Pillow Princess Dilemma???

[ko****]

So like, a pillow princess is a bottom. But are they a sub or a dom?

I’m thinking bc it can be powerful to tell someone how you want to be fucked and not return the gratification. On the other hand they can be at the whim of another who’s making all the decisions.

I guess for myself I feel like a mix between the two. Wanting control, and wanting to give up control.

[Br****]

If you are a bottom, that means you prefer to take it .. so with that being said, Id say they are subs

[Si****]

Sub and bottom are not interchangeable. A bottom is the person who takes the physical action and has nothing to do with the actual emotional/ mental power dynamic of the Dom(me)/ sub relationship.
As for the wanting control and wanting to give up control that would make you a Switch where you are either a Domme leaning switch or a sub leaning switch depending on which role you prefer.

[ko****]

Thank you for getting it!!! That helps a lot actually. I guess switch is the vibe then

[Th****]

Some bdsm roles are (very) clearly defined. That one is not imo. It's a grey area. Traditional submissive traits like the sub being in service to the dominant or the sub being a pleaser are inverted and taken on by the top partner. Pillow princesses definitely share some traits with (female) dommes. Depends on the individual dynamic/execution.

No wrong answers, but as a Dominant I personally wouldn't date a pillow princess.

[sw****]

Regardless, they're a sadist with how they want you to beat that thang 😂

[Gr****]

Pillow princess or not, being a Dom or Sub is purely based on your dynamic with your partner/playmate.

[Re****]

Pillow princess is a lazy partner in my opinion.