Feeling a bit of loneness

[Mittens34]

My master and I have been going thru a lot and thou he allowed me to have another boyfriend, me and the said boyfriend split up, but i still messed around with my master. About a month ago he moved in a girl who claims to be his slave, but does not show it. I been a slave for 4 years and she acts nothing like it. She keeps him all to herself, does not share and tells him what to do. Its been over a month and I have to sneak to get a bit of play time with him cuz she does not want him around me. I feel lonely and i feel like i been pushed aside. I have told my master how I feel but he has yet to fix it. I love my master very much or I wouldn't have stuck by him for 4 years. I feel like i might get replaced. He says he loves me, but he does more stuff with her? Any advice to help me, I am starting to feel like i am having affection withdrawals.

 

Much thanks

Mittens

[Deleted Member]

I am not sure you depicting a Master slave relationship?
If it is then you should be happy he’s got a new gf and you should wait until he decide to spend some time with you. You chose that lifestyle and should accept it the way it’s been set up.
Now if it’s a Ds relationship as submissive and Dom set up then you should be able to communicate him your worries. Talk about the situation, ask for some clarification about that new woman, what’s her status and where you stand in that set up?
Have you discussed the poly dynamic with him before you get into the relationship?

People need to clarify sometime the Master slave situation. For me it’s very different from a Dom sub relationship. That fantasy being called a slave is not to be used lightly…. It sound kool and good but carry heavy ramifications

[harmony-lynn]

I’d have a conversation with both of them and explain how you feel, or just with your master if you prefer. yeah you did choose the lifestyle, but you didn’t choose to be pushed aside in the process. it’s great that they’re spending time together and maybe that’s all there is to it. but if it’s making you uncomfortable or feel isolated it should matter to your master just as much as it does to you. dm me if u need anything ♡

[Deleted Member]

May I ask if it’s your house or Masters house that hosts your situation? I ask this because this could well be the start of unforeseen circumstances that you have no control over. When boundaries change and suspicion creeps into the relationship then it’s time for all 3 of you to talk.

[Nicky898]

I’d ask to have a conversation and before the conversation write down what’s been happening and what you want to get across . This has to work for you too, everyone’s needs should be met. Your Master in the end should understand and want to hear you and discuss with you and then he will work out what to do . This must be difficult and you need to decide after the conversation if this is right for you If nothing changes. You maybe surprised talking it through may well be the answer. If you are still unhappy then you have some thinking to do , can you live with it if not then you know what you have to do for yourself . Hope this helps and Message me if you need a chat :)

[TeeJay_98]

Have a conversation... 

Talk about agrerd terms - were any discussed prior to you entering this 'Master/slave' dynamic? 

If you have a contract, discuss that - assuming that it includes your needs and his needs. 

Express that your needs aren't being met - just because your in a 'M/s' dynamic - this doesn't mean your a doormat. You have a voice - use it. If he had any interest in pursuing anything with you - he should be focusing on you, unless the agreement was for him to get another slave and ignore you. 

 

Prepare yourself for 'The worst' - He MAY decide that he no longer wants to have you as a slave, perhaps he can't give you what you need... Or perhaps he wants to focus on the other 'slave'. Get yourself an 'aftercare box' ready for this situation just incase it does arise.

If he still wants to keep you as a 'slave', express your concerns further, ask him how you fit into the dynamic and set some boundaries, when will you get time with him? How long for? What is expected of you? 

And make sure you are TOTALLY in agreement by the end of the conversation, don't agree for just a day a week if this is an issue for you. Make him aware that you need more than that. Ask him to have a conversation with the other 'slave' so you are all on the same page, perhaps a written statement from each of you - expressing your understanding and agreement of the boundaries set... 

 

As mentioned previously by other members, a Master / slave dynamic isn't one to be taken lightly... If its not working.. Perhaps try working on things outside of M/s for now and see how it goes.. 

 

Best of luck.

[Deleted Member]

I am so sorry you feel this way. Not a good situation, but you need to talk to him. Communication is the key. She seems to want him to herself. He seems to be more submissive to her. You need and deserve more. Just my opinion.

[Mittens34]

Thank you everyone, i will have a chat with him, since talking to her will lead me no where. I will give you update on what happens :)