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Couple profile of: Cades-kitty

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Gender Man Woman
Age 51 35
Height 180cm 167cm
Weight 64kg 45kg
Body shape Average build Slim
Eye colour Other Green
Hair colour Black Other
Hair length Long Long
Beard Goatie
Orientation Straight Bisexual
Ethnicity Other
Origin USA
Pubic Hair Part shaved Part shaved
Body hair Some hair None
Breast size B
Zodiac sign Aries Virgo
Glasses
Smoker
Tattoos
Piercings

About us

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We’re looking for

Description

(This profile is best viewed if read while the song in the above YouTube embed [most recent status update] is played during.)

Lifestyle sadist, ethical predator, philosophical libertine.


Just an honest opening before you actually invest time reading this profile: I'm not like them.

That being said, I am a literal sadist and human owner. I feel like you should pay special attention to that term, “literal”. Inflicting intense sensations (that I can't share here even in the simplest and most innocuous ways) is a necessity for me to reach a state of arousal. My pleasure is found in less conventional sexual interactions. Rather than fantasies of wild fuck sessions and incredible sexual conquests, my focus in this regard is to push outside comfort zones and into far more extreme activities.

My relationship dynamic is a CNC Owner/property poly triad. For the sake of transparency, I own a live-in slave (together over 14 years, branded as my property after her training in 2019). In addition, I do have several play partners part of my world in various stations, each with their unique commitments. My desired goals would be to find a second live-in masochist/submissive to also train as my slave and would be [chain-sïster] and partner to my current servant. All individuals involved are aware of one another and this goal, and each supports me in their own way.

My modality is structure and ritual driven, a variation of both PRICK and RACK ideologies. As you might have gathered, I use honest expression of my desires and intent to create shared understanding with individuals with preferred base qualities. Prospective individuals that desire to progress begin a consideration process of extensive communication and interactional observation to determine a sense of trust and integrity for no less than a year. If trust is secured by all parties, the potential is collared as my submissive in training for ownership. Training includes behavior modification, pushing thresholds, and solidifying the protocol in everyday life as well as in lifestyle environments and play spaces. This period lasts seven years after which the submissive is branded as my property in a commitment ceremony with the exchanging of our oaths. This is how one becomes my slave. Play partnerships are more based on individual considerations (though, I am currently not looking for any other play partners).

I started my own lifestyle journey as a sadist at the end of the 1990s. In these decades, I've had so many amazing experiences, had the opportunity to learn from some of the most exceptional individuals from all walks of life on a plethora of subjects, and created play and scenes that are often incredible even to myself. Impact play is my happy place - my Florentine flogging skills get me the most attention, but my use of a cane is frighteningly legendary. Mind fuckery is a big part of reaching deeper levels of participation with me, and I'm willing/capable of investing the necessary time and conscious effort to earn the trust and respect required for my desire…even despite how limitless my imagination and cruel cunning. Suffering is my love language.

I have experiences to share. Magical and sensational, dark and disturbing experiences. All you have to do is be the canvas for my art.

If I tell you that I am too much for you, this is not an insult, challenge, or attempt to bait you. Please respect that I do not think our experience/kinks/relationship goals match up and I'm trying my best to protect you from me.

(If you're a racist/homophobe/transphobe or otherwise judgemental of others, little, brat, have issues being honest or making commitments, only want to role play or share fantasies, or believe “the submissive is really the one in control” then it best we don't waste either of our time.)

FORUM INDEX

(My written work in the forum.)

Topical Articles:

  1. Clash in Kink-Positivity: Triggers versus Fetish;
    www.fetish.com/community/topic/1374-clash-in-kink-positivity-triggers-versus-fetish/
  2. Community of Babel;
    www.fetish.com/community/topic/1440-community-of-babel/
    • (CoB) Labels are Your Friend, not Life Partner;
      www.fetish.com/community/topic/1461-cob-labels-are-your-friend-not-life-partner/
    • (CoB) Listen and Ask Questions;
      www.fetish.com/community/topic/1538-cob-listen-and-ask-questions/
  3. EARN It: The Real Gift;
    www.fetish.com/topic/14592-earn-it-the-real-gift/
  4. The Fallacy of "Easy" Submission (Or: Tiger Taming for Dummies);
    www.fetish.com/topic/15053-the-fallacy-of-easy-submission-or-tiger-taming-for-dummies/
  5. I adore my lifestyle (but I abhor your community).;
    www.fetish.com/topic/14311-i-adore-my-lifestyle-but-i-abhor-your-community/
  6. I'm a cruel, scary sadist, and you should avoid even talking to me! (Or, the Conundrum of Vanilla Understanding Enförced within the BDSM Realm.);
    www.fetish.com/topic/13957-im-a-cruel-scary-sadist-and-you-should-avoid-even-talking-to-me-or-the-conundrum-of-vanilla-understanding-en***d-within-the-bdsm-realm/
  7. No Limits: Fact or Fiction (A Counterpoint);
    www.fetish.com/topic/13888-no-limits-fact-or-fiction-a-counterpoint/
  8. PRE-CARE: Foreplay to Leather Sex;
    www.fetish.com/topic/74446-pre-care-foreplay-to-leather-sex/
  9. The Secret of S/M;
    www.fetish.com/community/topic/5058-the-secret-of-sm/
  10. Understanding Complex Consent Dynamics and CNC;
    www.fetish.com/topic/14091-understanding-complex-consent-dynamics-and-cnc/

    Tales:

  11. ACITOREOHPARG;
    www.fetish.com/topic/156276-acitoreohparg/
  12. Alice and Her Jabberwock;
    www.fetish.com/topic/73302-alice-and-her-jabberwock/
  13. Basement;
    www.fetish.com/topic/150982-basement/
  14. [CENSORED TITLE] (retitled as Hades and Persephone);
    www.fetish.com/topic/14107-hades-and-persephone/
  15. Content for Him;
    www.fetish.com/topic/198798-content-for-him/
  16. The Crying Game;
    www.fetish.com/community/topic/1748-the-crying-game/
    • (CG) Round One;
      www.fetish.com/community/topic/1769-cg-round-one/
    • (CG) Round Two;
      www.fetish.com/community/topic/1793-cg-round-two/
    • (CG) Round Three;
      www.fetish.com/community/topic/1830-cg-round-three/
    • (CG) Round Four;
      www.fetish.com/community/topic/1954-cg-round-four/
  17. Daughter of Suffering;
    www.fetish.com/topic/66671-daughter-of-suffering/
  18. Day One;
    www.fetish.com/topic/14498-day-one/
  19. Do Not Read;
    www.fetish.com/topic/151508-do-not-read/
  20. Hot Box;
    www.fetish.com/topic/16860-hot-box/
  21. "How I want you...";
    www.fetish.com/topic/14401-how-i-want-you/
  22. A Night Out;
    www.fetish.com/community/topic/1586-a-night-out/
  23. Objectification of a Vegetarian;
    www.fetish.com/topic/13939-objectification-of-a-vegetarian/
  24. Sacre-licious;
    www.fetish.com/topic/13180-sacre-licious/
  25. The Scorpion and the Frog;
    www.fetish.com/topic/14359-the-scorpion-and-the-frog/
  26. The Shoe Shine Girl;
    www.fetish.com/community/topic/1364-the-shoe-shine-girl/
  27. Third Person;
    www.fetish.com/community/topic/1393-third-person/
  28. Throw Trash in its Proper Place [Abridged];
    www.fetish.com/topic/152612-throw-trash-in-its-proper-place-abridged/
  29. Trash;
    www.fetish.com/topic/63411-trash/
  30. The Wolf and bunny;
    www.fetish.com/community/topic/1517-the-wolf-and-bunny/
  31. "Yes";
    www.fetish.com/community/topic/1711-yes/

    Poetry:

  32. Crux;
    www.fetish.com/community/topic/1550-crux/
  33. For the Span of a Breath;
    www.fetish.com/topic/207140-for-the-span-of-a-breath/
  34. I Already Know;
    www.fetish.com/topic/201162-i-already-know/
  35. "I know why she cries";
    www.fetish.com/community/topic/1416-i-know-why-she-cries/
  36. In the Shadows;
    www.fetish.com/topic/157786-in-the-shadows/
  37. Life, Less Ordinary;
    www.fetish.com/topic/162392-life-less-ordinary/
  38. The Monster's Trap;
    www.fetish.com/topic/152096-the-monsters-trap/
  39. Must I;
    www.fetish.com/topic/154610-must-i/

Limits

CENSORSHIP is a pretty huge limit of mine.

Groups

    CNC – consensual non-consent – beschreibt ein Spiel, bei dem eine Person einvernehmlich zustimmt, Handlungen zu erleben, die sich wie „nicht einvernehmlich“ anfühlen sollen. Keine Gesuche oder Gebote nach Personen, dafür gibt es die Suchanzeigen!
    For lovers of the thud, the sting, and everything in between. Whether you enjoy giving or receiving, this group is your spot to explore spanking, flogging, caning, paddles, and more — with skill, consent, and a good dose of aftercare.
    Living the lifestyle full-time? This group dives into 24/7 power exchange — from protocols and rituals to balance, boundaries, and emotional care. Whether you're living it, dreaming of it, or curious about what it takes, you're welcome here.
    For those who crave the edge. From playful spanking to intense impact play, this group is for exploring how *** and pleasure blur, heighten, and connect. Come share your limits, loves, and aftercare rituals.
    Words that arouse. Share your favorite erotic stories, fantasies, or personal experiences in written form. Whether you're here to read, write, or get inspired — this group celebrates the art of turning you on with language.

Fetish.com gives you…


...something completely different! Find plenty of fascinating people to play with on Fetish.com. Looking for a hot third or sex party? Check out our free kinky dating area or our BDSM and Fetish Events to find the perfect play partner. Check out our sexy forum for kinky sex confessions. So, what are you waiting for?

Cade
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What’s the most romantic thing someone has ever done for you?

Offering me themselves for my cruel and degrading interests.

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(This profile is best viewed if read while the song in the above YouTube embed [most recent status update] is played during.)

Lifestyle sadist, ethical predator, philosophical libertine.

Just an honest opening before you actually invest time reading this profile: I'm not like them.

That being Read more… said, I am a literal sadist and human owner. I feel like you should pay special attention to that term, “literal”. Inflicting intense sensations (that I can't share here even in the simplest and most innocuous ways) is a necessity for me to reach a state of arousal. My pleasure is found in less conventional sexual interactions. Rather than fantasies of wild fuck sessions and incredible sexual conquests, my focus in this regard is to push outside comfort zones and into far more extreme activities.

My relationship dynamic is a CNC Owner/property poly triad. For the sake of transparency, I own a live-in slave (together over 14 years, branded as my property after her training in 2019). In addition, I do have several play partners part of my world in various stations, each with their unique commitments. My desired goals would be to find a second live-in masochist/submissive to also train as my slave and would be [chain-sïster] and partner to my current servant. All individuals involved are aware of one another and this goal, and each supports me in their own way.

My modality is structure and ritual driven, a variation of both PRICK and RACK ideologies. As you might have gathered, I use honest expression of my desires and intent to create shared understanding with individuals with preferred base qualities. Prospective individuals that desire to progress begin a consideration process of extensive communication and interactional observation to determine a sense of trust and integrity for no less than a year. If trust is secured by all parties, the potential is collared as my submissive in training for ownership. Training includes behavior modification, pushing thresholds, and solidifying the protocol in everyday life as well as in lifestyle environments and play spaces. This period lasts seven years after which the submissive is branded as my property in a commitment ceremony with the exchanging of our oaths. This is how one becomes my slave. Play partnerships are more based on individual considerations (though, I am currently not looking for any other play partners).

I started my own lifestyle journey as a sadist at the end of the 1990s. In these decades, I've had so many amazing experiences, had the opportunity to learn from some of the most exceptional individuals from all walks of life on a plethora of subjects, and created play and scenes that are often incredible even to myself. Impact play is my happy place - my Florentine flogging skills get me the most attention, but my use of a cane is frighteningly legendary. Mind fuckery is a big part of reaching deeper levels of participation with me, and I'm willing/capable of investing the necessary time and conscious effort to earn the trust and respect required for my desire…even despite how limitless my imagination and cruel cunning. Suffering is my love language.

I have experiences to share. Magical and sensational, dark and disturbing experiences. All you have to do is be the canvas for my art.

If I tell you that I am too much for you, this is not an insult, challenge, or attempt to bait you. Please respect that I do not think our experience/kinks/relationship goals match up and I'm trying my best to protect you from me.

(If you're a racist/homophobe/transphobe or otherwise judgemental of others, little, brat, have issues being honest or making commitments, only want to role play or share fantasies, or believe “the submissive is really the one in control” then it best we don't waste either of our time.)


FORUM INDEX
(My written work in the forum.)

Topical Articles:

Clash in Kink-Positivity: Triggers versus Fetish;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1374-clash-in-kink-positivity-triggers-versus-fetish/
Community of Babel;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1440-community-of-babel/

(CoB) Labels are Your Friend, not Life Partner;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1461-cob-labels-are-your-friend-not-life-partner/
(CoB) Listen and Ask Questions;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1538-cob-listen-and-ask-questions/

EARN It: The Real Gift;
www.fetish.com/topic/14592-earn-it-the-real-gift/
The Fallacy of "Easy" Submission (Or: Tiger Taming for Dummies);
www.fetish.com/topic/15053-the-fallacy-of-easy-submission-or-tiger-taming-for-dummies/
I adore my lifestyle (but I abhor your community).;
www.fetish.com/topic/14311-i-adore-my-lifestyle-but-i-abhor-your-community/
I'm a cruel, scary sadist, and you should avoid even talking to me! (Or, the Conundrum of Vanilla Understanding Enförced within the BDSM Realm.);
www.fetish.com/topic/13957-im-a-cruel-scary-sadist-and-you-should-avoid-even-talking-to-me-or-the-conundrum-of-vanilla-understanding-en***d-within-the-bdsm-realm/
No Limits: Fact or Fiction (A Counterpoint);
www.fetish.com/topic/13888-no-limits-fact-or-fiction-a-counterpoint/
PRE-CARE: Foreplay to Leather Sex;
www.fetish.com/topic/74446-pre-care-foreplay-to-leather-sex/
The Secret of S/M;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/5058-the-secret-of-sm/

Understanding Complex Consent Dynamics and CNC;
www.fetish.com/topic/14091-understanding-complex-consent-dynamics-and-cnc/

Tales:


ACITOREOHPARG;
www.fetish.com/topic/156276-acitoreohparg/
Alice and Her Jabberwock;
www.fetish.com/topic/73302-alice-and-her-jabberwock/
Basement;
www.fetish.com/topic/150982-basement/
[CENSORED TITLE] (retitled as Hades and Persephone);
www.fetish.com/topic/14107-hades-and-persephone/
Content for Him;
www.fetish.com/topic/198798-content-for-him/
The Crying Game;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1748-the-crying-game/

(CG) Round One;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1769-cg-round-one/
(CG) Round Two;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1793-cg-round-two/
(CG) Round Three;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1830-cg-round-three/
(CG) Round Four;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1954-cg-round-four/

Daughter of Suffering;
www.fetish.com/topic/66671-daughter-of-suffering/
Day One;
www.fetish.com/topic/14498-day-one/
Do Not Read;
www.fetish.com/topic/151508-do-not-read/
Hot Box;
www.fetish.com/topic/16860-hot-box/
"How I want you...";
www.fetish.com/topic/14401-how-i-want-you/
A Night Out;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1586-a-night-out/
Objectification of a Vegetarian;
www.fetish.com/topic/13939-objectification-of-a-vegetarian/
Sacre-licious;
www.fetish.com/topic/13180-sacre-licious/
The Scorpion and the Frog;
www.fetish.com/topic/14359-the-scorpion-and-the-frog/
The Shoe Shine Girl;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1364-the-shoe-shine-girl/
Third Person;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1393-third-person/
Throw Trash in its Proper Place [Abridged];
www.fetish.com/topic/152612-throw-trash-in-its-proper-place-abridged/
Trash;
www.fetish.com/topic/63411-trash/
The Wolf and bunny;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1517-the-wolf-and-bunny/

"Yes";
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1711-yes/

Poetry:

Crux;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1550-crux/
For the Span of a Breath;
www.fetish.com/topic/207140-for-the-span-of-a-breath/
I Already Know;
www.fetish.com/topic/201162-i-already-know/
"I know why she cries";
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1416-i-know-why-she-cries/
In the Shadows;
www.fetish.com/topic/157786-in-the-shadows/
Life, Less Ordinary;
www.fetish.com/topic/162392-life-less-ordinary/
The Monster's Trap;
www.fetish.com/topic/152096-the-monsters-trap/
Must I;
www.fetish.com/topic/154610-must-i/
Cade
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  • 24.05.2026 15:59:28
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Training questions

I think it really all depends on the dynamic, participation level desired, and type of serves wanted. For instance, in a casual dynamic, training may be more a role play element to enrich fun; whereas in a more lifestyle dynamic, training may be what teaches the slave their Owner's preferences in Read more… day to day behaviors, how to best represent them, pushing certain thresholds and experiences levels, even how to handle basic tasks like how to deliver a drink, wash hair, or any activity the topside wants them to handle. It might be teaching basic skills (handling emotions in a given situation, self management and restraint, or communication skills) or more directly service oriented tasks (like tea service, caring for Leathers, or advanced submissive displays).
For my dynamic, it's far more the latter: I train my submissives the structure/rituals/protocols, expectations, and skills they may need to serve me to the best of their ability in our daily lives.

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Outsourcing….

I'm on the other side of the fence, I often outsource aftercare for heavier scenes. This is typically because my own aftercare usually requires me to be alone to ut my head back together.

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Face slapping

Anticipation, ***, and the feeling of being powerless.

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Hair washing Fetish

I think it can fall under service kink, perhaps tied to care giving. I know I use it as an intimate exchange, having my slave wash and care for my hair. It becomes a very intimate ritual that she gets to take pride in whenever someone compliments it. Plus, there are tasks able to be tied to the Read more… objective to make it even more endearing and purposeful.

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Cade
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Body writing - it's written...or is it?

Very much enjoy graphierotica. I have a video added here of some UV body writing I did at the local dungeon, and have a story or two which includes it. It a very delightful method of reminding someone of their place and reinforcing affirmations. And yes, it's sexy as fuck.

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Cade
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Underrated skills

Consistency.

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Cade
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Did you read or had a Mentor help you?

I had a mentor (several for different activities) and read, but I think the best teacher has been just actual experience. It's much like the difference between studying something and doing something: my mentors and reading helped me with the technical aspects and additional considerations one might Read more… not gain from just experiencing it (as experiencing it is more personal, and dependent on how we perceived and interpret). Though, the experience is where that knowledge is put into action! Perhaps the true test of the value of knowledge collected.

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