"Cade", in Three Acts.
Three things you should know if I interest you: 1. I am a sadist, 2. I am polyamorous, and 3. I am for real. The following blog post will explain why these are important if you are interested in striking up a friendship with me, or more. Above all else be aware that I value experience and truth, and am willing to prove my integrity. Trust is created for me through one's actions matching their words, and as such, must be built over time.
I'm a sadist. A sadist is someone that gains pleasure from pain, typically thru inflicting. That is no less true for myself, and I use mental exploits like humiliation and objectification, as well as, physical acts like caning and needle play or cutting. I enjoy bruises and welts, and tears turn me on intensely. Of course, I have strict safety rules for play and interactions, and am constantly looking to increase my experience and knowledge in risk assessment and other safety concerns/disciplines. I belong to a community of like-minded individuals which can provide my character references, both personal and professional...and I am a member of multiple groups that participate in spreading acceptance through education of alternative relationship dynamics. If you have questions about my fetishes or background in sadism, please feel free to ask.
I'm polyamorous. The literal definition for polyamory is "many loves", but I think it's better summed up as having the capacity to love and be loved by more than one person in an open and honest manner. As such, I would say it is important to know that I am in a relationship with with a female, living with me. The female is my collared submissive, being trained as my slave. she has proven her obedience and worth as a servant, and I am honored to have her in my life. Despite this, we are looking to add another submissive female to our House. I like to think I am a unique and exceptional individual, and know for sure the others in my relationship are...you will meet them if you prove yourself worthy and prospective enough that I might add you to our lives. Their safety is paramount.
I'm real. The points this blog outlines are not details of role playing or the way I dream of living my life; they are the actuality and truth of my existence. This is my lifestyle...I choose to live my life by alternative methods. My lifestyle identifies and honors each of our intrinsic values as dominants or submissives that threads through every aspect of life, in the vanilla world as much as the animal kingdom. After reading all this about me all I ask is that you don't judge me. I am as human as you are and am just trying to find happiness just like you. I will be tolerant and respectful of your life choices because you have to live by them, and my choices will never effect you unless you allow them. Thank you for reading through this, I hope it is helpful in deciding your interest in me.
The undiscovered (and elusive) 4. You. If you've really read this far in all this rabble, then you're probably wondering what I am expecting from interactions with you, what I want, or what my ideal individual is that I'd like to meet. Let's be frank, this is an online/mobile networking site designed to allow people to meet across distances. You can be anyone and anything a mind can think of and words can describe, your intelligence and mastery of this vocabulary seem crucial to being able to express yourself and your desire succinctly. Among being intelligent, I should hope that you are open and accepting to the world I may be introducing you to...however, if you are not real, that will become obvious eventually, disappointing everyone involved. Know who you are and be confident in your experiences...it's good to stop seeing mistakes negatively and identify them as chances to learn. Going to more personal considerations, you would be a submissive/masochistic female, know why you identify as such, approximately age: 25-35 and happy.
Our desired relationship is a poly M/f/f triad.
Community of Babel; www.fetish.com/community/topic/1440-community-of-babel/
(CoB) Listen and Ask Questions; www.fetish.com/community/topic/1538-cob-listen-and-ask-questions/
I've been in two M/f/f triad relationships: one that lasted a year and the other lasted four years, both full time, live-in situations. Neither of these were "spot on", as you say, but we each enjoyed and appreciated the time and intimacy we shared. Every relationship, be it mono or poly, can be Read more… problematic. A common myth we hear about poly relationships is they all end badly; truth be told, I don't see many relationships that end well! Of course, poly dynamics aren't much different than mono, it's just the additional consideration of an individual involved. Some people will fit the relationship, some won't. Any relationship is only as successful as the energy, effort, and trust the participants invest.
Actually, I find the site refreshingly NOT only about sex. Even the chat! It does get rather racy, but it tends to stay intelligent which I greatly appreciate. Many thanks to the Admin and mod teams.
The NCSF summed it up best: "If it's not consensual, it's not BDSM." The question is, do you consent to this behavior? Was it discussed and you aware this was a possible outcome to specific behavior? If the answer is no, than you might be being abused, psychologically. However, only you can answer Read more… for yourself; as outside perspectives, no one else is going to know the full situation you are in to answer for you. Googling "BDSM versus abuse" and also "signs of domestic/psychological abuse" is a good place to start.