To be or not to be: Princess vs Goddess

[Da****]

Hey all!
I am new to this in the way that its public for the first time lol
But I find myself swinging from wanting to be spoiled like a Princess on the soft side, to demanding my care and attention on the Goddess side.
It feels almost like a villian in a mask.

Is there a good equilibrium?
I can do both and I feel them equally strong depending on the given energy of the other person.
Suggestions?

[Ama-gi]

I think like most things in the kink world, there is no right or wrong answer to this, only to try and embrace every part of yourself honestly and completely. 
Then if you are lucky you will find that one person that compliments both parts of you, and once felt like a villian in a mask, just feels like an accepted part of yourself.

.... Or if you are really kinky, you just meet up with different people to address the different parts of you! Either way it is fun to explore, just remember to be yourself, your whole self. 

 

[Da****]

9 minutes ago, Ama-gi said:

I think like most things in the kink world, there is no right or wrong answer to this, only to try and embrace every part of yourself honestly and completely. 
Then if you are lucky you will find that one person that compliments both parts of you, and once felt like a villian in a mask, just feels like an accepted part of yourself.

.... Or if you are really kinky, you just meet up with different people to address the different parts of you! Either way it is fun to explore, just remember to be yourself, your whole self. 

 

Poly or multiple partners interests me as well! There is a whole world i wanna know but idk where to start

[S-****]

Ama-gi nailed this right on the head. If I could add anything, don’t ever feel like you have to choose between Dom or sub. You can switch in any way your heart desires. The sky is the limit!

[Da****]

2 minutes ago, S-7 said:

Ama-gi nailed this right on the head. If I could add anything, don’t ever feel like you have to choose between Dom or sub. You can switch in any way your heart desires. The sky is the limit!

In my research thats what I would call myself as well! Switch leaning sub 😅

[Ama-gi]

1 minute ago, Darling-mimi said:

 

Poly or multiple partners interests me as well! There is a whole world i wanna know but idk where to start

Slowly. Is the best advice I can offer. There are a million and one good things out there, but, there is also a lot of bad. The good people will wait for you to be ready, the bad ones wont. 
I dont know if the naming is the same, but find local munches, socials in public places to go, meet as many people as you can before you start getting into the physical stuff. Make friends with people that have no interest in having a relationship with you, not in a bad way, but have them as a sounding board and safety net as we all need those, no matter who we are or where we live. 

So yeah, go slow, be honest with the people you meet and yourself, and just let things play out.

[Deleted Member]

Consider being a Switch. One day you are the Dom, the nest day you are the Sub. Looks like you've  gotten the same advice from others. I have always been Dominant myself, but want to experiment with being a Switch to see what it's like.

[lo****]

Bern an active dom a long time feel free to ask anything

[Sa****]

You find out what you like and can evolve or change it. Doesn't have to be fixed.

[on****]

You can be both those people.

I don’t even think you need to label either of those, or distinguish a kink label for them.

Sometimes you are a goddess. From a submissive point of view, in that role you are to be revered and ***ed. Sometimes you are a princess. That doesn’t mean they still can’t submit to you. Maybe you order them to pamper and protect you as part of service.

(I may be biased because I have a wicked bodyguard thing.)

You may also decide that when you are in princess mode, you want someone else to take a more dominant role over you. If it’s not your sub, it might be someone else.

Because I switch, I’m incredibly comfortable in a “lieutenant” position. Top to most, bottom to the ultimate authority in the group.

And often that person’s command is seen though by me.

But these are all valid forms of self-expression.

[MrSmooth7764akaDaddy]

Princess

[Th****]

I love this topic .
For me these are 2 sides of the same coin. But then again I am a switch so that’s easy to postulate for me 🙃☺️🤷🏽‍♀️

For me either side can show up depending what the other person s energy holds.

Wonderful journey it is, either way, enjoy and embrace it to your liking

[Da****]

1 hour ago, TheGoodGirl_ said:

I love this topic .
For me these are 2 sides of the same coin. But then again I am a switch so that’s easy to postulate for me 🙃☺️🤷🏽‍♀️

For me either side can show up depending what the other person s energy holds.

Wonderful journey it is, either way, enjoy and embrace it to your liking

Yes its very much energy.

[Ro****]

For me, as solo poly, i get both in different ways from different dynamics. It really depends on the vibe and energy of the other person.

[po****]

Heyyyo

[Ku****]

I aggre with RogeLynx, why not both?