Sadism

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A sadist is someone who derives sexual pleasure from causing pain to their partners - and assuming that everything is consensual and has been negotiated in advance - they can be in high demand amongst the people who love to be on the receiving end (masochists). There are plenty of different kinds of sadism, but they all thrive on one thing: the giving of consensual and well-desired pain. While many sexual sadists are also D/s dominants, this isn't a universal truth; some people are in it for the physical sensations alone without all the mind games, while others are submissives but find that they have a bit of a sadist streak on top.

What's the difference between a Dominant and a sadist?

First of all, let’s define these terms. A dominant is a person who is in control in the relationship, the top. They can be a Dom/Master or Domme/Mistress or simply the person doing the tying, flogging, etc. There is are range of ways to be dominant - see ‘What Time of Dom are You?’ in the magazine.

A sadist is a person who enjoys giving someone else pain and in most cases finds it sexually pleasing. Many times a dominant will be a sadist but not EVERY TIME! It’s a matter of personal preferences and the situation.

Where can I find a submissive kinkster?

If you’re a Dom/me and looking to inflict some discipline on a willing submissive, there are plenty of ways! Here are a few tips on finding that sub-one special.

Online: You’re off to a good start by being on Fetish.com - make a personal ad or check out others in the Quick Kink section. Fill out your profile completely so people can get to know you, it also displays trust, and therefore subs will be more likely to contact you or respond to your messages. Get active on forums and in chat rooms, share with others what you’re into, what you’d like to explore and listen to what others have to say.

Events and fetish parties: Get out there! Go to fetish clubs or bars and mingle with kinksters, live and in person. Find a theme that suits you and regularly go so that people will be familiar with you.

Workshops, munches and more: There are always conferences, workshops and munches happening. So if you’re up for improving your knotty skills go to a bondage workshop. Munches are another way to meet new people casually, and since everyone will be in vanilla-wear, you’ll talk to people to find out more about them! There are sex-positive events like storytelling nights and speed dating events that can help you get to know others.

Fetish.com has one of the fastest growing fetish events databases online so check it out!

What is sadism?

A sadist is a person who gets pleasure from inflicting pain on another person in a safe, sane and consensual manner during BDSM play.

Does a sadist need a masochist?

Pain inflicting sadists match up brilliantly with pain loving masochists but they don’t necessarily have to. A sadist can match up with all different kinds of kinksters, depending on who they get on with and the specific dynamics of that relationship.

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