That feeling when:

[xR****]

You get overwhelmed and your mind becomes jumbled and your heart is in a panic. You feel frustrated, angry or irritated, short tempered. That feeling when you feel overburdened and can't handle yourself anymore and all you want is to be saved.

Then your person comes in and takes control in their own way. Holds you and leads you away and then they become your everything. Those feelings become a distant memory and your person, standing above you, controls your whole world, or that person on their knees willing to give their all to you.

Who is lucky enough to have such a person? What is that person to you? How did you develop to that point?

[Deleted Member]

I'm still looking for that person.

[Lo****]

I am that person to my partner and I love him as much as he loves me ❤️

[SissyHollywoodFL]

Well... I melted reading this

Haven't found her yet

[no****]

I wish I had someone like that. Wouldn't mind being that someone either

[xR****]

The funny thing about this is that it is supposed to be a discussion, but it seems like most of the people haven't even gotten close to finding their someone, myself included. 🤣 Damn, was hoping for advice!

[Lo****]

I wrote that in another forum post:
That’s more of an advice for men😉

That’s how my partner got me “off” this app. He was non-sexual, funny, smart, got what I said, didn’t push, showed interest and affection, checked on me daily and waited patiently for three month until I was ready and sure I want to meet him….that was February 2025 and we grow stronger every day🫶🏻

[xR****]

51 minutes ago, LovedLady said:

I wrote that in another forum post:
That’s more of an advice for men😉

That’s how my partner got me “off” this app. He was non-sexual, funny, smart, got what I said, didn’t push, showed interest and affection, checked on me daily and waited patiently for three month until I was ready and sure I want to meet him….that was February 2025 and we grow stronger every day🫶🏻

That is great! I have never in my life met someone nearly as patient. I don't mind sexual, I am a very sexual person, but patient? Accommodating? Nah. Usually people ghost me pretty quick. More often than not right before our plans to meet. 😅

[To****]

I think thats what a good dynamic can become over time..

For me, taking control isn’t about controlling someone’s whole life. Sometimes its simply knowing when they need me to take the weight off their shoulders for a while.

Being the person they can come to when everything feels too much, and knowing I can calm the noise without needing many words.

That kind of trust doesn’t happen overnight though. You earn it, little by little, until they don’t have to ask you to take over. You just know.