Hidden vs Open

[DomiNick99]

How much of your kink life stays private?
Some of us keep everything locked away. Some of us have partners or friends who know almost everything. Some live it more openly.
Where are you on that spectrum right now, and has it changed over the years?

[50****]

We are semi open with it. Some friends know. We pick & choose who we share that to.

[Subjim]

I'm not in a relationship ATM but I'm open with a close friend about why I'm single. She wanted me to go on vanilla also to get more dates but...no.

[sa****]

Im open about it and not ashamed of being a sadistic pleasure dom

[Use-and-***]

100% private.
Only my FET contacts know. I like it that way.

[on****]

Find balance & know when not to divulge tmi... not everyone is interested to know everyone's bedroom biz. Kinky ppl do tend to find each other, tho its always polite to ask whats appropriate before opening up with anyone periodt!

[Da****]

I’d love yo share my openness with someone who was also open.

[to****]

I don't know if it's kinky or not but only a few friends know I'm a occasional bottom cross dresser

[BBCnYourGuts]

All of it is hidden until it's time to act.

[li****]

A few close friends that I trust know about it. Otherwise, very private

[do****]

I've got no shame personally.. 100% discreet concerning my partners though

[la****]

Always been very open about my life style

[Sq****]

We don't hide it or advertise it. Our lifestyle dynamic and relationship is simply us.

[ca****]

some very trusted friends. say one or two may know i have some kinks, but other than that between me and the other. unless they brought something up and they were trustworthy. i suppose it all hinges on what you and your other want others to know

[lu****]

the answer is simple rules are don’t kiss and tell. what happens between two or however many consenting adults stays between them i don’t care who or what anyone else is doing if they aren’t doing it with me why should i care lol and vice versa. i have found people pretend to be ok with kinks only to try and use it as cannon fodder later on. or they get wierded out by abnormalities and dip out because it’s to abknormal .

[Da****]

The more taboo kinks subject to ridicule or judgement I tend to not share with friends or family unless I 100% trust them

[ey****]

Obviously my partner knows, and I'd be concerned about others where their partner doesn't know.

In terms of friends there's folk we can put on either side depending on where I know them from.  I'm active in the kink community so have made a lot of friends and obviously they are aware.

Friends I know from other circles, it's somewhat of a mixed bag - but in most cases they're just aware I am into fetish lifestyle and limited more than that, among anything else it's outside their interests themselves.

I am aware there are folk from these circles have found my profile on sites like this - but it doesn't come out into conversation

[th****]

We are 24/7, I’ll take her into a public bathroom and have her pull her pants down to spank her if she is bratty.

[Do****]

It all depends for me really, a few of my friends who are in the kink scene generally find out early on, because they're nosey and we like to talk about our recent activities and play mates.
Otherwise unless it's a long term arrangement, meeting up every month with my play partner kind of situation. It's pretty private. Unless we're in public and she starts acting up of course 😏

[DM****]

I wear my FetLife hoodie almost every day, most people don't even notice the logo and those that do don't know what it is. I'm looking forward to someone recognizing it one day.

[Stilllife82]

This counter culture was always about privacy, for many reasons. I keep it private for my sake and for the sake of whoever is at my service.

[fe****]

I dont advertise my kink life but I have no problems answering questions should someone ask. I have a poly relationship. My vanilla partner is not my kink partner. The things I enjoy he is not comfortable with doing, the solution is to have a different partner as my Dom. By their choice they do not meet or know each other.

[ch****]

Past caring

[Ne****]

For me, family is unaware... I have friends who I know through vanilla interests that don't need to know. But many of my other friends are in the community, so most know to varying degrees..

[Deleted Member]

I take an "if I'm asked, I'll tell" approach, I'm not ashamed of my kinks and am quite happy to talk shop. I also think that (when appropriate) it's healthy to talk about sex, and it shouldn't be such a taboo subject in the first place!