What's on your kink bucket list in 2023? It's not all gym memberships and fad diets – our BDSM writer Molly thinks about some fetish and BDSM play you could indulge in next year. 

 

It is that time of year when we all start to look forward to the New Year and think about what we want next. Many of us will even sit down to write a plan for the year ahead, covering topics we want to achieve professionally and personally, such as trips we want to take, events we want to go to, and people we want to see. But how many of us include kink and sex in our to-do list? Well, I am here to encourage you to do exactly that. Write a kinky plan for 2023, thinking about new things you want to try, as well as the stuff you definitely want to do again. Here are some ideas you might want to consider for your 2023 kinky bucket list. 

 

Add sensory deprivation to your kink bucket list 2023

The most common forms of sensory deprivation play are blindfolds and gags. Both hugely common within BDSM play – and for a good reason – because depriving someone of one or more of their senses can help heighten the whole experience. It also goes hand-in-hand with humiliation, bondage and impact play, so why not try expanding your sensory play game to include hearing deprivation. Two possible options include depriving someone of their hearing with some noise-cancelling headphones, or controlling exactly what they hear by making them listen to something specific. Play them some audio porn or erotic ASMR. Combine it with a blindfold and I guarantee you will take your sensory deprivation play to an entirely new and intense level.  

 

Virtual live-streaming

The pandemic has made it tricky to get out and meet kinky people IRL. Kinks like swinging or impact play events have largely been off the cards, but there are ways you can explore your kinks in a public way – virtual live-streaming. If you like the idea of watching others, this will definitely work for you. And if you are into being watched, it works for you too! My advice is to be brave and try a bit of both. Unleash your inner exhibitionist in 2023, but remember: in a safe and consensual environment. 

 

Keep a kinky diary

Keeping a diary is a common New Year’s resolution for many of us, but often it is a short-lived self promise. Journaling is a great way to order your thoughts and check in with yourself, so why not also include chronicles of your erotic life too? Depending on how much time you have, you can write something down every day, or maybe just spend an hour or so once a week to jot down kinky things that pique your interest. By the end of 2023 you will have a whole year's worth of filthy thoughts, ideas and experiences preserved. 

 

Have a threesome

Hopefully 2023 will bring more freedom to play with others, so maybe it's time to start planning that threesome you have always fantasized about. Or you have a cuckolding or cuckqueaning fantasy you would like to explore, you would like to be shared by two dominant partners. The possibilities are endless. The biggest hurdle when it comes to a threesome is usually finding the third to join you. Spend some time dating like you would if you were looking for any sort of partner, and if that does not work out then hire a professional. Sex workers are the perfect way to ensure you get exactly what you want from your threesome. 

 

Threesome

Why not have that threesome you've always been thinking about in 2023? Image: Shutterstock. 

Pegging

Pegging has become a much more widely accepted kink activity. What was once very taboo and mostly associated with with female dommes with male submissives is now a kink that spans all sorts of D/s dynamics. It seems more and more people with a prostate have discovered just how amazing it feels when stimulated. If you have never tried pegging, think about adding it to next year's bucket list. 

 

Hire a dungeon

While you may not feel comfortable attending a kinky play party due to Covid fears or playing in public, you don't have to miss out on the BDSM dungeon experience. There are numerous private dungeons that you can rent for a few hours, a whole day, or some even do overnights with a fetish bed and breakfast included. Do your research and find a BDSM dungeon that matches the kind of kink play you're looking for. 

 

Take a kinky class

Lots of fetish fairs have workshops and classes you can take, and there are also some fetish events/conferences that promote BDSM education. There are also plenty of online classes which you can attend from the comfort of your own home. In fact, we have a selection of kink classes here on Fetish.com at the BDSM Training School to try out in 2023. 
 

 What is on your kinky bucket list for the year ahead? Leave us a comment below with the kink and fetish to-dos's, and we may include some in our kink 2023 plans. 

 

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I want to fuck a girl while she’s in a fursuit

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Group sex

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To hang. From my ankle cuff upside down with two women. I’ve done it with one several times but the default part is getting them to hang on with out tearing up my tendons and ligaments. Plus they have to hang on because I thrash around wild when hanging

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Being pegged is definitely on the list

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On the bucket list.... Being forced to clean up my lovers pussy of her lovers cum
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I want to go to a sex club

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2023, Kinky Bucket list,
I want to revisit the impact play of receiving my birthday strokes by another person or persons, be a submissive bi bdsm and sexual slut for a threesome or center of a party attention , my exhibition personality wants to be in pictures of play scenes or videos. To lose my strap-on virginity by a female or females, gang banged by black male , females with strap-ons. Be in house sexual slut and finally a weekly kink journal

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I want to get peed on this year

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Sooo many things still to try….
But finding the right one to experiment with is always the challenge

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Treat a Little to a life of intense passion and fun!

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Givin 😸head on a Ferris wheel.

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To find my 'Sir' and thus myself.

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To finally finish writing my book.
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Get a paddle,

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Exploration. Bringing out the sub side more. Chastity and pegging but honestly just try more things and explore a lot

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Find a girl who really enjoys a gentle fisting and stretching…

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To try shibari for the first time

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To be a full time crossdresser and find someone who can push me even more

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To fuck her w things too

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To use a mini wand on a ladys clit and make her have multiple orgasms

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To use a mini wand on a ladys clit and make her have multiple orgasms

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Go for a gangbang

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Love hot sex

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find a online lifestyle mistress to train and own me  

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Kink was my new years resolution

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To get more of a following so I can start getting some real kinky requests also to watch my bf fuck a handsome guy as I watch
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MMF threesome with two well built dominant guys!!

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Find a girl to be all mine, in both relationship and ownership wise

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Find a pregnant girl and play with her and maybe a mistriss to play with me

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Find someone to explore my limits with x
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My wish for 2023: Find a loving and kinky relationship with someone.

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Mummification 😁😁😁

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Finding a Domme

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Pegging

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Find a loving kink relationship with someone.

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Want to be used for entertainment at a party. Probably not going to happen but one can hope.

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everything kinky is on my mind :)

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14 hours ago, Invisible71 said:

To do some kink photography

Just my like that the two ladies who like this are thousands of miles away from me. 

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I'd love to find someone I can get to know and build trust up enough to explore and switch with. I've had ideas about switching and pegging for a while now but haven't found anyone that's interested in getting to know me and one night stands don't really afford enough time to build up trust.

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To do some kink photography
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2022 will be the year that I get some kinky playtime even if it is just online for now.
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2022 will include more extreme anal training, more use of my strap ons and more dabbling into group sex. (Corona permitting). I also want to record more fetish related clips… roll on 2022 aye 🎉🤞🏽
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2022 will be the year I finally find a Mistress to serve and worship and give myself over. 

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Play partners, a cuckold relationship, a spanking until I safeword, and extended time in chastity. A cute butt to spank would be nice to find again too.

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Hopefully find someone to explore my kinks with

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I'm hoping to enjoy some rope play and learn more about the different knots and techniques!

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Bicurious and would love to explore anal stretching to see how much I can handle with a female mistress 😇

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Sex machine sessions available through me if you need to tick that off your list x

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Mummification in a hogtie position 😁
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Have somebody who's feet I can worship

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I want to explore my exhibitionist side more. I want to be OON in a group of people whipping/spanking while tied up and more!

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Hi, any Kinksters out there in the South Wales area?
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Just to lose my virginity 😦

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I want to experience close up intimacy with rubber clad people and be fucked by a dominatrix wearing rubber and a strap on

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More private parties, with people whom I especially enjoy playing with invited, rather than always opening up to anyone and everyone. Wholly public events are fun, and give something back to the community, but it's also nice to enjoy like-minded souls in a intimate environment.
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An average penis and balls are difficult to lock up.

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What is the best. As in realistic, about a male wearing a control device. Something that works.

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I want to try being a caged naked cleaner.
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To find that moody emo bratt switch into cuckolding and pegging amongst other things
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