Not much experience BUT... cnc + free use?

[Deleted Member]

Please hear me out...

Im a woman with loads and loads of fantasies...

Eventhough i haven't tried much, i know what i like based on how my body responds to my fantasies..

Which made me wonder....

Is it psychologically possible to mix cnc with free use? Is that even a thing? Or am i asking for too much?

Were you okay after?

Girlypop🩷

[Ma****]

It is possible
First its CNC and then free use after u realize that u enjoy it

[ey****]

2 hours ago, Nachoorsecret said:

Is it psychologically possible to mix cnc with free use? Is that even a thing? Or am i asking for too much?

I guess it depends on what you mean by each term.

Like, some people say "CNC" and what they really mean is R*pe Play - and these have overlap in a venn diagram but are different things

Free Use - I've seen some who've dictated they (or their sub) were "free use" and that anyone at a particular event could use them as and when they felt without argument.  And then those who are free use and it's basically if their partner says "we're having sex now" they drop everything and do so.

What works for others may vary.

But like... if you're deemed free use and drop everything to have sex whether you want to or not, it's a form of CNC in itself.  You didn't want to, but did because you were told. The other person didn't have to make you... or, maybe they would if you resisted.

[xR****]

Not at all! With CNC, you give them consent before hand to do specific things whether you feel like doing it or not. Say you are doing the dishes; that doesn't out anyone in the mood. But maybe he (or she) is in one? Then they (because you previously gave consent) come up and start rubbing you, taking you off the dishes, and having you perform the task. Simple. Free use technically doesn't work without previous consent, since there would be times you ordinarily wouldn't consent to something. 🥰

[Ky****]

I feel like they go hand in hand

[La****]

CNC and free use are absolutely compatible, and a ton of fun together! The dishes example that was shared above was a great example, but really any situation where one partner has consent to try to initiate sex (within pre-discussed boundaries) while the receiver tries to resist in some way feels to me like it's both CNC and free use.

One example of that kind of play that I LOVE is having someone in a cage or on a leash during the day, and using them for sexual stimulation any time at will, while they pretend to fight their restraints or resist the act, necessitating that I *** them to submit with my hands or more restraints.

[Qu****]

I think they can! Like sometimes in the middle of the night, I'm already asleep and boyfriend comes in and just starts fucking me. Or I'll be kneeling on the floor, boyfriend holding my head still and just fucking my mouth. Is that what u mean?

[Deleted Member]

They definitely go hand in hand... mine is only for a monogamous man. With set boundaries... I would give up complete power to him. It's like complete control of body and mind. Only he knows what he needs more than anything. Being able to be carefree without a thought in the world. And knowing he's got you. He could do whatever he wants with your body.

[Li****]

I Love it

[tu****]

It sounds interesting. Cnc can be role played and free use is kinda rhat just gotta find what works

[To****]

They can look similar from the outside, but they are actually a bit different
CNC is more about the fantasy of giving up control, while free use is more about the feeling of being wanted and available within agreed boundaries
The interesting thing is that both can look like losing control, but the real control is in the agreement, the limits and the trust before anything happens.

The part people sometimes underestimate is the emotional side afterwards. Knowing your limits, communicating clearly and understanding what makes you feel safe is just as important as the fantasy itself