Considering taking a new sub on Vacation

[sp****]

I’m considering taking a new sub with me on vacation. We haven’t know each other to long, but I believe there is a great connection to grow. We’ve had a great time so far.

The plus and minus I am considering. Traveling companion. 11 hour drive alone or with a companion. The only added cost is food. Gas room and board are going to be the same.
Good time to get to know each other more or if something goes wrong what’s the minuses? Just lots to consider.

[Deleted Member]

If it turns out to be a poor fit you’ve got the entire trip of them being in your personal space and an 11 hour drive home

[Sn****]

Do it!!!! Life is too short, have fun don’t overthink it just be yourself cuz clearly she’s into you and it’ll be a little more laid back cuz it’s vacation. Keep the communication open and you guys will be fine. A little vacation won’t scare either of you away

[IN****]

I would absolutely not bring someone I don’t know well on vacation. To many negatives should things not workout while on the trip.

[Ye****]

I would not go on a road trip with someone I don’t know. As fun as it could be, and taking out safety issues 🤣, I would not want to be stuck someplace if something goes weird and I want to leave. Flying some place where I could change a flight would be one thing but trying to get home on a road trip would be harder.

[ta****]

Well you'll have 11 hrs to figure out if their taste in music sucks. Or if they snore. Or if they have horrible foot oder and insist on putting their feet on the dash over the AC vents. Or.... Maybe they refuse to use public bathrooms so they just *** in a cup in the car...... Or maybe you'll get incredible road head. Who knows

[Pi****]

They're gonna take your kidneys 🤣. For real though, vacation isn't for getting to know someone. Vacation is a treat for someone that deserves it. Spoiling someone that hasn't earned it doesn't make much sense. People that do that are just getting used by the person that's actually in control of the situation.

[Eu****]

I have to agree. While is sometimes fun to do impulsive stuff, i think you should develop it slowly. Not necessarily out of safety but with mutual respect for each other. Have you ever had a conflict to see how you guys relate then? maybe her style is completely then yours in intense moments. How are you under pressure, or deal with a disappointment?

[Da****]

Making a sub pay for anything is bogus dude!!! Treat your sub with respect in public...

[brown_boy]

Trust your gut and take the call! 😊😬

[Ja****]

Life is short. New relationships have a fire that calms over time. If you both want it, feed the fire. Enjoy it while you can.

[Hu****]

This is a tough one, but it feels like you’re unsure, which means she is too. Women are thermostats. Biologically, we feel what is going to create the most safe conditions.

In regard to whether it is too soon, I don’t think there should be cut-and-dry rules outside of your own boundaries. You can have a boundary that you want to wait, but I wouldn’t create a new boundary like this in the middle of an active situation. I would wait on both creating boundaries and taking a trip with your submissive.

To respond to the other comments, the conversation about paying is a whole thing, and so is the idea of rewarding someone. Pay to create a safe space, not to get something. Reward safety or health, not “good behavior.”

[LAcpl4Fun]

My wife has always found it exciting to go on vacation with another man. I don't know if she could go through with it but she liked admitting it to me.

[Da****]

Just a couple of days in case it goes south 3 at the most . If you don’t know each other then it possible your snoring or her laugh may make it unbearable . I did this before we got a Airbnb at the halfway point because she lived you know a good ways away about four hours so we met in between two hours and drove separately. I know that’s not always feasible but it worked well for us.

[sp****]

Luckily I’ve spent time with her before and we know each others taste in music lol they match well .

[sp****]

2 hours ago, Dawna1 said:

Making a sub pay for anything is bogus dude!!! Treat your sub with respect in public...

Of course no way would I do that
I’d cover all expenses

[wi****]

Man id say get to know her better befor taking that step

[Tu****]

Be careful about expectations. Doing girlfriend things elevates the status. If thats everybody's expectation...cool. if not...then the next trip you go on without her starts the internal panic.

[Yi****]

Overnight trips for a first or second date may not be wise. Especially if they're broke or have recent court charges

[Yi****]

And don't bring a bunch of credit cards, leave your wallet out or flash a lot of cash

[DarkArts1066]

I’m going to focus on the perceived negatives initially

Eleven hours travelling in a car with someone you barely know could put unnecessary strain on the two of you.

You don’t mention how long you will be away for, but consider this.
The eleven hour journey back, -IF your time together proves to be a washout, will be even less pleasant than the journey there.

Why do you feel the need to take this person away at this point in your ‘relationship’ ?

It seems like an unnecessary complication to me ?

How will you feel if they decide that you aren’t for them, and want to leave early ?

The Pros:

Travelling with a like minded companion can ease the stress of a long journey.

Having someone who is prepared to share costs is always appreciated.

An adventure can bring people closer together…
But -That isn’t always the case.

In the absence of more information about your current relationship, I would urge caution at this point.

Just my opinion.

[Ho****]

19 hours ago, LAcpl4Fun said:

My wife has always found it exciting to go on vacation with another man. I don't know if she could go through with it but she liked admitting it to me.

I'll take her on vacation.

[fe****]

Taking a stranger on vacation??? You wylin.

[Ho****]

3 hours ago, fet75376 said:

Taking a stranger on vacation??? You wylin.

Im adventurous. Ill go on a blind vacation. And ill make sure we will have the time of our lives.

[sp****]

4 hours ago, fet75376 said:

Taking a stranger on vacation??? You wylin.

Not a stranger not at all just a newer relationship