How far is too far for a dynamic or relationship?

[an****]

I've met people who lived anywhere from a few miles to over an hour away. Others travel across multiple states or even fly to different countries to spend time together.

Personally, I prefer frequent interaction, hourly/daily communication, and regular physical presence. I can be comfortable with gaps in communication and visits if required, but prefer closeness.

How often do you want/need to see your partner? How many hours/days can communication go silent before it becomes uncomfortable?

Alternatively, why can someone over a thousand miles away who communicates consistently, feel so much closer than someone five minutes down the road who physically shows up?

[Se****]

My partner and I live a little over 1.5 hours away from each other. We see each other on average once a month, but we stay in constant contact with each through text/voice chat/video chat. I think when there's distance separating two people in a dynamic communication does the heavy lifting in place of physical contact. I have had dynamics with subs 3 hours away and as far as 6 hours away. I think it all boils down to the effort put into the dynamic by those in the dynamic and how well the foundation is built.

[Re****]

I prefer my Master close to where I live, however, I am 2 1/2 miles away from my Master and I Rarely see him but he hears from me everyday!

[Se****]

Distance I am probably the wrong person to comment; I flew from London, UK to Ontario, Canada on a blind date many years ago and no another occasion to Stockholm, Sweden. But then, I enjoy travelling 😍

[Lu****]

I travel depending on dynamic. Usually up to 3 hours

[ey****]

Whilst I have, and would, travelled the continent for meets.

for a dynamic... really it'd depend on what we both wanted.   there's been folk I've refrained from contacting because it's been "location isn't too important but I'd like you to commit to meeting me monthly" and based on their location it's not possible. And this isn't necessarily on an as-the-crow-flies as London, for example, is easier to get to than some other cities 

[ra****]

I used to meet someone halfway who lived 3 hours from me every other weekend for almost a year. It’s hard to find someone you can trust, especially if it’s a relatively straightforward dynamic. Just my opinion, but I think it’s worth finding ways to overcome the logistical challenge if it’s something that works for both people.

[bu****]

I think the distance is fairly easy to overcome for visiting. When it gets to one moving, thats when a problem might present itself

[sl****]

I wont go more the 2 hours. Thats my max. I wont fly to go see someone. Flying isnt cheep

[Ar****]

I have a hard time justifying driving more than like 45 minutes to an hour. That's a half tank of gas for me. Especially if it's not a serious relationship.

[ma****]

I think, that there is a connection.....no distance is to far. I would and have traveled four or five hours.

[Sp****]

Frequent and meaningful communication can feed a connection more than irregular communication and close proximity. As far as how far I'm willing to travel. That's a person to person basis. But I travel 2 hours just to my job.i would easily travel 5 for someone that fulfills my needs and spirit.

[Ne****]

I think it depends on the wants and needs of the two people involved. Some people are willing to do the distance & use the daily communication as a tool. Some people need to have the physical closeness. Both partners have to be in agreement.
I had started communicating with a Dom who was 2-2.5 hours away. I was willing to put in the work, but he needed to be able to see his partner more frequently than was viable. Kept it casual for a while, but just could not make it work.
So depends on the people & if they are on the same page.

[Ol****]

My ideal is no more than 30 minutes out, living in a smaller city on the outskirts of a major city means I HAVE to travel out to find someone, especially cause I cannot host as of now. I'm willing to go up to an hour out on a semi frequent basis, but any more than that typically isn't worth it for me

[Mo****]

I don't mind a comet relationship, but it would probably have to be a tertiary relationship. As a primary or secondary, no thanks. For your Relationship Anarchist, I suppose it depends on your emotional needs.

[ce****]

Seems like there are so few people interested in the lifestyle (and many fewer who are really open to or capable of an actual relationship) that we are ***d to look several states away, while feeling at the same time that it’s totally unrealistic to do so. Who can afford the time and $$$ for multiple flights plus hotels & rental cars (which usually is mandatory since very few actually can host) every month? And yet we are driven by our often foolish desires to pursue the wildest schemes just to have the tiniest ray of illusory hope.

[Me****]

as long as it's in Netherlands I can travel if another country I prefer the other partner to come to me

[ev****]

I drive 3 hours every 2 weeks for my submissive to surrender to my wishes in 5 to 7 hour sessions

[pe****]

20 min from home

[Ar****]

Depends on the person. I used to drive 8 miles through 3 different states for a weekend with the in laws and kink with my pet.