An aesthetic that's hard to beat

For all chain lovers

Real chains don't usually have all that much of a place in BDSM, being as they are heavy and cumbersome and expensive, but that doesn't mean nobody uses them - and there's certainly an aesthetic effect to them that is hard to beat. if you'd like to try them out, have a look around your local DIY shop - they often sell chains of various weights by the metre there, and while you're in-store you can pick up a few padlocks to complete the set with!

 Why should you use chains for bondage?

Ask anyone about bondage and they’re bound to mention chains. They are heavy, cold and un-giving. They make it incredibly hard to move freely because of the weight and once secured they stay in position unlike rope which has a little give.

Psychologically being chained is strongly linked to slavery and servitude, so you manipulate your sub/bottom’s frame of mind as well as their body when chain is used.

How do you play safely with chains?

Unlike rope, you can’t cut through metal links so you need to make sure the connectors used are easy to release in case of emergency. Chains have no give in them, so don’t put them on too tight as they won’t loosen. Always have a safeword in place and release the bottom if they get intense pain, ins and needles or numbness in an area that is bound.

Do I need to buy specialist bondage chain?

No, not at all. You can buy chain from your local DIY store. Just think about the size of link for what you want to use it for and how heavy it’s going to be!

Can I use a chain just for restraint?

Chains can also be used for temperature play, as you can make them very cold by putting them in a freezer or warm by putting them in hot water (be careful not to scold anyone though) and also can be used for costumes and dressing up.

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