Can you have anxiety and be a Dom?

[Se****]

I think I know the answer, but I would like some input!

also, it's mild, and from PTSD. I am high functioning, but I figured there might be more people like me out here who might also want the question asked.

[Daddybrains]

Yes, you can have anxiety and be a Dom. If specific things trigger you, discuss that with your partners and set up appropriate limits.

[tr****]

I have adhd . It sucks having it

[Se****]

6 minutes ago, Daddybrains said:

Yes, you can have anxiety and be a Dom. If specific things trigger you, discuss that with your partners and set up appropriate limits.

pretty much red/ yellow light if anything comes up out of limits- like if it sprung up, right?

[Daddybrains]

4 minutes ago, SelestialBun said:

pretty much red/ yellow light if anything comes up out of limits- like if it sprung up, right?

A Dom or top can also have a safeword. But if you know the PTSD-related triggers up front you can also discuss them as limits. There’s this archetype we have of Doms as people of flawless morality and unflinching resolve, but we’re all just people.

[Re****]

Red/yellow light is a great way to keep things going without completely shutting down the mood (ofc unless red and needed). You can definitely still be a Dom, it may be a bit difficult to find someone who will have the patience for it but there's definitely always somebody for you. Unfortunately it's a lot of just trial and error and it becomes an error more times than you'd like.

[Un****]

Only if it shows

[Un****]

Just like every day-to-day, just continue forward

[Do****]

Yes

[jo****]

Anyone who Has ever lived or will ever be alive will have anxiety and depression at some time. the question is are you going to allow it to ruin your good times?

[Deleted Member]

I utilize the structure of our agreed dynamic as a tool for my anxiety. It's never the end all be all, everything would implode if so. Using mental health structure as part of my Dom/sub structure creates a catalyst for continued stability. It works if you work it ~

[el****]

You can just need to take it easy and slow deep breaths

[th****]

Confidence, and trust.

[Si****]

56 minutes ago, damnitwhatsmyname said:

I utilize the structure of our agreed dynamic as a tool for my anxiety. It's never the end all be all, everything would implode if so. Using mental health structure as part of my Dom/sub structure creates a catalyst for continued stability. It works if you work it ~

Absolutely yes to all of this. I’ve woven breathwork, somatic practices, and Reiki energy work into my D/s approach as a way to support healing, both for myself and for others navigating trauma and deeper self-understanding.

[ey****]

Short answer. Yes

In fact; I know many who do

Longer answer: like anything anxiety related a lot is looking at how you manage it, how you apply existing techniques to it.  Whether there's additional help/support you need which you can seek 

[mo****]

Personally I think everyone has some form of anxiety at something or some point! For those who are born to lead that will fade and instinctually will kick in! For others who have been thrust into situations because there is a lack of dominant individuals as long as there not in a area where there are others they should be fine

[Deleted Member]

What would you do if your sub had PTSD or CPTSD? Will you learn how to support them or avoid having further interactions with them? I really need some opinions about this.

[ki****]

I mean, sure. Look at me, I'm a dom but outside of the scene you wouldn't think it. If anything it helps I think, gives you a better understanding and ability to support

[le****]

I do

[MrHulkS]

The simply answer is Yes You can be a Dom and have anxiety, I have done extreme research in to anxiety and mental health as I suffer with it but over the years I have learnt how to deal with it, The thing is people see a Dom/Domme Master/Mistress as a high and mighty figure and forget that they are human and have feelings and have vanilla life problems

[La****]

Someone’s disability, illness, and social status doesn’t determine the value of their characters, preferences or what they should or should not like. BDSM and kink lifestyle is about knowing your preference and know how to be responsible to your and others respective role. Know how to respect the rules, boundaries and know how to navigate problems. If you already practice those fundamental rules—then youre pretty much set. The thing about human being is; no one is perfect but ones will always able to learn, discover and improve.

[Photoguy791]

Of course! A Dom(me) can be ***. No one is perfect.

[Se****]

8 hours ago, damnitwhatsmyname said:

I utilize the structure of our agreed dynamic as a tool for my anxiety. It's never the end all be all, everything would implode if so. Using mental health structure as part of my Dom/sub structure creates a catalyst for continued stability. It works if you work it ~

ooooooo any helpful tidbits on this I wonder how that could look for me

[du****]

I have ADHD and am a pleasure dom

[ey****]

9 hours ago, moblaze said:

Personally I think everyone has some form of anxiety at something or some point!

Probably, but there's a different between being worried something will go well - which is fairly normal

and actually suffering with anxiety