't gain weight proportionately so still can't take my shirt off which still will not get you laid. What's crazy is I find girls more attractive if they a little bigger and really don't judge anyone and even think it's hot af when a girl has the confidence to rock a bikini when most wud tell her not to. So why can't we think like that when it comes to ourselves. What I'm trying to say is there's a lot of us that wud way rather see a woman with curves a little bigger that a girl with a 14 year old boy body. This prolly didn't make any sense or help anyone but I meant well I promise.

[Deleted Member]

i am 20 years old and never have been in an intimate relationship before. i can't put my mind to just sharing my body with someone because all i can think of in that moment is how unattractive i look. not just this "i have repressed sexuality" but my body image issues prevents me even from socialising. really don't know what to do about it, or how to start to love myself:(

[Deleted Member]

Nearly every man and woman will
At some point in there life’s have a body image problem its totally normal,It sounds to me like your suffering from Dismorfia ( you look in the mirror and see a untrue image of yourself) Try going out and just be yourself wear some aftershave that definitely gives me confidence boost,Don’t worry about not meeting a woman it will happen just take your time and build up your confidence with her,Remember baby steps will always make a difference too you both and most importantly talk about yourself and what you like and what turns her on as well,It always takes two to tango,Rome wasn’t built in a day take your time and always show her love and respect it will pay dividends later

[ra****]

You have to first of all remember that you are brainwashed like we all are by unrealistic airbrushed models in advertising that are feeding off of your insecurity and self doubt. Start looking at art, not ads, and start appreciating the beauty in places that don't make megacorporations more ***. Beauty is not about perfection it is about life

[No****]

Your body doesn’t need to be ‘fixed’ or ‘perfect’ to be worthy of desire, pleasure, or pride. It already is; every curve, every mark, every inch of you is you. The only thing that needs adjusting is the voice in your head that dares to tell you otherwise. So take a deep breath, look in the mirror, and tell yourself: This body is made to be worshipped. Then go out there and find your man, believe me loads are waiting for you😉

[si****]

Kudos. You identified some of your anxieties. Remember we all have anxieties- not all admit to their insecurities. I like to get to know her.
Then it easier to talk about whatever. Cheers

[ny****]

It’s always good to talk about these things openly with a partner. Happy to listen and grow together.

[Gr****]

If you’re looking for love the right person will love you. If you’re looking for sex, there’s plenty of people willing. You could bet that.

[mi****]

Going to go against the grain here with probably an unpopular opinion - and I mean in it in the most respectful way possible. I honestly think that if you have exhausted as many conservative options as possible outside of diet and exercise (psychotherapy, self-love, positive mental rein***ment, etc.), then you may want to consider surgical intervention and cosmetic procedures to fill the gap. And, what’s more, even if diet and exercise is something that has become a casualty of how you feel about yourself, there are plenty of weight loss (hunger suppressing ***) available on the market now.

Although risky and potentially expensive, it may be something that you owe to yourself to do as an alternative. Many people will often give the same advice over and over again (from what I’ve experienced) about self-love and intrinsic positivity. In the end, it’s about how YOU feel about yourself and how YOU ultimately wish to see yourself. If all the other advice works, then fantastic; but if it doesn’t, then when will it? When might you be happy? Sometimes you have to take a leap of faith… you never know.

My two cents.

P.S. - I know how you feel… keep your head up.

[dr****]

I’m going through the same thing

[hu****]

Every body is beautiful in its own way no matter what you need to love your body for what it is and build your sex drive as you are. Get yourself a couple of toys and do things in the dark. Then slowly build yourself up to watching yourself then you get the drive back and you start to see yourself enjoying it and even in your own beautiful body will start to want more

[Deleted Member]

I've learned that how you view your body isn't how others do. The trick is work towards what you want to be now. (I'm going through first stages of bariatric surgery prep so I've become more.of an optimist lately. Sorry if this sounds cheesy. Lol)