I create a role to a sub that includes a personalized playlist of about an hour , I have 100s of hours of hand picked sexy music in all genres. You Wear the headphones and no speaking, I blindfold you so you have no clue what pleasure is next, then tie you up bound motionless. The next 45 min while only hearing music I will preform numerous pleasure, ***, stimulant, sensory items that can include vibrator on the clit while putting an ice cube there , followed by my warm mouth, 5 minutes later I might drop couple drops of hot wax on your belly while inserting the vibrator, the kinks are endless and the limits are respected, all individualized. This is letting your mind focus solely on what ever you find stimulating .Most don't last long so I preform edging to increase the aroused time and multiply the final climax. I've been doing this a while but open to suggestions to personalize your experience .