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What is chastity?
Do you have to have a chastity device?
Why should I try chastity?
What is a keyholder?
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Chastity is a very common kink and is fantasised about by many people from the perspective of both the chastener and the chaste. For Dominant types, it tends to be about control and ownership. A submissive in chastity is at the mercy of their Dominant, and can't pleasure themselves without first being freed. For the submissive, it's thrilling because it's another way of being out of control. The ability to use and touch your own body as you see fit is a fundamental thing to have removed and for many, that's an enormous turn-on. There are many kinds of chastity devices such as chastity belts and chastity cages, so experiment a little to find the right sort for you.

What is chastity?

Simply it is abstinence from sex, often in the kink community this is enforced on a sub by a Dominant, this person is often known as a keyholder. It is a very intense way to express the D/s power exchange, giving the control of sexual pleasure to the Dominant partner.

Do you have to have a chastity device?

No, although chastity cages and belts are used as symbols sometimes, there is no need for them. Chastity can be enforced by word only but there definitely needs to be a strong bond of trust for it to work and lots of honesty.If you claim to be not having orgasms and you're actually cheating, it's really not fair. You need to have the trust to tell the Dom if you've cheated and take the punishment that is dished out for disobedience.

Why should I try chastity?

Most things are better when you’ve not had them for a while. Just like when you give up something like wine, chocolate or biscuits for lent, the denial leads to more pleasure when you get to have that first sip or bite. So giving up on having orgasms for a while might just make it all the better when you actually get to come. It’s a great way to play with a D/s dynamic too, handing your climaxes to another person. It really is a high expression of trust.

What is a keyholder?

A keyholder literally holds the keys to your orgasms, they are the Dominant who locks you into your chastity device, such as a cage or a belt, and keeps that key. They physically hold the key to your orgasms.

Threads and discussions that include: Chastity

  • Chastity question?

    Deleted profile posted a topic in FemDom & Male Submission

    Is it true long term chastity can cause a penis to shrink? ...
  • A few days ago, I finally decided to get myself my first chastity cage. After being curious for over a year, I chose and ordered it. It arrived yesterday evening, and in a rush of excitement I put i ...

  • Chastity cage maintenance

    Slavematthew posted a topic in BDSM Gear & Sex Toys

    I have a stainless steel cock cage and was wondering what the best way to clean them in between uses. It looks like it is starting to get that rust yellow residue on it and some wax as well from some ...

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