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Couple profile of: Cades-kitty

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Gender Man Woman
Age 50 35
Height 180cm 167cm
Weight 64kg 45kg
Body shape Average build Slim
Eye colour Other Green
Hair colour Black Other
Hair length Long Long
Beard Goatie
Orientation Straight Bisexual
Ethnicity Other
Origin USA
Pubic Hair Part shaved Part shaved
Body hair Some hair None
Breast size B
Zodiac sign Aries Virgo
Glasses
Smoker
Tattoos
Piercings

About us

We are looking for

We’re looking for

Description

(This profile is best viewed if read while the song in the above YouTube embed [most recent status update] is played during.)

Lifestyle sadist, ethical predator, philosophical libertine.


Just an honest opening before you actually invest time reading this profile: I'm probably not the type of individual you want to know. I'm old(er). My interests and penchants are not acceptable to others (though consensual). People may well tell you that I'm disgusting, dangerous, even that I am psychopathic. Rumor has it that I brainwash people into liking me, and I am certainly of dubious character you’d be wise to avoid.

It's very likely all true.

That being said, I am a literal sadist and human owner. I feel like you should pay special attention to that term, “literal”. Inflicting intense sensations (that I can't share here even in the simplest and most innocuous ways) is a necessity for me to reach a state of arousal. My pleasure is found in less conventional sexual interactions. Rather than fantasies of wild fuck sessions and incredible sexual conquests, my focus in this regard is to push outside comfort zones and into far more extreme activities.

My relationship dynamic is a CNC Owner/property poly triad. For the sake of transparency, I own a live-in slave (together over 14 years, branded as my property after her training in 2019). In addition, I do have several play partners part of my world in various stations, each with their unique commitments. My desired goals would be to find a second live-in masochist/submissive to also train as my slave and would be [chain-sïster] and partner to my current servant. All individuals involved are aware of one another and this goal, and each supports me in their own way.

My modality is structure and ritual driven, a variation of both PRICK and RACK ideologies. As you might have gathered, I use honest expression of my desires and intent to create shared understanding with individuals with preferred base qualities. Prospective individuals that desire to progress begin a consideration process of extensive communication and interactional observation to determine a sense of trust and integrity for no less than a year. If trust is secured by all parties, the potential is collared as my submissive in training for ownership. Training includes behavior modification, pushing thresholds, and solidifying the protocol in everyday life as well as in lifestyle environments and play spaces. This period lasts seven years after which the submissive is branded as my property in a commitment ceremony with the exchanging of our oaths. This is how one becomes my slave. Play partnerships are more based on individual considerations (though, I am currently not looking for any other play partners).

I started my own lifestyle journey as a sadist at the end of the 1990s. In these decades, I've had so many amazing experiences, had the opportunity to learn from some of the most exceptional individuals from all walks of life on a plethora of subjects, and created play and scenes that are often incredible even to myself. Impact play is my happy place - my Florentine flogging skills get me the most attention, but my use of a cane is frighteningly legendary. Mind fuckery is a big part of reaching deeper levels of participation with me, and I'm willing/capable of investing the necessary time and conscious effort to earn the trust and respect required for my desire…even despite how limitless my imagination and cruel cunning. Suffering is my love language.

I have experiences to share. Magical and sensational, dark and disturbing experiences. All you have to do is be the canvas for my art.

(If you're a racist/homophobe/transphobe or otherwise judgemental of others, little, brat, have issues being honest or making commitments, only want to role play or share fantasies, or believe “the submissive is really the one in control” then it best we don't waste either of our time.)

Forum Index


Topical Articles:

  1. Clash in Kink-Positivity: Triggers versus Fetish;
    www.fetish.com/community/topic/1374-clash-in-kink-positivity-triggers-versus-fetish/
  2. Community of Babel;
    www.fetish.com/community/topic/1440-community-of-babel/
    • (CoB) Labels are Your Friend, not Life Partner;
      www.fetish.com/community/topic/1461-cob-labels-are-your-friend-not-life-partner/
    • (CoB) Listen and Ask Questions;
      www.fetish.com/community/topic/1538-cob-listen-and-ask-questions/
  3. EARN It: The Real Gift;
    www.fetish.com/topic/14592-earn-it-the-real-gift/
  4. The Fallacy of "Easy" Submission (Or: Tiger Taming for Dummies);
    www.fetish.com/topic/15053-the-fallacy-of-easy-submission-or-tiger-taming-for-dummies/
  5. I adore my lifestyle (but I abhor your community).;
    www.fetish.com/topic/14311-i-adore-my-lifestyle-but-i-abhor-your-community/
  6. *I'm a cruel, scary sadist, and you should avoid even talking to me! (Or, the Conundrum of Vanilla Understanding En*d within the BDSM Realm.);
    www.fetish.com/topic/13957-im-a-cruel-scary-sadist-and-you-should-avoid-even-talking-to-me-or-the-conundrum-of-vanilla-understanding-en
    d-within-the-bdsm-realm/
  7. No Limits: Fact or Fiction (A Counterpoint);
    www.fetish.com/topic/13888-no-limits-fact-or-fiction-a-counterpoint/
  8. PRE-CARE: Foreplay to Leather Sex;
    www.fetish.com/topic/74446-pre-care-foreplay-to-leather-sex/
  9. The Secret of S/M;
    www.fetish.com/community/topic/5058-the-secret-of-sm/
  10. Understanding Complex Consent Dynamics and CNC;
    www.fetish.com/topic/14091-understanding-complex-consent-dynamics-and-cnc/

    Tales:

  11. ACITOREOHPARG;
    www.fetish.com/topic/156276-acitoreohparg/
  12. Alice and Her Jabberwock;
    www.fetish.com/topic/73302-alice-and-her-jabberwock/
  13. Basement;
    www.fetish.com/topic/150982-basement/
  14. [CENSORED TITLE] (retitled as Hades and Persephone);
    www.fetish.com/topic/14107-hades-and-persephone/
  15. The Crying Game;
    www.fetish.com/community/topic/1748-the-crying-game/
    • (CG) Round One;
      www.fetish.com/community/topic/1769-cg-round-one/
    • (CG) Round Two;
      www.fetish.com/community/topic/1793-cg-round-two/
    • (CG) Round Three;
      www.fetish.com/community/topic/1830-cg-round-three/
    • (CG) Round Four;
      www.fetish.com/community/topic/1954-cg-round-four/
  16. Daughter of Suffering;
    www.fetish.com/topic/66671-daughter-of-suffering/
  17. Day One;
    www.fetish.com/topic/14498-day-one/
  18. Do Not Read;
    www.fetish.com/topic/151508-do-not-read/
  19. Hot Box;
    www.fetish.com/topic/16860-hot-box/
  20. "How I want you...";
    www.fetish.com/topic/14401-how-i-want-you/
  21. A Night Out;
    www.fetish.com/community/topic/1586-a-night-out/
  22. Objectification of a Vegetarian;
    www.fetish.com/topic/13939-objectification-of-a-vegetarian/
  23. Sacre-licious;
    www.fetish.com/topic/13180-sacre-licious/
  24. The Scorpion and the Frog;
    www.fetish.com/topic/14359-the-scorpion-and-the-frog/
  25. The Shoe Shine Girl;
    www.fetish.com/community/topic/1364-the-shoe-shine-girl/
  26. Third Person;
    www.fetish.com/community/topic/1393-third-person/
  27. Throw Trash in its Proper Place [Abridged];
    www.fetish.com/topic/152612-throw-trash-in-its-proper-place-abridged/
  28. Trash;
    www.fetish.com/topic/63411-trash/
  29. The Wolf and ##Certain words (e.g. contact details or terms we don’t allow in our community) are on our blacklist. If you use one of these, it will automatically be replaced with this message.## ;
    www.fetish.com/community/topic/1517-the-wolf-and- ##Certain words (e.g. contact details or terms we don’t allow in our community) are on our blacklist. If you use one of these, it will automatically be replaced with this message.## /
  30. "Yes";
    www.fetish.com/community/topic/1711-yes/

    Poetry:

  31. Crux;
    www.fetish.com/community/topic/1550-crux/
  32. "I know why she cries";
    www.fetish.com/community/topic/1416-i-know-why-she-cries/
  33. In the Shadows;
    www.fetish.com/topic/157786-in-the-shadows/
  34. Life, Less Ordinary;
    www.fetish.com/topic/162392-life-less-ordinary/
  35. The Monster's Trap;
    www.fetish.com/topic/152096-the-monsters-trap/
  36. Must I;
    www.fetish.com/topic/154610-must-i/

Limits

CENSORSHIP is a pretty huge limit of mine.

Groups

    For lovers of the thud, the sting, and everything in between. Whether you enjoy giving or receiving, this group is your spot to explore spanking, flogging, caning, paddles, and more — with skill, consent, and a good dose of aftercare.
    Living the lifestyle full-time? This group dives into 24/7 power exchange — from protocols and rituals to balance, boundaries, and emotional care. Whether you're living it, dreaming of it, or curious about what it takes, you're welcome here.
    For those who crave the edge. From playful spanking to intense impact play, this group is for exploring how *** and pleasure blur, heighten, and connect. Come share your limits, loves, and aftercare rituals.

Fetish.com gives you…


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Cade
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Cade
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Cade
icon-wio Cade found their first icon!
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Cade
icon-wio Cade wrote something in the forum
  • 20.11.2025 21:44:57
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Is there a Dom equivalent to "good girl"?

Less of a phrase, more of an action: kissing the toe of my boot as their show of appreciation.

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Cade
icon-wio Cade has updated their profile description
  • 19.11.2025 6:02:06
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(This profile is best viewed if read while the song in the above YouTube embed [most recent status update] is played during.)

Lifestyle sadist, ethical predator, philosophical libertine.

Just an honest opening before you actually invest time reading this profile: I'm probably not the type of Read more… individual you want to know. I'm old(er). My interests and penchants are not acceptable to others (though consensual). People may well tell you that I'm disgusting, dangerous, even that I am psychopathic. Rumor has it that I brainwash people into liking me, and I am certainly of dubious character you’d be wise to avoid.

It's very likely all true.

That being said, I am a literal sadist and human owner. I feel like you should pay special attention to that term, “literal”. Inflicting intense sensations (that I can't share here even in the simplest and most innocuous ways) is a necessity for me to reach a state of arousal. My pleasure is found in less conventional sexual interactions. Rather than fantasies of wild fuck sessions and incredible sexual conquests, my focus in this regard is to push outside comfort zones and into far more extreme activities.

My relationship dynamic is a CNC Owner/property poly triad. For the sake of transparency, I own a live-in slave (together over 14 years, branded as my property after her training in 2019). In addition, I do have several play partners part of my world in various stations, each with their unique commitments. My desired goals would be to find a second live-in masochist/submissive to also train as my slave and would be [chain-sïster] and partner to my current servant. All individuals involved are aware of one another and this goal, and each supports me in their own way.

My modality is structure and ritual driven, a variation of both PRICK and RACK ideologies. As you might have gathered, I use honest expression of my desires and intent to create shared understanding with individuals with preferred base qualities. Prospective individuals that desire to progress begin a consideration process of extensive communication and interactional observation to determine a sense of trust and integrity for no less than a year. If trust is secured by all parties, the potential is collared as my submissive in training for ownership. Training includes behavior modification, pushing thresholds, and solidifying the protocol in everyday life as well as in lifestyle environments and play spaces. This period lasts seven years after which the submissive is branded as my property in a commitment ceremony with the exchanging of our oaths. This is how one becomes my slave. Play partnerships are more based on individual considerations (though, I am currently not looking for any other play partners).

I started my own lifestyle journey as a sadist at the end of the 1990s. In these decades, I've had so many amazing experiences, had the opportunity to learn from some of the most exceptional individuals from all walks of life on a plethora of subjects, and created play and scenes that are often incredible even to myself. Impact play is my happy place - my Florentine flogging skills get me the most attention, but my use of a cane is frighteningly legendary. Mind fuckery is a big part of reaching deeper levels of participation with me, and I'm willing/capable of investing the necessary time and conscious effort to earn the trust and respect required for my desire…even despite how limitless my imagination and cruel cunning. Suffering is my love language.

I have experiences to share. Magical and sensational, dark and disturbing experiences. All you have to do is be the canvas for my art.

(If you're a racist/homophobe/transphobe or otherwise judgemental of others, little, brat, have issues being honest or making commitments, only want to role play or share fantasies, or believe “the submissive is really the one in control” then it best we don't waste either of our time.)

Forum Index

Topical Articles:

Clash in Kink-Positivity: Triggers versus Fetish;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1374-clash-in-kink-positivity-triggers-versus-fetish/
Community of Babel;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1440-community-of-babel/

(CoB) Labels are Your Friend, not Life Partner;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1461-cob-labels-are-your-friend-not-life-partner/
(CoB) Listen and Ask Questions;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1538-cob-listen-and-ask-questions/

EARN It: The Real Gift;
www.fetish.com/topic/14592-earn-it-the-real-gift/
The Fallacy of "Easy" Submission (Or: Tiger Taming for Dummies);
www.fetish.com/topic/15053-the-fallacy-of-easy-submission-or-tiger-taming-for-dummies/
I adore my lifestyle (but I abhor your community).;
www.fetish.com/topic/14311-i-adore-my-lifestyle-but-i-abhor-your-community/
*I'm a cruel, scary sadist, and you should avoid even talking to me! (Or, the Conundrum of Vanilla Understanding En*d within the BDSM Realm.);
www.fetish.com/topic/13957-im-a-cruel-scary-sadist-and-you-should-avoid-even-talking-to-me-or-the-conundrum-of-vanilla-understanding-end-within-the-bdsm-realm/
No Limits: Fact or Fiction (A Counterpoint);
www.fetish.com/topic/13888-no-limits-fact-or-fiction-a-counterpoint/
PRE-CARE: Foreplay to Leather Sex;
www.fetish.com/topic/74446-pre-care-foreplay-to-leather-sex/
The Secret of S/M;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/5058-the-secret-of-sm/

Understanding Complex Consent Dynamics and CNC;
www.fetish.com/topic/14091-understanding-complex-consent-dynamics-and-cnc/

Tales:


ACITOREOHPARG;
www.fetish.com/topic/156276-acitoreohparg/
Alice and Her Jabberwock;
www.fetish.com/topic/73302-alice-and-her-jabberwock/
Basement;
www.fetish.com/topic/150982-basement/
[CENSORED TITLE] (retitled as Hades and Persephone);
www.fetish.com/topic/14107-hades-and-persephone/
The Crying Game;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1748-the-crying-game/

(CG) Round One;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1769-cg-round-one/
(CG) Round Two;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1793-cg-round-two/
(CG) Round Three;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1830-cg-round-three/
(CG) Round Four;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1954-cg-round-four/

Daughter of Suffering;
www.fetish.com/topic/66671-daughter-of-suffering/
Day One;
www.fetish.com/topic/14498-day-one/
Do Not Read;
www.fetish.com/topic/151508-do-not-read/
Hot Box;
www.fetish.com/topic/16860-hot-box/
"How I want you...";
www.fetish.com/topic/14401-how-i-want-you/
A Night Out;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1586-a-night-out/
Objectification of a Vegetarian;
www.fetish.com/topic/13939-objectification-of-a-vegetarian/
Sacre-licious;
www.fetish.com/topic/13180-sacre-licious/
The Scorpion and the Frog;
www.fetish.com/topic/14359-the-scorpion-and-the-frog/
The Shoe Shine Girl;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1364-the-shoe-shine-girl/
Third Person;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1393-third-person/
Throw Trash in its Proper Place [Abridged];
www.fetish.com/topic/152612-throw-trash-in-its-proper-place-abridged/
Trash;
www.fetish.com/topic/63411-trash/
*The Wolf and *;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1517-the-wolf-and-/

"Yes";
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1711-yes/

Poetry:

Crux;
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1550-crux/
"I know why she cries";
www.fetish.com/community/topic/1416-i-know-why-she-cries/
In the Shadows;
www.fetish.com/topic/157786-in-the-shadows/
Life, Less Ordinary;
www.fetish.com/topic/162392-life-less-ordinary/
The Monster's Trap;
www.fetish.com/topic/152096-the-monsters-trap/
Must I;
www.fetish.com/topic/154610-must-i/
Cade
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Cade
icon-wio Cade wrote something in the forum
  • 09.11.2025 17:39:56
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Kinky Week Recap

Phenomenal scene with my slave last night; I'm still floating on sado-energy to finish out my week.

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icon-wio Cade has bought a Premium-membership!
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Cade
icon-wio Cade wrote something in the forum
  • 02.11.2025 18:01:07
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Kinky Week Recap

Had a wonderful discussion with someone who has similar interests, but roles didn't meet up and we went our separate ways quite amicably. I'm counting that as a positive.

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Cade
icon-wio Cade has uploaded a new photo
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  • Cade
Cade
icon-wio Cade wrote something in the forum
  • 26.10.2025 19:51:34
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🔥 NSFW Brainstorm: Power, Control, Kinks – Let’s Build it

Extreme S/M and far edge play, both physical and mental aspects.

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icon-wio Cade wrote something in the forum
  • 19.10.2025 23:40:23
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  • Sahuarita
Any other couples struggling to find a woman?

There are a lot of complex answers to this, but I think I boils down to chemistry/connection for one person for two people can be incredibly difficult, especially if you're already someone that finds strong initial attraction rare.

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Cade
icon-wio Cade wrote something in the forum
  • 18.10.2025 19:37:36
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A question of morality

I don't think that is the "natural progression" - obviously so as that is very far from the normal. That's closer to "slippery slope" logic and "just because it is a possible outcome means it's the definite outcome". Simple truth is, if you're worried so much about an extreme outcome with less than Read more… a percentile possibility, I have to echo a lot of other people in saying that RACK culture is probably not for you, with the belief that all interactions have some inherit risk that should be identified and made aware to be accepted.
And yes, there is a problem: people wanting their moral beliefs imposed on others that don't share or consent to them is a very big problem! To this I can certainly agree as a human being and lifestyle sadist with extreme interests.
Information, experience, knowledge and wisdom isn't shared through silence anymore than learning is done through forgetting.

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Cade
icon-wio Cade wrote something in the forum
  • 18.10.2025 16:45:29
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A question of morality

Actually, to the contrary, I feel we are see more the ramifications of "sexual oppression", and the rubber band effect. I can't speak for any place but in America where we have a very puritanical view of sex (but *** is okay). This oppression has been examined by newer generations and the natural Read more… order is to rebel! So, from sexual oppression comes sexual ignorance which turned into sexual adventurism.

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