*** Play and CnC

[Da****]

We had discussed this many times. We had talked about boundaries. We has each others consent .

And then one day , a casual bratty behaviour turned into a physical tussle and ended up with *** play .
Never in life we both has such relaxed conversation and intimate moments after . Her smile said it all .

Little did I know that I had a drop . As a dom, I had a drop . She was fine she said but still I was surprised to have that .

So how has been for you all ?
Anyone has any such intense experience ?

[Ti****]

Please give a little more detailed info, and re-read your context as it is a little hard to follow.

[Ma****]

Exactly 👍🏽

[Da****]

34 minutes ago, Tieyouupforfun said:

Please give a little more detailed info, and re-read your context as it is a little hard to follow.

It has been edited . :( . It is about “***d play”

[ch****]

What do you mean u had a drop

[Da****]

Just now, chaos1964 said:

What do you mean u had a drop

Have you never heard of “drop” in bdsm ?

[Pr****]

1 hour ago, Dave-Lothbrok said:

Have you never heard of “drop” in bdsm ?

Like a sub drop?

[ch****]

No I’m fairly new to this,trying learn as much as possible

[ch****]

I’ve only had my wife as a sub … gotta start somewhere

[Da****]

1 hour ago, PrincessZena said:

Like a sub drop?

Sub drop sure . Dom drop also is a thing :) .

[de****]

I’ve had three cnc experiences so far. I’m curious about what dom drop is ??

[Mxster]

I think I know the feeling that you're describing, Dave. I once had a sub who was into cnc and free use. While I was aware of what both were, she was the first partner that I explored this with. Each time that we played, we would push things a bit further to explore our limits. She thoroughly enjoyed it and often found herself completely engulfed in subspace. The look on her face was intoxicating. That was until she shared with me that she was ***ed as a child. Hearing that gutted me and it made me feel like a monster for exploring cnc/free use with her.

[Da****]

1 hour ago, dee8u said:

I’ve had three cnc experiences so far. I’m curious about what dom drop is ??

Similar characteristics to sub drop but happens to Dom.

[Mxster]

1 hour ago, dee8u said:

I’ve had three cnc experiences so far. I’m curious about what dom drop is ??

It can be experienced as emotional or physical exhaustion. Feelings of shame or guilt after a scene or play session.

[Ba****]

TenderControlxxx - you aren't a monster for exploring that with her. The psychology is really interesting with victims of any kind of sexual ***. It's common for them to want to recreate the experience, only with someone they trust and in a controlled environment. I was ***d and I experience that desire myself. It's a way of taking it back and recreating the experience to have a positive ending, if that makes sense. It's actually healing, in a way. Rewriting all that trauma and negativity.

[su****]

Of course, after intense emotional and sexual connection.. you get dopamine hits during and then, it takes a minute- u drop

[Mxster]

14 hours ago, BaconQueen said:

TenderControlxxx - you aren't a monster for exploring that with her. The psychology is really interesting with victims of any kind of sexual ***. It's common for them to want to recreate the experience, only with someone they trust and in a controlled environment. I was ***d and I experience that desire myself. It's a way of taking it back and recreating the experience to have a positive ending, if that makes sense. It's actually healing, in a way. Rewriting all that trauma and negativity.

Thank you for sharing that. Truly. I was unaware of that aspect.

[Ba****]

Very welcome 💙

[Deleted Member]

💋

[Sa****]

September 2, BaconQueen said:

TenderControlxxx - you aren't a monster for exploring that with her. The psychology is really interesting with victims of any kind of sexual ***. It's common for them to want to recreate the experience, only with someone they trust and in a controlled environment. I was ***d and I experience that desire myself. It's a way of taking it back and recreating the experience to have a positive ending, if that makes sense. It's actually healing, in a way. Rewriting all that trauma and negativity.

This!

[Interzone]

I've found myself entering a world I didn't know existed before this summer. Not on this level. This was the most magical and shortest summer of my life. WOW!!!

[Sa****]

September 2, BaconQueen said:

TenderControlxxx - you aren't a monster for exploring that with her. The psychology is really interesting with victims of any kind of sexual ***. It's common for them to want to recreate the experience, only with someone they trust and in a controlled environment. I was ***d and I experience that desire myself. It's a way of taking it back and recreating the experience to have a positive ending, if that makes sense. It's actually healing, in a way. Rewriting all that trauma and negativity.

My therapist said that I been trying to control my trauma and recreate it so I'm able to control the outcome. It's deep stuff that I'm still working through, though I'm healing nowadays

[Interzone]

What you are saying makes sense. I'm seeing the mirror of that in my current project. It's definitely helpful to have a team standing by your side in this.

[Interzone]

6 hours ago, SassyGRUNGEgiRL26 said:

My therapist said that I been trying to control my trauma and recreate it so I'm able to control the outcome. It's deep stuff that I'm still working through, though I'm healing nowadays

You help me see this in my experience. Thank you for the helpful insight

[Sa****]

1 minute ago, Interzone said:

You help me see this in my experience. Thank you for the helpful insight

Of course! I'm glad to hear that 🥰