Trans Safety/Fetishism and Advice

[Em****]

Hi all! Just wondering if this app is a good place to actually find like minded people for either short/long term relationships or is it mostly for FWB/similar dynamics?

I have a pretty long history of being treated like a fetish rather than a person, and I’ve gotten pretty hurt more times than I would like to admit.
I wouldn’t say I’m picky at all but as of late if I’m not I continue to get hurt in new ways so I’m just at a loss on how to find partners…

Is it something I’m doing/presenting? Any tips on finding people in the Bay Area? Any and all advice is appreciated ;-;

[ze****]

If you're superficial with delusional standards and not interested in real doms, this place is perfect. Just got to compete with the dozens of girls only wanting the top tier guys whom most of the time aren't even real doms

[Deleted Member]

Baby there is nothing you are doing or presenting that is making you feel this way. You're you and you are beautiful, it's just men/people out there who's minds are super corrupted by porn that are viewing you in such a way and it's disgusting! It's hard to find the right person especially as a trans person and all I can say is to explore around you and see if you find any like-minded individuals who would like to know you better and see into you as a person and not some sort of fetish/object. Don't use apps like Grindr or such because that's such a cesspool for weirdos and such. I feel your pain sis and all I can say is to open your heart to those who you think deserve it, much love from Illinois baby mwah! Good luck! ❤️

[jo****]

Im not in the bay area but id rather treat people as people not a fetish and also to answer the question yes it can be good but kinda gotta weed out people

[littlemiss37]

I would suggest join in the lobby research about vetting etc . I have learned I have had to calm down trying to find someone . I had to take about 3 months to research and still research . Find out about toxic vs non toxic. I have had to learn hat x

[po****]

Just depends on the person or persons you may find. It's not easy I'm sure but I imagine a nice person is out there for you. Good luck.

[Peonycharm]

Hello!! You have message filters on otherwise I would message you off thread. My daughter is trans and I know she has had to deal with the same issues. I can give you some resources. Please feel free to message me. You will find the love you deserve!

[Ki****]

4 hours ago, littlemiss37 said:

I would suggest join in the lobby research about vetting etc . I have learned I have had to calm down trying to find someone . I had to take about 3 months to research and still research . Find out about toxic vs non toxic. I have had to learn hat x

Absolutely agree, vetting is so important.

[Ki****]

18 minutes ago, Peonycharm said:

Hello!! You have message filters on otherwise I would message you off thread. My daughter is trans and I know she has had to deal with the same issues. I can give you some resources. Please feel free to message me. You will find the love you deserve!

It's nice to see helpful people like you with so much care and openness

[Ki****]

Everyone deserves respect and this is the least to expect. If someone is not able to hold a conversation for 30mins, just walk away. Knowing each other is vital before you discuss anything, see if there is a connection.

[Go****]

Yes there are a lot of real people on here looking for other real people and there will always be fetish seekers and assholes looking to use a save space to do harm to others. My advice is always video chat and get to know each other first. Meet in public places. Mee their friends and build a friendship first to feel out who they really are. Safety is first priority. I work with a lot of trans clients and this is a legit fear you shouldn't wvwr have to face. Friend me, and we can chat if you like.

[Deleted Member]

Idk if I qualify at Trans, I am a crossdresser but only identify as a female when I'm dressed up, but from what I've seen this is a very safe and accepting place! It's not you! It's the others! You're gorgeous and you will find your special someone!

[Deleted Member]

I'm new to this app but from what I've seen it's very safe! Idk if I qualify as Trans, I only identify as a female when I'm dressed up, but don't be worried. You're absolutely gorgeous and you will find someone who respects you for you!

[Th****]

I am so sorry you have experienced such disrespect and abuse. A much better site is FetLife. The profiles are much more indepth if they choose to fill them out. And if they dont, then you know right then that they are fake, and unworthy or your precious time.
Also, I like to say to all pretty ladies, maybe your preconceived notions of what a relationship should look like has prevented you from being with somone who can truly Love you for who you intrinsically are.

Sincerely,
The Gentleman.