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I'm looking for tips guys. I have the nature of domination and I have started to dominate my boyfriend. Sometimes I make him do me etc but for the most part he enjoys the strap on and dildos used on him. Whips and chains I'm Scorpio Venus and couldn't be more inclined if I try lol. I like to wear stuff to visually pack a punch as well as sexually in the physical sense. So ideally need some tasks to give him. We both have never done this and we have only got as far as using the toys and whips etc. I am not interested in others just him so what's some seriously naughty chores would be ideal.sorry of any termology wrong I'm literally a newbie to this. 

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Establish names, what should he call you? Routine of reporting heightens dominance? Does he worship any part of your body? Do you edge and deny him? Would you like to humiliate him? Could you sissify him? You could ask him to do things at work/ when you're apart and ask for evidence Sounds delicious Enjoy ūüĒ•
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I'm new to this whole thing  too, and have recently gotten a pet (not pet play, just what I call him). We only play online, so I've been trying to get creative with ways for him to submit. As soon as we started, I asked him to wear my mark every day on some part of his body (it's an E). He decides where, and must send me a picture every morning of its location. He usually puts in on his upper thigh, right next to his balls. His daily task is to trace my mark however many times I say - each tracing is done three times. Once for him, once imagining it is me, and once with a wet finger imagining it is my tongue. Sometimes I add nipple pinches to the routine. He gets to choose when and where throughout his day he will perform his ritual, and he must report to me each time -- this seems to keep him thinking about it all the time! I recently added two elements to the reports - he must tell me what the sensations are AND how he feels emotionally. Because he craves submission more than anything, being reminded of his place in this way has worked very well.  Love to hear what you come up with!

MistressMettle
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I would do some research. Morgan Thorne's BDSM education YouTube videos are helpful and her book is really good for ideas and practical advice for beginners.
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start by building on what you already like.... what do you already like...  what would it turn you on for him to do?  doing housework in certain clothes?  

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A little background would be helpful. Do you live together, does he visit regularly or is it an online relationship?

Think about the things you would like him to do for you then try to weave his kinks into that. For instance if you want him to do chores around the house then dressing him as maid or naked could fit into his kinks aswell and make it good for both of you. You could then inspect his finished work and include some corporal punishment for any not done to your standard or give treats for work well done

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Read -  there are loads of mistress books, youtube, google, get him to read too - The Big Workbook for Submissives is good. Watch porn and steal ideas - I watch femdom porn with a note book and write down phrases and anything I like that I can use in a session. You can join Fetlife and get loads of inspiration on there. There are loads of groups to join and photos to perve. You will also find local munches on there to attend where you can meet local kinky folk and talk to them. And clubs are great too, you can watch others play and learn some great new techniques.

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