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Couple profile of: Cades-kitty

Part of a polyamorous group with Ask me

Personal details

Gender Man Woman
Age 44 28
Height 180cm 167cm
Weight 64kg 45kg
Body shape Average build Slim
Eye colour Other Green
Hair colour Black Other
Hair length Long Long
Beard Goatie
Orientation Straight Bisexual
Ethnicity Other
Origin USA
Pubic Hair Part shaved Part shaved
Body hair Some hair None
Breast size B
Zodiac sign Aries Virgo
Glasses
Smoker
Tattoos
Piercings

About us

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Description

Lifestyle sadist, ethical predator, philosophical libertine.


"Cade", in Three Acts.

Three things you should know if I interest you: 1. I am a sadist, 2. I am polyamorous, and 3. I am for real. The following blog post will explain why these are important if you are interested in striking up a friendship with me, or more. Above all else be aware that I value experience and truth, and am willing to prove my integrity. Trust is created for me through one's actions matching their words, and as such, must be built over time.

  1. I'm a sadist. A sadist is someone that gains pleasure from pain, typically thru inflicting. That is no less true for myself, and I use mental exploits like humiliation and objectification, as well as, physical acts like caning and needle play or cutting. I enjoy bruises and welts, and tears turn me on intensely. Of course, I have strict safety rules for play and interactions, and am constantly looking to increase my experience and knowledge in risk assessment and other safety concerns/disciplines. I belong to a community of like-minded individuals which can provide my character references, both personal and professional...and I am a member of multiple groups that participate in spreading acceptance through education of alternative relationship dynamics. If you have questions about my fetishes or background in sadism, please feel free to ask.

  2. I'm polyamorous. The literal definition for polyamory is "many loves", but I think it's better summed up as having the capacity to love and be loved by more than one person in an open and honest manner. As such, I would say it is important to know that I am in a relationship with with a female, living with me. The female is my collared submissive, being trained as my slave. she has proven her obedience and worth as a servant, and I am honored to have her in my life. Despite this, we are looking to add another submissive female to our House. I like to think I am a unique and exceptional individual, and know for sure the others in my relationship are...you will meet them if you prove yourself worthy and prospective enough that I might add you to our lives. Their safety is paramount.

  3. I'm real. The points this blog outlines are not details of role playing or the way I dream of living my life; they are the actuality and truth of my existence. This is my lifestyle...I choose to live my life by alternative methods. My lifestyle identifies and honors each of our intrinsic values as dominants or submissives that threads through every aspect of life, in the vanilla world as much as the animal kingdom. After reading all this about me all I ask is that you don't judge me. I am as human as you are and am just trying to find happiness just like you. I will be tolerant and respectful of your life choices because you have to live by them, and my choices will never effect you unless you allow them. Thank you for reading through this, I hope it is helpful in deciding your interest in me.

    The undiscovered (and elusive) 4. You. If you've really read this far in all this rabble, then you're probably wondering what I am expecting from interactions with you, what I want, or what my ideal individual is that I'd like to meet. Let's be frank, this is an online/mobile networking site designed to allow people to meet across distances. You can be anyone and anything a mind can think of and words can describe, your intelligence and mastery of this vocabulary seem crucial to being able to express yourself and your desire succinctly. Among being intelligent, I should hope that you are open and accepting to the world I may be introducing you to...however, if you are not real, that will become obvious eventually, disappointing everyone involved. Know who you are and be confident in your experiences...it's good to stop seeing mistakes negatively and identify them as chances to learn. Going to more personal considerations, you would be a submissive/masochistic female, know why you identify as such, approximately age: 25-35 and happy.

Fantasies

Our desired relationship is a poly M/f/f triad.

Forum Index


Topical Articles:

  1. Clash in Kink-Positivity: Triggers versus Fetish; www.fetish.com/community/topic/1374-clash-in-kink-positivity-triggers-versus-fetish/
  2. Community of Babel; www.fetish.com/community/topic/1440-community-of-babel/
    • (CoB) Labels are Your Friend, not Life Partner; www.fetish.com/community/topic/1461-cob-labels-are-your-friend-not-life-partner/
    • (CoB) Listen and Ask Questions; www.fetish.com/community/topic/1538-cob-listen-and-ask-questions/
  3. The Secret of S/M; www.fetish.com/community/topic/5058-the-secret-of-sm/

    Tales:

  4. A Night Out; www.fetish.com/community/topic/1586-a-night-out/
  5. The Crying Game; www.fetish.com/community/topic/1748-the-crying-game/
    • (CG) Round One; www.fetish.com/community/topic/1769-cg-round-one/
    • (CG) Round Two; www.fetish.com/community/topic/1793-cg-round-two/
    • (CG) Round Three; www.fetish.com/community/topic/1830-cg-round-three/
    • (CG) Round Four; www.fetish.com/community/topic/1954-cg-round-four/
  6. The Shoe Shine Girl; www.fetish.com/community/topic/1364-the-shoe-shine-girl/
  7. The Wolf and bunny; www.fetish.com/community/topic/1517-the-wolf-and-bunny/
  8. Third Person; www.fetish.com/community/topic/1393-third-person/
  9. "Yes"; www.fetish.com/community/topic/1711-yes/

    Poetry:

  10. Crux; www.fetish.com/community/topic/1550-crux/
  11. "I know why she cries"; www.fetish.com/community/topic/1416-i-know-why-she-cries/

Fetish.com gives you…


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Cade
icon-wio Cade made a comment
  • 07.06.2019 22:16:37
  • Male/Woman (44/28)
  • Lakeland
When a group of our members decided to meet in real life, we went along to find out more about them, their relationships and their thoughts about us!
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Cade
Cade This is fabulous! Would love to see this for meet-ups in other parts of the world, as well! This is fabulous! Would love to see this for meet-ups in other parts of the world, as well!
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Cade
icon-wio Cade has uploaded new photos
  • 18.05.2019 6:14:52
  • Male/Woman (44/28)
  • Lakeland
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Cade
icon-wio Cade found their first superhero!
  • 04.05.2019 2:10:12
  • Male/Woman (44/28)
  • Lakeland
Cade
icon-wio Cade has picked up their birthday gift
  • 10.04.2019 14:32:51
  • Male/Woman (44/28)
  • Lakeland
Cade
icon-wio Cade wrote something in the forum
  • 28.03.2019 1:26:28
  • Male/Woman (44/28)
  • Lakeland
Are dominants real?

Dominants ARE real, being a mentality that finds satisfaction in leading another through consensual means. We find that elements of D/S thread through all aspects of life, from the animal kingdom to the very vanilla business world; in one, we call them alphas, in the other, leaders. The key of all Read more… these roles though is the simple fact that there are specific behaviors to watch for (even over how much might profess how "dominant" they are). Anyone can say they are a "dominant", but if their actions contradict that, they will never be seen as a dominant - in this case, actions really do speak louder than words!

Cade
icon-wio Cade wrote something in the forum
  • 28.03.2019 1:18:43
  • Male/Woman (44/28)
  • Lakeland
Is little space considered a form of sub space

In my opinion, they are similar, but also very different, just as the focus of each role is different. They are similar in the manner you achieve the headspace from specific interactions and exchanges with others, but obviously, those specific interactions and exchanges are different for each role Read more… - where as a submissive may achieve subspace through being directed and commanded by their dominant, a little may achieve little space through acting at a younger age.
Of course, I concede that I don't actually include "daddies/mommies/littles" within BDSM, although certainly a viable fetish for some. No doubt it can cross over depending on the dynamic, itself, but on its own, I just don't see the similarities to include it inside BDSM.

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Cade
icon-wio Cade found their first superhero!
  • 25.03.2019 1:51:36
  • Male/Woman (44/28)
  • Lakeland
Cade
icon-wio Cade wrote something in the forum
  • 12.02.2019 19:54:50
  • Male/Woman (44/28)
  • Lakeland
May 19th BBB Event- Elle comes to town

Wish I could make it! Hope everyone has a blast.

Cade
icon-wio Cade wrote something in the forum
  • 25.01.2019 15:37:44
  • Male/Woman (44/28)
  • Lakeland
Subs or Doms, who has the control?

Perhaps we should reconsider the vocabulary.
The terms "control" and "power" seem too vague in this application, often meaning consent or merely self discipline (for which both the dominant AND submissive should be equal in). For the sake of this discussion, let's instead consider the term Read more… "authority", the question then becoming "Whom has the authority?" If the submissive give her authority to the dominant, than it's easy to understand the dominant is in authority - the power or right to give orders, make decisions, and enforce obedience (Google definition).

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Cade
icon-wio Cade has uploaded new photos
  • 25.01.2019 9:30:14
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  • Lakeland
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Cade
icon-wio Cade created a status update
  • 18.01.2019 6:01:18
  • Male/Woman (44/28)
  • Lakeland
Happy International Fetish Day! Perverts wear PURPLE! Let's spread awareness of positive and consensual alternative relationships, no one should live in fear of their lifestyle choice just because it doesn't fit the "norm".
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Cade
icon-wio Cade wrote something in the forum
  • 18.01.2019 2:05:20
  • Male/Woman (44/28)
  • Lakeland
How to cope with the loss of a Master?

Keep you chin up, first and foremost! Although it can feel like the end of the world with the loss of a d/s partner, I assure you, it's not. After my slave of seven years asked for her freedom to pursue an outside relationship I wouldn't condone, I thought for sure I was simply done. What I did Read more… instead was take a bit of time to myself so that I might reaccess my life and lifestyle goals. I used the time alone to improve upon myself without outside influences. I prepared myself for my next dynamic, not that it was certain there would be another, but more so that if it did, I could be in a place in which I was ready for the relationship.
Honestly, with no judgement on your previous dominant, it really seems like you weren't really getting what you needed/wanted from that dynamic, anyhow. Count yourself lucky! You had years to meet someone that couldn't seem to find the time to meet you, now you have the glorious freedom to begin again - hopefully with someone with the same priorities as you.

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Cade
icon-wio Cade has updated their desires and fantasies info
  • 17.01.2019 4:20:56
  • Male/Woman (44/28)
  • Lakeland
Our desired relationship is a poly M/f/f triad.

Forum Index

Topical Articles:

Clash in Kink-Positivity: Triggers versus Fetish; www.fetish.com/community/topic/1374-clash-in-kink-positivity-triggers-versus-fetish/
Community of Babel; Read more… www.fetish.com/community/topic/1440-community-of-babel/

(CoB) Labels are Your Friend, not Life Partner; www.fetish.com/community/topic/1461-cob-labels-are-your-friend-not-life-partner/
(CoB) Listen and Ask Questions; www.fetish.com/community/topic/1538-cob-listen-and-ask-questions/


The Secret of S/M; www.fetish.com/community/topic/5058-the-secret-of-sm/

Tales:

A Night Out; www.fetish.com/community/topic/1586-a-night-out/
The Crying Game; www.fetish.com/community/topic/1748-the-crying-game/

(CG) Round One; www.fetish.com/community/topic/1769-cg-round-one/
(CG) Round Two; www.fetish.com/community/topic/1793-cg-round-two/
(CG) Round Three; www.fetish.com/community/topic/1830-cg-round-three/
(CG) Round Four; www.fetish.com/community/topic/1954-cg-round-four/

The Shoe Shine Girl; www.fetish.com/community/topic/1364-the-shoe-shine-girl/
The Wolf and bunny; www.fetish.com/community/topic/1517-the-wolf-and-bunny/
Third Person; www.fetish.com/community/topic/1393-third-person/

"Yes"; www.fetish.com/community/topic/1711-yes/

Poetry:

Crux; www.fetish.com/community/topic/1550-crux/
"I know why she cries"; www.fetish.com/community/topic/1416-i-know-why-she-cries/
Cade
icon-wio Cade created a topic in BDSM Forum
The Secret of S/M
I do not think it is any secret that I am a sadist.
If my candid confession is in anyway misleading, then certainly the pictures and videos of my scenes should speak a thousand words to clarify eloquently. There are several probable reactions for those that observe my form of play: some people are Read more…in awe and feel inspired, while in the extreme opposite, others are abhorred and judge harshly without understanding. I am approached by individuals with compliments and appreciation of what I share, but I also feel the rebuking leers and hear the hateful whispers. Some are vastly curious and want to know more; of course, there is a common theme to the questions I receive after my public scenes: How can I be so cruel to someone I love?
Without doubt, I am cruel. I mercilessly make my partners cry and scream. I savagely bruise and rend their flesh. I meticulously push boundaries until realizations are made or I achieve my sate. I train individuals to forge past their pain threshhold, only to reward them with new, more cunning torments. I am capable of such exquisite torture, that surely even the Marquis de Sade would marvel (and maybe even take notes). Voltaire once sang, "...And I do it all for free; your tears are all the pay I'll ever need" - a profound statement that truly represents the sadist in me.
Once upon a time, my sadism confused and frightened me, though. Being a survivor of childhood trauma, I was constantly warned of repeating the cycle of abuse. I was always a bit "weird", but as my peer group reached puberty, my desires set me far apart everyone else; I couldn't share those penchants, and the closer I got to any person, the more I'd force myself into isolation to protect others from my thoughts (thoughts that aroused me). Then I made the mistake of falling in love, and suffered the ultimate conflict of protecting the person I loved from my hunger to cause them pain. Whether I was born this way or was created by my environment, the question haunted me: How could I be so cruel to someone I love?
It wasn't until I entered the BDSM public scene and met a genuinely amazing couple that I fully learned the secret of S/M: sadism and masochism can be acts of love. Speaking from the sadist's perspective, S/M interactions offer the opportunity to praise and encourage the masochist's bravery in pushing their pain threshhold. The play between a sadist and masochist can certainly be seen as quality time. In the role of sadist, I create custom scenes often taylored to the fantasies of the masochist, the more extreme feeling much like a gift (not even considering the gift of cathartic experiences). Prior to any scene, part of the sadist's service is learning and practicing with any instruments used, while gathering as much useful safety information as possible to minimize dangers to the masochist. No less important, many forms of S/M play greatly intensifies physical touch and intimacy.
Sound familiar? Those random examples are loosely based on the concept of five love languages (Gary Chapman). Although some of those instances might seem like a stretch from the original list, only the participants in any relationship can define what love means to them and how to communicate that love. With this in mind, it's easy to believe that the passion behind S/M can be an expression of love between the sadist and masochist. Which brings us back to the question: How can I be so cruel to someone I love? The answer seems simple.
My sadism is how I express my most intense love of the masochist.
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Littlefellow
Littlefellow A great post and an excellent explanation.
Not my thing and I would be hugely concerned to explore with the masochcist before I indulged in anything approaching what you do OP. Even then I am unsure I could push myself to deliver but then again we are all diferent.
I too would like to hear more Read more… about how you push boundaries but not in a bad way during a scene? This said as one for whom hard limits or indeed soft limits are never crossed in a scene. Maybe sitting down quietly and discussing them outside of scene play but never during one for me.
As you have said OP your post will scare as many away as it will intrigue a few.
LikeCade · 24.01.2019 13:58:07
Firewitch
Firewitch Cade,
I like the way you've tackled this. The ongoing responsibility to the new ones coming through the door.... idealising, fantasizing about who they think they are. You've demonstrated here your own journey and the reflection and introspection that has developed over a lifetime. I'm relentlessly bowled over by what it means to be here, still coming to terms with my own reconciliation and to witness that of others is a true privilege.
In case someone hasn't told you today, you rock
🔥 Cade,
I like the way you've tackled this. The ongoing responsibility to the new ones coming through the door.... idealising, fantasizing about who they think they are. You've demonstrated here your own journey and the reflection and introspection that has developed over a lifetime. I'm relentlessly bowled over by what it means to be here, still coming to terms with my own reconciliation and to witness that of others is a true privilege.
In case someone hasn't told you today, you rock
🔥
LikeCade · 24.01.2019 8:11:39
ElleFire
ElleFire Great post Cade - I appreciate your insight! Great post Cade - I appreciate your insight!
LikeCade · 24.01.2019 2:44:05
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