Orgasm Control

Cum closer to the edge

Do you need a partner for orgasm control?

Is orgasm control and edging the same thing?

What are the advantages of orgasm control?

Cum closer to the edge

If you enjoy being controlled in other ways, there's a good chance that you'll enjoy climax control as well; having your partner take control of your orgasms. It's a deep, primal loss of self-determination that massively enhances any kinky dynamic, and it's something that comes up in the overwhelming majority of BDSM agreements. Orgasm control takes many forms: some people use chastity devices to enforce it, while others rely on willpower alone. For many devotees it centres around the submissive partner not being allowed to climax without first asking for and being given permission by the dominant partner - and knowing that they risk punishment should they transgress.

What is orgasm control?

Simply it’s having orgasms at certain points in response to certain commands or stimulation. It can involve lots and lots of orgasms or none at all with orgasm denial

Do you need a partner for orgasm control?

It is something you can practice on your own. It’s often called edging as you bring yourself to the edge of coming and stop. Repeatedly doing this leads to amazing orgasms. You can also train yourself to have orgasms as treats for doing certain chores around the house or denying them when you do something wrong. It all counts.

Is orgasm control and edging the same thing?

Edging is part of orgasm control. It’s where you bring yourself to the brink of orgasm or your partner brings you to the point before you come and stops manipulation so you don’t come. It can be done over and over again. Sometimes ending in a spectacular orgasm once you’re allowed. There are other aspects, such as forced orgasms and using orgasms as treats which don’t count as edging.

What are the advantages of orgasm control?

It can make the eventual orgasms longer and stronger but also can create a euphoric feeling as you extend the play leading up to orgasm. It can extend the length of time you can enjoy sexual play and also adds a real spice to any D/s dynamic, letting the Dominant physically control when the sub is allowed to come.

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