(This profile is best viewed if read while the song in the above YouTube embed [most recent status update] is played during.)
Just an honest opening before you actually invest time reading this profile: I'm probably not the type of individual you want to know. I'm old(er). My interests and penchants are not acceptable to others (though consensual). People may well tell you that I'm disgusting, dangerous, even that I am psychopathic. Rumor has it that I brainwash people into liking me, and I am certainly of dubious character you’d be wise to avoid.
It's very likely all true...I'm not like them.
That being said, I am a literal sadist and human owner. I feel like you should pay special attention to that term, “literal”. Inflicting intense sensations (that I can't share here even in the simplest and most innocuous ways) is a necessity for me to reach a state of arousal. My pleasure is found in less conventional sexual interactions. Rather than fantasies of wild fuck sessions and incredible sexual conquests, my focus in this regard is to push outside comfort zones and into far more extreme activities.
My relationship dynamic is a CNC Owner/property poly triad. For the sake of transparency, I own a live-in slave (together over 14 years, branded as my property after her training in 2019). In addition, I do have several play partners part of my world in various stations, each with their unique commitments. My desired goals would be to find a second live-in masochist/submissive to also train as my slave and would be [chain-sïster] and partner to my current servant. All individuals involved are aware of one another and this goal, and each supports me in their own way.
My modality is structure and ritual driven, a variation of both PRICK and RACK ideologies. As you might have gathered, I use honest expression of my desires and intent to create shared understanding with individuals with preferred base qualities. Prospective individuals that desire to progress begin a consideration process of extensive communication and interactional observation to determine a sense of trust and integrity for no less than a year. If trust is secured by all parties, the potential is collared as my submissive in training for ownership. Training includes behavior modification, pushing thresholds, and solidifying the protocol in everyday life as well as in lifestyle environments and play spaces. This period lasts seven years after which the submissive is branded as my property in a commitment ceremony with the exchanging of our oaths. This is how one becomes my slave. Play partnerships are more based on individual considerations (though, I am currently not looking for any other play partners).
I started my own lifestyle journey as a sadist at the end of the 1990s. In these decades, I've had so many amazing experiences, had the opportunity to learn from some of the most exceptional individuals from all walks of life on a plethora of subjects, and created play and scenes that are often incredible even to myself. Impact play is my happy place - my Florentine flogging skills get me the most attention, but my use of a cane is frighteningly legendary. Mind fuckery is a big part of reaching deeper levels of participation with me, and I'm willing/capable of investing the necessary time and conscious effort to earn the trust and respect required for my desire…even despite how limitless my imagination and cruel cunning. Suffering is my love language.
I have experiences to share. Magical and sensational, dark and disturbing experiences. All you have to do is be the canvas for my art.
If I tell you that I am too much for you, this is not an insult, challenge, or attempt to bait you. Please respect that I do not think our experience/kinks/relationship goals match up and I'm trying my best to protect you from me.
(If you're a racist/homophobe/transphobe or otherwise judgemental of others, little, brat, have issues being honest or making commitments, only want to role play or share fantasies, or believe “the submissive is really the one in control” then it best we don't waste either of our time.)
(My written work in the forum.)
Topical Articles:
Understanding Complex Consent Dynamics and CNC;
www.fetish.com/topic/14091-understanding-complex-consent-dynamics-and-cnc/
Tales:
"Yes";
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1711-yes/
Poetry:
CENSORSHIP is a pretty huge limit of mine.
:1773683755,6765248,Hey, folks. We are often seen by those less experienced solely as the ones delivering and/or prescribing p@in, and I find value in destigmatizing this misconception.
I think it is difficult to understand how - as a sadist - one becomes familiar with päïn. For me, it boils down to an accumulation of experiences that began as a child, which grew into a passion for wanting to understanding how to inflict it effectively and efficiently (concept of consent and risk awareness, as key examples). Realizing all sensation is entirely personal and subjective to the individual, I realized becoming familiar with päïn was actually more an exercise in better understanding myself; the more prolific process for my understanding of inflicting is to understand the science behind S/M (as an activity, itself).
Can you provide insights into how you familiarize yourself with ***, your motivations, and why you view Read more… it as imperative to being a responsible sadist? Particular emphasis on treading new boundaries is appreciated.
I have a particular perspective but do not want to influence the conversation too drastically.
In the above consideration, this is where I feel you're asking the proper question: What are your motivations? We can simplify päïn as "intense sensation" (which then covers a wider range of sensations a sadist might keep in their toolbox). With it being a deliberate intense sensation, it follows much the same itinerary as other forms of communication: the sender (sadist), the message (intense sensation), and the receiver (masochist). Since the "message" originates with the sadist, their intent and motivation will skew the sensation, positive or negative.
To answer the motivation question: sadism is how I express my passion and share intimacy within a relationship, suffering is my love language.
1. My role within my dynamic is fixed, through the manner in which I express it may evolve over time (as my skills, talents, awareness and experience grows).
2. Yes and no. The illusion of control is more powerful until it is tested, which is then where actual control takes over. I feel like we see Read more… this common in d/s dynamics whereas a dominant and submissive engage a structured lifestyle: the dom might say "these are the rules", to which the sub follows based on the illusion of control; at some point, that sub might test those rules to confirm consistency to them - the dom reacting according to the structure would then be a display of actual control.
3. In my opinion, you can't truly understand anything until you've experienced it yourself. Not that you can't comprehend the target and the causes/outcomes of, just more on an intellectual level than one that understands the actual nuances thereof. I can study, research and comprehend every aspect of sky diving, does that mean I understand what it is to be free falling from an airplane? Certainly not. Even with personal accounts of the experience, the simply truth is, everyone processes and internalizes things differently. Understanding through experience is an entirely unique and personal knowledge.
I would recommend researching Pavlovian conditioning, if you haven't. It's a good stepping stone understanding. Among the common priorities, remember clearly expressing expectations and consistency are key! Good luck.
*Justine (or, the Misfortune of Virtue)*, by de Sade.
I wouldn't necessarily call it the ultimate limit, though I think it is a common limit mostly due to the experience, knowledge, and safety level needed for needleplay isn't super common. People that can do it are few, and no doubt, needles are a fairly regular fëär. Add in medical concerns like Read more… blööd testing and infectious diseases, you can see why it is rather common as a limit.
I think this may be the case in some aspects where the specific activity is more a fetish rather than just a kink. I think that's why this phenomenon isn't a more common occurrence. Perhaps when something other than traditional sexual conquest is a person's driving fōrce for interpersonal and Read more… intimate interactions, sex has a tendency to manifest differently. But I'm also someone that has witnessed someone squirt from deep tissue impact, so...haha...you know...
I think for me, it's not always sexual in a physical sense; arousing my senses doesn't always equate to making my cock hard. There are many forms of intimacy, and some have nothing to do with sex - at all, and this translates over to kink. For example, my sado-gasms are far strong than orgasms I Read more… have from penile stimulation - so much so that I don't need sex after a good scene. The scene IS the sex!