A private gallery by any other name……

[FE****]

2 hours ago, horndog85 said:

What gets me is this guy is disrespectful but still getting a conversation back.. but a respectful guy comes to chat with you, you won't even give a hello back.

Nobody owes you a conversation, regardless of how respectful your approach is.  

[De****]

Lovely poetry 😌

[Ba****]

1 hour ago, FETMod-RG said:

Nobody owes you a conversation, regardless of how respectful your approach is.  

Wait who said otherwise?? I’m not sure but wasn’t horndog85 more confused that the example even made it to the first capital “NO”??
In this case it would even have been more understandable to outright block instead of ignore after the “RIGHT NOW” part right at the start
If that kind of behavior is actually common here then this is a conversation that needs to happen at some point, not victim blaming here but there need to be at least two for any kind of exchange to happen, this should indeed be mostly about “how to behave properly”(what not to do) but part of it should also include a “how to handle when the other doesn’t”(what to do in case)
so what are you trying to do?? You blocking potential discussion now makes your “mod note” at the top of this comment section look like satire

[FE****]

1 hour ago, Barthold said:

 

Wait who said otherwise?? I’m not sure but wasn’t horndog85 more confused that the example even made it to the first capital “NO”??
In this case it would even have been more understandable to outright block instead of ignore after the “RIGHT NOW” part right at the start
If that kind of behavior is actually common here then this is a conversation that needs to happen at some point, not victim blaming here but there need to be at least two for any kind of exchange to happen, this should indeed be mostly about “how to behave properly”(what not to do) but part of it should also include a “how to handle when the other doesn’t”(what to do in case)
so what are you trying to do?? You blocking potential discussion now makes your “mod note” at the top of this comment section look like satire

Not blocking potential discussion but pointing out that expecting access to private galleries and expecting a reply are signs of entitlement that aren't acceptable.  Kink is centred around consent.  To expect either fails to understand that the consent isn't given just by a person's expectation

[Ri****]

I haven't met a lot of true doms on here yet, mostly guys saying they are. Unfortunately, all the ones I have met aren't any whare near me 😪

[te****]

2 hours ago, RigelVenus said:

I haven't met a lot of true doms on here yet, mostly guys saying they are. Unfortunately, all the ones I have met aren't any whare near me 😪

I'm sorry your having problems finding true doms, for every true dom here i would guess 50 fake doms lurking in the shadows, such is the game of online apps

[ph****]

That is why I don’t have one. No reason to.

[PixieDust]

Thank you for everyone’s comments and likes on my poem.  I wrote this poem as an educational piece on entitlement with regards to accessing our private galleries and did intentionally use satire to get my point across.

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Over the course of the last 7 ½ years I have received well in excess of 400,000 messages which have been varying in nature from delightful to atrocious, so I am well versed to write on this subject and what I have been subjected to when I have politely declined giving access to my private gallery. 

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The words I used in my poem were exact comments that have been said to me, even recently as three days ago. Some of my satirical remarks were my thoughts at the time.

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I should not be a'bused or cussed out for politely saying  No, nor bullied into sharing content that I have chosen to make private.  Nor should anyone else for that matter and I am fully aware that many are.

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Whilst there are many examples I could give of the virile comments I have received, it would be remiss of me not to mention those who have been polite and said “no worries. I understand” and accepting of my decision without any hint of a'buse, rudeness or entitlement.  To them I say thank you.

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I will end here with, we need to be kinder and more respectful to each other and when someone does say No, accept it gracefully.

[Chops]

Very well said you should be proud very good poem and the meaning loved it

[Tn****]

45 minutes ago, PixieDust said:

Thank you for everyone’s comments and likes on my poem.  I wrote this poem as an educational piece on entitlement with regards to accessing our private galleries and did intentionally use satire to get my point across.

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Over the course of the last 7 ½ years I have received well in excess of 400,000 messages which have been varying in nature from delightful to atrocious, so I am well versed to write on this subject and what I have been subjected to when I have politely declined giving access to my private gallery. 

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The words I used in my poem were exact comments that have been said to me, even recently as three days ago. Some of my satirical remarks were my thoughts at the time.

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I should not be a'bused or cussed out for politely saying  No, nor bullied into sharing content that I have chosen to make private.  Nor should anyone else for that matter and I am fully aware that many are.

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Whilst there are many examples I could give of the virile comments I have received, it would be remiss of me not to mention those who have been polite and said “no worries. I understand” and accepting of my decision without any hint of a'buse, rudeness or entitlement.  To them I say thank you.

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I will end here with, we need to be kinder and more respectful to each other and when someone does say No, accept it gracefully.

Very well expressed  Very well 

 

[Et****]

/doubt

[jo****]

3 hours ago, Barthold said:

What about the large chunk of “fake doms” we non-perfect people call “noob”?? I was fake at least from 15-20, i just faked well enough to become “real” over time

I don’t consider anyone recognizing their new status and wanting to learn a, ”fake Dom.” In fact, one of the things that makes a, “real Dom,” is the ability to recognize your own areas of growth and to always be learning.

[do****]

Another great one Pixie 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾. Anyone that cannot accept the sentence "No" is a child and should not be around technology. It's dangerous

[wo****]

Yesterday at 07:36 PM, Barthold said:

Wait who said otherwise?? I’m not sure but wasn’t horndog85 more confused that the example even made it to the first capital “NO”??
In this case it would even have been more understandable to outright block instead of ignore after the “RIGHT NOW” part right at the start
If that kind of behavior is actually common here then this is a conversation that needs to happen at some point, not victim blaming here but there need to be at least two for any kind of exchange to happen, this should indeed be mostly about “how to behave properly”(what not to do) but part of it should also include a “how to handle when the other doesn’t”(what to do in case)
so what are you trying to do?? You blocking potential discussion now makes your “mod note” at the top of this comment section look like satire

Not horndog85. He didn’t say it. He didn’t even imply it. It’s pretty outrageous that FETMod-RG accused him of it though. I’m glad you spoke up.
I bet horndog85 is too.
It’s a normal and valid human need to be seen and heard. Feel disappointed and confused when that isn’t met is also a valid emotional response. A healthy response to someone sharing those feelings is to show empathy, as you have.
Jumping on someone and lecturing them about not being owed a conversation is actually thoughtless and cruel. All horndog85 did was share his understandable feelings, he didn’t even express any anger.

[FE****]

1 hour ago, woburn169344 said:

 

Not horndog85. He didn’t say it. He didn’t even imply it. It’s pretty outrageous that FETMod-RG accused him of it though. I’m glad you spoke up.
I bet horndog85 is too.
It’s a normal and valid human need to be seen and heard. Feel disappointed and confused when that isn’t met is also a valid emotional response. A healthy response to someone sharing those feelings is to show empathy, as you have.
Jumping on someone and lecturing them about not being owed a conversation is actually thoughtless and cruel. All horndog85 did was share his understandable feelings, he didn’t even express any anger.
 

What do you think he meant when he said "but a respectful guy comes to chat with you, you won't even give a hello back."

[Ba****]

4 hours ago, joesarciii said:

I also spoke out of turn. I apologize for my outburst. My annoyance with men who *** women because they take on the moniker of Dom” knows no bounds

Well it’s honestly a understandable reaction and i think most men(including myself of course) would share it
But i tend to assume that the section of men intending to *** women is smaller among the ones openly calling themselves “dom” and quite a few of the ones not claiming any titles should be classed as the closeted and uneducated
In a vanilla context the stereotypical “belting your woman because your dinner is cold” is *** but in a BDSM context it’s something you only negotiate for if you like cold food because as far as i understood it the primary difference between “proper use” and *** of a woman is how that woman feels about it so a lot of it can just boil down to compatibility, education and open&honest communication

[Go****]

Yesterday at 10:43 PM, FETMod-RG said:

What do you think he meant when he said "but a respectful guy comes to chat with you, you won't even give a hello back."

I appreciate you calling that out. I felt the same thing when I read that comment. Even if that's not how he intended it, that's how it was perceived and impact > intent.

[Up****]

Lol. The fact that some "Men" act this way blows me away.

[Ga****]

Monday at 10:43 PM, FETMod-RG said:

What do you think he meant when he said "but a respectful guy comes to chat with you, you won't even give a hello back."

It reads as entitlement. Frankly, it sounds very "nice guy", and such always raises red flags

[Deleted Member]

Wow , someone apparently missed the common decency class. I was reminded daily from the age of about 4-18. Some people's nerves