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Stuck in my mind the most has been my experience with a random Spanish guy who took me how he wanted in a car.....never spoke, he came, he told me to leave, I've masturbated about it weekly for about a year
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Just who I am tbh 😇 lol
Even as a kid before I even knew what a wank or porn was I would introduce pretending to be tied up in games like cops and roppers and stuck in the mud and would get butterfly's every single time I'd get caught. I'd also be fixated on any type of bondage in old cartoons like any time Velma from Scooby Doo would get caught 😄 So when I found bdsm porn at around 12/13 it all just made perfect sense and everything just slotted right into place 😇 never ever looked back x
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I've always enjoyed controlling men. I remember my first experience with findom. I developed a system to have a different sub pay for my lunch every day. I felt powerful. I still get turned on by subs showing me affection and giving me what I deserve. Since that time, I've begun practicing and perfecting several kinks. I truly enjoy the pleasure of control.
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-BDSM AND ME-

 

Different...

I'm... Different... Because I think.. That most people find out at some point about BDSM and the lifestyle.. They start talking about it, maybe reading blogs or going on sites.. Then next they buy a toy or two and ask their partner for some mainstream kink only to find the partner they are with is not going with them on the journey.. Next thing you know they're moving on to try the next toy, the next partner, then it gets serious... Eventually they blossom into the lifestyle and away they go... For me.. It was not like that...

 

For me.... I had never heard the term BDSM or ever had a thought for the topic.... And then there came a day in my life after several failed relationships that a man laid hands on me... The right way... I didn't know how to process why my body wouldn't respond to sexual relations my whole life.. And now it was. I couldn't understand... But the kind of sex I was having... Was inappropriate ... It's a long complicated story... But... I broke down eventually.. Spectacularly.. over my feelings and he then explained what a submissive was.. A Dominant...

 

Anyway... Fast forward some years... Here I am.

 

And... I don't know how to explain properly... I cannot.... It's like.. Something happens to me... It's like a drug, except I haven't taken anything... Like this... Hyper realistic spiritual, tantric experience that happens to me... I probably sound insane... But D/s puts me in a.. I don't know, some altered state... I believe it might be this thing they call 'subspace'?... Anyway Once I'm there... Well... I don't know.. It's very hard to explain... But... It is beautiful, intense.. I think it is breathtaking.. Let me show you..

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EmpressFoxy .... Same 😁
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Individualisation, pain, handcuffs, a simple deceitful touch. These are the combined nexus of my child life. It is BDSM.
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9 hours ago, brazuca said:

Happy 24/7! Happy World BDSM Day! 😈

How did your BDSM journey start? What situation has stuck in your mind the most? From thrilling encounters to life-changing revelations, share the impact of BDSM on your life.

Open your hearts and tell your stories! The most engaged users will get a surprise. 💜

my bdsm life journey is only starting now

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I have chronic pain from nerve damage. Kink/BDSM have allowed me to change my relationship with pain and power so I can function better in my day to day. When I play, I get to be in a body that feels pleasure and pain or gives pleasure and pain when it's told to do so. Rather than being in a body that feels broken and uncontrolled.
Samischaste
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Hopefully my journey starts tomorrow. I’m meeting a dominant man to see if we think I can satisfy his desire to role play and tie me up and he can satisfy my interest in impact play. This is a first meeting in a cafe for a light lunch and a good chat. Please keep your fingers crossed that he turns up and that we both want to take things in further
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I’m just now starting mine ♥️♥️
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I love that my birthday is on World BDSM day. Still learning what I like and don’t like. Very much looking forward to my birthday spanking. 🤭
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Honestly, I never really thought about it too much until a previous partner I had. She inticed me to be her dom and I went with it. Enjoyed the feeling it gave me, but she didn't really bring it out of me fully. Cut to a handful of years later, dabbling a bit along the way. I had run into a girl i was friends with back in high school. We caught up and reminisced a bit over some drinks, and the conversation turned into our past relationships and then sex lives. Once we found out that we were both into kink, she proposed that she had done crazier stuff than I. After I told her my most extreme/intense story, she picked up her jaw and admitted defeat. It only took a week after that things took a turn as she wanted to be fwb's to explore our kinks together. Needless to say, she was exactly what i had been looking for because she was like a kid playing with her new toy. I've never been with anyone who actually made it fun and new before. Zero shame, zero pressure, it was perfect! Literally brought out sides of each other that neither of us even knew existed before then. I always struggled communicating what I wanted because I didn't know what I wanted. She took that as an invitation to be in control and take matters into her own hands lol. Turns out we were both switches, and the sexual chemistry was on point. Still get chills whenever i remember the time she told me that she wanted to check off as many "firsts" off my list as possible. To which she definitely did, and yes, there was an actual list for both of us. Sadly we went our seperate ways and that was the end of that. Still think about the things we did and how they felt a couple of years later. I'm still hoping to find someone who can make play feel as playful as she did, so my fingers are crossed. Regardless of anything, I am thankful as hell for the experience because it taught me so many things about myself that I never would've on my own. I am far more confident and eager to explore than I ever was prior, and I am very much looking forward to my next experience.
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Has not started

Can't seem to move my property to another domain

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In a way I have been interested in bdsm since my teens. But I was nearing my fourties when I first met a partner who was also into the lifestyle. We have since pated ways, but it was really eye opening to meet a truly submissive partner. Now for the first time in several years I have found myself another submissive partner and I'm as happy as ever. 😊
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The "Impact" of BDSM. Someone has a sense of humor.
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When I was around 11 yrs old, I watched Dressed to Kill by Brian DePalma. There were many kinky scenes, but the one that burned itself into me was the scene of Nancy Allen in lingerie teasing Michael Caine. I still fantasize about it.
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Hi! I am new to this lifestyle. I am learning more about myself and would like to explore with someone who understands the sadism and masochism dynamic. I want someone I can trust to have my safety in mind as I explore the masochism side of myself.
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I'd been interested and played a little with bondage and spankings in my early 20s on and off with different women but I was 31 when I met an experienced sub who taught me how to Dom. I then married a fairly vanilla woman and when that ended the first young lady I got involved with was a little and I quickly learned I was a Daddy Dom. The general care, the cuddling and the affection speak to me as much as the rules and discipline.
Samischaste
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Monday at 10:42 PM, Samischaste said:
Hopefully my journey starts tomorrow. I’m meeting a dominant man to see if we think I can satisfy his desire to role play and tie me up and he can satisfy my interest in impact play. This is a first meeting in a cafe for a light lunch and a good chat. Please keep your fingers crossed that he turns up and that we both want to take things in further

The journey continues. We met and he told me quite a bit. We are planning to meet again for a little trial session. Sooo exciting!

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The very beginning of my BDSM journey is probably watching porn... It didn't take long from I started watching porn until I was watching and reading kink/BDSM related content. I was aware that the content I was consuming was "unusual" based on the sexual topics my classmates where talking about. But I read... A lot... about kink and BDSM, but got into a very vanilla, long term relationship.

The turning point in my kink journey was shortly after breaking up with my first girlfriend when I met a quite experienced woman at a bar. I've always been a quiet and introverted person, but back then I was also quite shy, and she had decided that I was going to be her toy that night.
We went to her place, and only having experience with vanilla sex, she had to encourage me to do the things she actually enjoyed. So she told me to put a hand around her throat and repeatedly asked me to grip harder. Initially, I felt strange doing it - I didn't like the idea of hurting her.
But at some point, my grip reached a sweet spot for her, and the look on her face changed from being slightly bored to "that's the stuff" with a hint of surprise, and I distinctly remember how I felt my mind briefly going blank and an almost tingling rush in my chest. Aaand then I was hooked.

As for the impact of kink on my life, the more I've explored my kinky side and in particular my primal side, the more that primal side has blended with my everyday personality and made me more confident and assertive.

Needoral
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When I was child and saw beautiful, swimsuit clad girls put into boxes in illusion shows and then have unimaginable things done to them I was completely taken by their complete compliance which gave me a sense of excitement. Complete compliance is still something that I would like in a BDSM relationship and I love bondage boxes and devices. 

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It started for me 27 years ago in a local night club. I met an older lady which I thouht would be for a one night stand. 

I went back and she tied me to her bed, being 18 I found it very exciting, she put ice cold water in her mouth and placed the condom on with her mouth. The best feeling ever, she tied my balls which at the time felt strange.

She then primally rode me, hands round my throat, i could not cum my balls we tied so tight. 

It became more regular and more perverse where she would take enjoyment in her friends going for a rodeo on me.

Fast forwatd 27 years I have switched and grown mentally and unfortunatley physically. I now understand womens bodies, knowing one trick does not pleasure all. The eyes are the secret passage to learning a new sub.

 

I hope you enjoy readimg and open to any questions

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6 hours ago, Timetoplay said:

It started for me 27 years ago in a local night club. I met an older lady which I thouht would be for a one night stand. 

I went back and she tied me to her bed, being 18 I found it very exciting, she put ice cold water in her mouth and placed the condom on with her mouth. The best feeling ever, she tied my balls which at the time felt strange.

She then primally rode me, hands round my throat, i could not cum my balls we tied so tight. 

It became more regular and more perverse where she would take enjoyment in her friends going for a rodeo on me.

Fast forwatd 27 years I have switched and grown mentally and unfortunatley physically. I now understand womens bodies, knowing one trick does not pleasure all. The eyes are the secret passage to learning a new sub.

 

I hope you enjoy readimg and open to any questions

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