What is domination?

[Deleted Member]

Can I ask what is domination please? Is it just role playing? A lifestyle? A desire use someone and the power that comes from that? What does it mean to the people who know please?

[Du****]

It's a lifestyle, a personality trait. It's deeply ingrained naturally.

[Kr****]

I don't have dom desire. For me the control is not a turn on really. We dom all girl.... turn on is being slutty and acts.

[Kr****]

We do not practice impact, ***. For us it is deprivation, ***, dares and challenges, sluts, praise and punishment.
Some restraints.

[Mr****]

Like most things in life it's a spectrum. There are people who enjoy domination only in certain aspects of their life and others who want it to be more of a 24/7 experience. What it boils down to is the person who control is given to. So you can find domination in many other aspects of kink. The sadist, the rigger, the owner, the Daddy/Mommy/Caregiver. In all of these dynamics there is usually one partner who is performing actions and one receiving those actions. The one giving is in the dominant position.

In a more personal view. I don't believe that dominance or submission are personality traits. They are roles. So for me while I generally prefer to be in a Dom or Top role I would not call myself a dominant (Unless I'm ***d to by an app lol). Being dominant is not who I am but what I enjoy 9/10 times.

[jj****]

For me it’s a game. Like play fighting. I enjoy the power exchange because it’s an enjoyable way to see how far you can push yourself and your partner within established boundaries like no serious injuries or permanent scarring or anything like that. It gives me more confidence too to be able to banter and wrestle with my partner. That’s why I like dating other switches - I don’t want it to be a one-sided game. I want to be able to enjoy a full range of action with my partner.

[Se****]

Being a dom is just a game in the bedroom. Nothing more than that

[ky****]

Mrwrong00234 can you please explain what all those roles are for me? I’m new to all of this and I’m trying to learn as much as I can, and that way I can understand all of the main roles

[my****]

I don't think its a game.....I think its how someone feels

[my****]

Being dom is a big responsibility

[Re****]

Dominance is an extension of my personality, a single facet among many.

[Du****]

Its a sexual kink, im not Dom , but as the opposite of being submissive, i get off on pleasuring the Dominant Man , being on my knees and obeying what he wants, Whilst the Dom gets of on being pleasured and the feeling of Control over somebody.. I'm sure it makes him feel more Powerful and while his dick grows in my mouth, he gets to sit back and let me do all the work in pleasuring both of us at thee same time... Any one who actually enjoys Sex and Thee Orgasmz that come with it should already know this or easily figure it out... its meerely a Sexual Desire/Fantasy/Kink... thats what it is 4 me atleast.. i honestly dont care what it is For lil ms Lara Croft ovah there..... 💖🦌💓🦌💓🦌💖

[ho****]

You're going to ask such a question and receive a hundred different perspectives!

What have you learned? What is it to YOU?

[Mr****]

What is domination, you ask? Per Merriam-Webster:
1: supremacy or preeminence over another
2: exercise of mastery or ruling power
3: exercise of preponderant, governing, or controlling influence
4: dominations (plural) -> dominion

These do fairly accurately sum it up,

For *the scale and scope of the Dominant's reach* per definition 4 (a vital concept underpinning thd understanding that a dynamic only exists as long as it is maintained, including by the submissive), the Dominant's list of Dominations covers their full Dominion (the "thought-space *of* the Dominant's control or influence"—the actions, behaviors, etc.), especially in the context of their Domain (the "thought-space *under* the Dominant's control of inflience"—can be abstract headspaces or ownership contracts and can also be physical locations).

The first three definitions then apply to directly *within that scale and scope*. It is to say, within the Dominant's Domain, power and command are absolute; but the power of a Dominant is a thing which must be actively maintained. Beyond that Domain, no such power exists; further, *without an en***r of the Domain*, no such power exists.

That is vital because it demands two continuous states: the Dominant must have Dominion in their own mind (i.e., the thought-space of "rule" must be relative-real to them in their own absolute-virtual space), and at least one outside party must accept the terms of that Dominion AND be subject to it (i.e., a lack of subjects means the Domain does not exist as an absolute-real space—it *could* but *doesn't*).

That is the whole of it. One must first believe they are a Dominant with a Domain and a list of Dominations (a clear "charter"), and one must have the ability to bring subjects under submission (which may involve subjugation methods *both ethical and unethical*).

As food for thought: a cursory study of the rise and fall of nations quickly reveals both that individuals often revolt against imposed ***s of their perceived rights (personal Dominion of the individual—includes what we commonly call "stated of implicit boundaries") AND that individuals often volunteer management of their perceived rights to others outside of this (a delegation of responsibility is often considered acceptable as the "benefit" gained from this practice—i.e. people tend to *want* to submit given enough time satisfied with their situations). For Dominants and submissives alike, do with that information as you feel inclined to tolerate.

[Kentishlady]

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[Deleted Member]

13 hours ago, honeycrisp said:

You're going to ask such a question and receive a hundred different perspectives!

What have you learned? What is it to YOU?

 

Information , So I can learn. You will always get differing opinions. That's what Forums are for. The best way to learn is to ask questions. I see you added me to your ignore list. That speaks volumes about you doesn't it 

Edited May 24 by Deleted Member

[Ri****]

It's an attitude, it's inbuilt, it can't be faked. It's respectful, honest and aware. It's a way of considering oneself and a perspective on the world and life in general.

It's also controlled aggression, restrained restraint, precise consensual use and ***.

It's compassion, listening, talking, planning, design, refinement self development and learning.

There's a good bit of work involved. I feel sorry for those that call themselves a Dominant and aren't appropriately prepared for it, and sorrier still for anyone that engaged with them.

[Deleted Member]

Well said!

[my****]

So tired of men who think Domination is about sex, they don't understand the dynamics and don't really understand what it is to be a true Dom

[Deleted Member]

9 minutes ago, mysticmasa420 said:

So tired of men who think Domination is about sex, they don't understand the dynamics and don't really understand what it is to be a true Dom

What does it mean to you please?

[Ba****]

It varies very much from person to person. I'm a sub, but for me, having a Dom means having someone that will, of course, be dominant in the bed, but also guide me as I need it. Someone that'll help me, if not even "***" me, to be better. Someone who will not let me do nothing without a price. Someone who when my mental health spirals will be there and let me have a moment but then make me get up and do things. Someone who will let me be silly and stupid and be the same with me, but Someone who will also grab me and make me behave when needed.