Popular Post MyPleasureDom Posted November 12, 2023 Popular Post Are there any hand signs in the kinky community to help identify each other? I was out with my wife today and we thought we saw a threesome lunch date. Then we thought, "it would be so cool if we could flash a hand sign across the restaurant to ask 'are yall part of the lifestyle?'"
Ak**** Posted November 13, 2023 Pretty cool idea for a universal sign for that, would need a community poll for something like that
ji**** Posted November 13, 2023 The couple I had 3some and I found found their Facebook ID that by chance came in front of me but I never told anyone or tried to contact with them to respect their privacy.
Sh**** Posted November 13, 2023 Cool idea, though in practice I don’t know how we would agree on what gestures to make. 
ge**** Posted November 13, 2023 Think you'll find most people (apart from those who are truly "out" about their lifestyle perhaps, and even they would I suspect have their concerns) would be averse to the idea of any kind of recognised symbolism like this - for the pure and simple fact that it wouldn't take long for it to become "known" to all and sundry and with that would come those who won't think twice about pestering and worse.
pe**** Posted November 13, 2023 We've already got text talk which is bad enough, I dont think we need to start cutting shapes with our hands ..
Ja**** Posted November 13, 2023 In Portland Oregon they have patches that you can attach to your purse, jacket or anything else you wear or carry around.. It’s an *** 🐾 paw print
mo**** Posted November 13, 2023 If you got to know that bad just walk over and ask them like people are supposed to do
Th**** Posted November 13, 2023 Google BDSM Triskelion it's what I've used for years, have a tattoo on my forearm and the gas mask filter is a triskelion, also have several pins, one on my backpack, etc. in 20 years though, I've only had maybe 3 people recognize and approach me about it
Ma**** Posted November 13, 2023 Personally I want this as a tee-shirt ..... no idea how to add a photo but its : the upside down pineapple with "vanilla is for ice cream" around it
ly**** Posted November 14, 2023 22 hours ago, jantellulater said: In Portland Oregon they have patches that you can attach to your purse, jacket or anything else you wear or carry around.. It’s an *** 🐾 paw print Kind of like the claw stripes of the fet app! That’d be neat!
Deleted Member Posted November 14, 2023 I’m personally fond of the leather flag though tbf it is more specific than this in terms of community
ey**** Posted November 14, 2023 so, no - there's no kinky hand signs I guess if there were - that you didn't know about them would also risk the other person not knowing - and even if you have a visible motif (be it... triskilon, polyamory/infinity symbol, polyam pride flag, kink pride flag, etc) then it's again drawing attention without looking like a weird in a bar. there's a young lady I used to see on occasion on public transport who had the polyamory/infinity symbol tattooed on her wrist - but, in most cases, is there an appropriate time to say something. Lifestyle or not, they were out having dinner.
Cade Posted November 15, 2023 Also, don't forget hankie code, which was a gay leather/leather community common way to tell each other we were kinky and what type of kink we were looking for. It's basically a colored hankie ("flag") hanging from the pocket, with the color, left/right side, and front/back pocket meanings; color indicated kink, left/right indicated top/bottom in activities, and front/back indicated cruising for or just into.
ey**** Posted November 16, 2023 the hankie code is a good example in the sense that it was popular in the 70s and 80s - but kinda - died down for a few reasons that on one side both the rise of internet/social media - and - the increased availability of gay/kink spaces but that also, the general public became more aware of hankie code which could cause negative reactions - especially during the HIV/AIDS outbreak
Cade Posted November 16, 2023 There are still places that use it (mostly based on region and venue), and in certain parts of the US, where the laws are forcing things back underground, it seems to be making minor comebacks. Though, I do agree it died out and even evolved from its origins, but I'm not sure how much the general public really became aware of it. There were a lot of uses for hankies in the states, so maybe there's just less assumption on the actual meaning?
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