Gay man into CFNM - is there a place for me?

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This might be kind of unusual but I'd appreciate peoples thoughts on it.

I am 100% gay. I've never even kissed a woman - but I do love and respect women and enjoy female company. I just don't see them in a sexual light - but of course that means I can often be friendly and relaxed with women and they will say things to me and be more relaxed in my company because they know there's never a hidden agenda with me and I don't see them as sexual objects.

I have always enjoyed watching male strippers and of course they often perform for hen parties and female audiences. I've also always loved CFNM and femdom porn.

I've grown curious about CFNM events because I think I might enjoy attending them. I know they are often non-sexual, at least in the sense that the women aren't expected to do anything sexually for the men, and so my lack of ability to do anything sexual for the women won't be an issue - but I am a total exhibitionist and I think I would enjoy seeing the women's pleasure.

I also know there is sometimes a "***d" bi element to CFNM events, where the men sometimes get sexual with each other for the ladies amusement - and why not? Straight men often enjoy watching two women together.

Do people think there could be a place for me at CFNM/femdom events where I could be naked, enjoy the fun and accept it is a female-led event, plus join in any sexual activity with the other men if the ladies desired it (could be amusing for them if the straight men knew I was gay and so getting off on it whilst they had to merely endure it to please the ladies!), but the ladies would know I was gay and respect that I couldn't do anything sexual for them directly except entertain them along with the other naked men?

I wouldn't mind them teasing me a bit or having a cheeky grope of me, but no more - but I'm a exhibitionist, it's nice to be admired and I think it would be something different, a different dynamic for me and for the ladies present.

I am a chunky guy with a big beer gut so not the standard stripper type!

I am based in Birmingham UK but can travel. If anyone thinks they might have a place for me at an event, please get in touch x

Thanks for reading x

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The only thing I can think of is a swingers club. I use to go one when I was single and there were more single people there, more men lol, than couples. The one I went to you weren't allowed to wear clothes and there was a jacuzzi and a sauna. A few private rooms but quite a few random beds where anybody could just have sex or have gang bangs or just watch or play with themselves.
Now this place could of changed a bit as I've not been there for a long time. But I went because I like having no clothes on in a safe environment 😊 xxx

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Thank you for replying, it is kind of you to give it some thought, I appreciate it x

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it's less unusual than it seems

I am aware of a few gay guys who attend Femdom events, some are even 'owned' subs by their Mistress

there was a Femdom event just yesterday in Stoke, held at Evolution

there is of course Pedestal in London

 

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55 minutes ago, eyemblacksheep said:

it's less unusual than it seems

I am aware of a few gay guys who attend Femdom events, some are even 'owned' subs by their Mistress

there was a Femdom event just yesterday in Stoke, held at Evolution

there is of course Pedestal in London

 

That's very interesting! I was worried I was weird being interested in CFNM and femdom as a gay man.

 

I think what worries me is the etiquette of such events. I understand CFNM and femdom are often not about having sex with the Mistresses, but also about accepting orders and I couldn't do anything sexually with a woman.

 

Happy to be naked and serve - I love the idea of CFNM tea party being  a naked waiter for example - just couldn't go as far as actual sexual contact with women (though the odd cheeky grope from them would be okay!)

 

If there are any gay guys here or anyone you know who could chat to be about it would be very grateful x

 

Thanks again for the friendly replies!