Numbing cream for p'ain during penetration?

[Sam_the_twin]

I don't know if this is the right category but i have a couple questions for people with a vagina who experience p ain during penetration.
1. Do you use numbing cream and if so which one?
2. How do you apply the cream and how long does it help?
3. What else do you do to help with the ***?
4. How should I tell a prospective sex partner that I am scared of penetration because it has hurt before?

Thank you so much for answering and please be nice in the comments!

[Lo****]

There is an actual CBD cream for women who experience this and it helps with desire and orgasm, I think it's called Love cream and it was created by a female OBgyn

[Deleted Member]

1. Is there an underlying medical issue that affects the elasticity of the tissues?
2. Do you own dilators to help you work up to the size of your partner?
3. Does it help to extend foreplay before penetration?

Be careful with numbing the area. *** is a good warning system to keep you from tearing. I would spend more time massaging the area during foreplay with some gentle stretching. If penetration still hurts, go back to foreplay, massaging, and gentle stretching.

If you find that you still have trouble getting to the size you need to be able to accept your partner, consider talking to a doctor about possible elasticity issues.

[ex****]

So I think you need to find out why you have the ***. For me I had that *** because I had too tight of pelvic floor muscles. I saw a pelvic floor physiotherapist and within weeks it was better.

[ex****]

Also is the *** internal? Or external? What kind of *** does it feel like?

[Ll****]

If you don't feel comfortable learn how to to say no unless you're partner wants to go first and feel what you are going to feel as well

[si****]

I would have it checked out by Dr. There are several reasons why it could be ***ful.

[sirgunny1019]

Don't use numbing cream with sexual acts if it doesn't feel good (or neutral) then something is wrong.

[Sam_the_twin]

I dont have a medical issue as far as I know and I go to the doctor regularly.
The thing is that I even have *** when someone else tries to put even one finger in but when I do it myself it's fine and i am able to put bigger dildos in when I'm by myself🙈
That's why I thought numbing creams would be helpful🙈

[sp****]

Just use lubricant

[sirgunny1019]

That's sounding like you're nervous about it. You need to try to be more relaxed when you're letting other people do stuff. Also, try to guide them. If you don't speak up, they will keep doing the part that hurts. If you could, try starting with stuff yourself then let them use a toy on you that you just were using.

[Li****]

Sounds like trauma related, discuss further with your doctor. It's not supposed to be like that and numb it why? If you don't feel ***, you won't feel pleasure either.

[Do****]

A numbing cream is more likely to make the *** worse long term because its covering the cause of the *** and you can get into a nervous system feedback loop that makes your vagina more reactive. Get pelvic floor physical therapy to address the cause.

[Cw****]

We use anal ease

[Deleted Member]

Hey sweety, what helps with relaxation during penetration is feeling safe with your sex partner and your environment. Deep breathing helps your body to relax. When exhaling he has more space to slide in. You can also use water based lube. All the advice from the other ladies is also 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿 good luck girl.

[92****]

You don’t always have to fuck her hard, in-fact sometimes that’s not right to do… Sometimes you gotta make sweet love and fucking give her some smooches too… Sometimes you have to squeeze, sometimes you have to say please, sometimes you have to say “Hey, I’m gonna fuck you - gently!” - Tenacious D

[Deleted Member]

I think it must be psychological. Maybe in the previous times the *** was too intense, and now you’re scared it will be the same now, so it starts as soon as your partner does anything. It might help to talk to your partner about it, be sure that they understand the need to be slow, as well as consult a psychologist/psychotherapist

[Su****]

It's definitely worth consulting a Dr about vaginismus which can be treated with meds/therapy/tools/techniques. My wife experiences this condition and was never able to overcome it (37 yo virgin). It can be quite ***ful and hard to work through. Not impossible for a lot of people though, so like I said consult a physician. Good luck.

[ra****]

Definitely do not use a numbing cream. Your body is telling you that something is not right and you need to listen to it. Not ignore it. You might not be turned on enough or a whole bunch of other things. The person to talk to this about is a doctor. For real.

[Deleted Member]

Ditto what everyone said on numbing creme. *** is your body's warning system. Generally a warning to investigate or STOP doing whatever is causing it.

[ar****]

Pelvic massage can help a lot!! I suffer from vaginismus myself.

[Sam_the_twin]

Thank you all for your advice😚
I will definitely talk to a doctor about this and try all the other methods you mentioned!

[ar****]

2 hours ago, armychik said:

Pelvic massage can help a lot!! I suffer from vaginismus myself.

You mention pelvic massage, have you ever heard of vaginal "de-armorment"? I think that's a practice used by some tantric gigolo's, aimed at massaging the vagina to release stress stored there. I wonder if that's related.

[ar****]

1 minute ago, arnhem961 said:

You mention pelvic massage, have you ever heard of vaginal "de-armorment"? I think that's a practice used by some tantric gigolo's, aimed at massaging the vagina to release stress stored there. I wonder if that's related.

Typically called "Yoni de-armouring".

[Ha****]

Get your hormones checked, female hormones. Maybe you need some dhea, progesterone, estrogen or testosterone- all required for sexual and body health.