Bondage

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Bondage is one of the most famous and best known aspects of S&M and BDSM play, and not without reason. Being tied up is a glorious sensation for the right person, and the control inherent in being the person doing the tying can give a dominant partner a heady rush. Ball gags are also commonly used. Sometimes bondage is there primarily to enhance a roleplay scenario; sometimes it's almost an art form, especially when it comes to rope bondage. Other times it's just to make clear the dynamic and have some fun with each other. Whatever your reasons for indulging, make sure you're doing so safely. Learn some knots that don't tighten under pressure and always keep a pair of shears to hand in case you need to release your partner in a hurry.

What is bondage? 

Tying, restraining and binding a person to exert control, to give sensation play or purely for aesthetics. There are many ways to use bondage in BDSM play some of them purely mental using no physical bonds whatsoever.

Why is bondage fun?

People enjoy different aspects of bondage. Some love the control, the person tied is at the mercy of the one who restrained them. Others love the aesthetics of how it looks, especially in practices such as shibari. Others enjoy the sensations of rope or chain or cuffs etc on skin. There are lots of ways to experiment and so lots of fun to be had.

Is there such a thing as verbal bondage?

Yes, this is when a sub is held in place simply by the dominant partner’s words. It’s completely about control. Holding the submissive in place with orders. It can be a particularly intense experience for the people involved and needs a lot of trust between all those involved.

I’m new to bondage, how do I try it safely?

The best way is to do your research. You can look at resources online, watch videos too but the best way is to get out to your local BDSM events and ask questions, observe others playing and if you can attend workshops. The basic safety rule of all restraint is to make sure you can get the tied partner out of the situation quickly in an emergency. This calls for safe words, safe actions and often a pair of shears too. Visiting BDSM dungeons and clubs will give you chance to practise with other more experienced kinksters who can show you the ropes, literally in some cases!

Where can I learn more about shibari?

Take a look at our extensive course on shibari, Japanese rope bondage at the BDSM Training School.

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