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Discipline - The road to punishment

Discipline is almost universally accepted as a core component of pretty much any BDSM dynamic. For most people it's done as something that in reality is enjoyed by both participants, though there are people who get a kick out of receiving discipline and correction that they don't necessarily enjoy for itself in the moment. Most kinky discipline is physical and pain-based, but that's not the case all the time; many kinky couples use other punishment types as well or instead, such as corner time or writing lines. Certain acts of sexual service can also be used as discipline. Your safeword remains in place, of course, and negotiation and pre-consent is just as vital for these kinds of play as for any other.

What is BDSM discipline?

When a sub does something that is displeasing to their Dominant, they can choose to punish them in some way. Also, if a sub does something well, they can praise them for it. It is a way of adapting behaviour of a submissive.

Is discipline always physical?

Not always, it can be a raised voice, corner time or writing lines. Masochists, for example, would not find pain to be a deterrent but more of a reward. It could be doing certain chores as well, cleaning cutlery or ironing for example. I’m not sure anyone sees those chores as a treat!

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